A midwife in the NICU told me that swaddling a baby goes against the SIDS guidelines.. which is incorrect and a midwife of all people should know better! This same midwife then went ahead and swaddled my baby.... i asked her about it and she said "sometimes it is ok".. i don't get that. But i let it go.
Another midwife at the same place told me to not cuddle my baby and never ever let my baby fall asleep in my arms. Even if he is crying, not to pick him up and cuddle him or let anyone else do it as it will make him too demanding. I did follow this advice as i didn't know better for about a week and ended up feeling so bad and deprived of my baby that i just said bugger it, now i give him all the cuddles he needs and happily let him sleep on me if i am watching a movie, same with his father doing it too. To hell with them, if i am making a mistake then so be it but my baby needs love and to know he is protected.
I feel a bit deprived now of cuddles i should have had with my bub when he was first home and sooo so young and small (he was born at 32+2)... i feel upset about it.
Before i had my baby i was told many times from my mother to just let my future baby cry and put it away in a room on it's own if i have to so i can have peace and quiet.
She also told me to just lock my future baby away in a room whether it's crying or not so i can do my own thing and forget about it. Yep she did this with me apparently, but then will tell me how much of a good baby i was - yet i needed to be locked in a room on my own... yeah she's never looking after my LO.
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