Why do people insist on ignoring me when

Lau88 · Apr 11th, 2012, 13:31 PM

I tell them not to keep holding my lo's hands or at least wash theirs first. I'm sick of hearing 'no it's fine' well actually no it's not I'm not over protective or paranoid especially since now she has bad conjunctivitis. I don't care that 'oh well her drops will clear it up' why should she have had to of caught it just coz people can't bloody leave her alone and don't care if they make her ill.

Pointless thread but people are driving me mad with the hand thing, she even moves her hands away from them and they move forward and grab them. WTF is up with people?! Arrrgh

seoj · Apr 11th, 2012, 13:50 PM

I'm sorry hun, that must be frustrating. I remember when my LO was a newborn, I would always ask people to wash up first (if they didn't do it on their own- which more often than not they would). I even made my SD take off her school clothes and wash her hands when she first got home from school for the first 3mos! LOL.

Now I don't worry about it as much- unless, obviosly, someone is sick- but really, they should know better than to come around if they are contagious.

Hope your LO is feeling better soon! Online hugs- they are the safest

Whatme · Apr 11th, 2012, 13:53 PM

I know it drives me crazy too, baby's have personal space too!! It's up to us to enforce it..

Lau88 · Apr 11th, 2012, 14:05 PM

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Originally Posted by seoj

I'm sorry hun, that must be frustrating. I remember when my LO was a newborn, I would always ask people to wash up first (if they didn't do it on their own- which more often than not they would). I even made my SD take off her school clothes and wash her hands when she first got home from school for the first 3mos! LOL.

Now I don't worry about it as much- unless, obviosly, someone is sick- but really, they should know better than to come around if they are contagious.

Hope your LO is feeling better soon! Online hugs- they are the safest

Thanks I'll pass them on to her lol. She's 6 months so not even a new born but people have jut got worse. Mil has a thing about wiping her mouth then rubbing lo's hands and wonders why I get 'pissy'

Lau88 · Apr 11th, 2012, 14:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Whatme

I know it drives me crazy too, baby's have personal space too!! It's up to us to enforce it..

Glad I'm not alone

Leeze · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:09 PM

That sounds really irritating! I've not really had that with LO although too many random strangers want to stroke her face, which I think is totally out of order. Grr

leahsmummy443 · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:42 PM

Urrrgghhhhh I am sooooo with u... I hate people touching her hands.. She chomps in her hands allll the time now with teething and jut general baby hand sucking and I just hate hate hate when people touch her hands!!!! Just don't do it!! Oh thinks I'm a bit over dramatic but I just don't know why people can't just look and talk to but not touch!!! Why must they touch?? There's no need!! When I pick my dd up from school and have ko in the pushchair some of my friends kids come and touch her hands and face and I have to bite my tongue so as not to flip out!! I just say Shea tryig to take a nap an shoo them away, lol, imagine how icky kids hands are after a full day at school!!! Eeek!
U are definately not alone.. I feel it important i am lo's voice to ensure her personal space is respected

x

seoj · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Lau88

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Originally Posted by seoj

I'm sorry hun, that must be frustrating. I remember when my LO was a newborn, I would always ask people to wash up first (if they didn't do it on their own- which more often than not they would). I even made my SD take off her school clothes and wash her hands when she first got home from school for the first 3mos! LOL.

Now I don't worry about it as much- unless, obviosly, someone is sick- but really, they should know better than to come around if they are contagious.

Hope your LO is feeling better soon! Online hugs- they are the safest

Thanks I'll pass them on to her lol. She's 6 months so not even a new born but people have jut got worse. Mil has a thing about wiping her mouth then rubbing lo's hands and wonders why I get 'pissy'

Maybe start wiping LO's hands off with a wipe when she does this... maybe she'll eventually "get the point"- LOL.

Truly, people need to respect your wishes as the parent. Period. I know my LO puts her hands in her mouth ALL THE TIME! When she's tired she'll suck on her hand for a bit before going to sleep. We've been lucky she hasn't gotten sick yet... so maybe that is partly why I don't worry about it too much anymore? I just make sure to use common sense. But if someone got her sick because they toched her- I would be none too happy! Grrrrr....

Best of luck

creatingpeace · Apr 11th, 2012, 16:33 PM

It always makes me feel awkward to have to tell people. I have a young niece and nephew who will wait until my sister os holding the baby and then ask "Mom can I hold Avery" which is nice and all but it bothers me as I should be asked and I feel sis should direct them to ask me, and then further direct them to wash their hands. Bugs me, always has. I hate being put in an awkward situation having to ask people to be clean. I am glad he is slightly older now and I worry much less, but STILL PEOPLE!!!

BandK · Apr 11th, 2012, 16:41 PM

Can agree with all you ladies it is so frustrating!

I just tell him how would you like it if I came up to you and touched your face and you have NO IDEA when the last time I washed my hands... Or I hold your hand and then you suck on your fingers NOT knowing if I peed on my hands and didnt wash them! (yuck), but come'on!

Apr 11th, 2012, 13:31 PM	#1
Lau88 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: south east England Posts: 1,034	Why do people insist on ignoring me when I tell them not to keep holding my lo's hands or at least wash theirs first. I'm sick of hearing 'no it's fine' well actually no it's not I'm not over protective or paranoid especially since now she has bad conjunctivitis. I don't care that 'oh well her drops will clear it up' why should she have had to of caught it just coz people can't bloody leave her alone and don't care if they make her ill. Pointless thread but people are driving me mad with the hand thing, she even moves her hands away from them and they move forward and grab them. WTF is up with people?! Arrrgh

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Apr 11th, 2012, 13:50 PM	#2
seoj Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 8,685	I'm sorry hun, that must be frustrating. I remember when my LO was a newborn, I would always ask people to wash up first (if they didn't do it on their own- which more often than not they would). I even made my SD take off her school clothes and wash her hands when she first got home from school for the first 3mos! LOL. Now I don't worry about it as much- unless, obviosly, someone is sick- but really, they should know better than to come around if they are contagious. Hope your LO is feeling better soon! Online hugs- they are the safest

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Apr 11th, 2012, 13:53 PM	#3
Whatme Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 495	I know it drives me crazy too, baby's have personal space too!! It's up to us to enforce it..

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Apr 11th, 2012, 15:09 PM	#6
Leeze Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: London Posts: 2,913	That sounds really irritating! I've not really had that with LO although too many random strangers want to stroke her face, which I think is totally out of order. Grr

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Apr 11th, 2012, 15:42 PM	#7
leahsmummy443 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 455	Urrrgghhhhh I am sooooo with u... I hate people touching her hands.. She chomps in her hands allll the time now with teething and jut general baby hand sucking and I just hate hate hate when people touch her hands!!!! Just don't do it!! Oh thinks I'm a bit over dramatic but I just don't know why people can't just look and talk to but not touch!!! Why must they touch?? There's no need!! When I pick my dd up from school and have ko in the pushchair some of my friends kids come and touch her hands and face and I have to bite my tongue so as not to flip out!! I just say Shea tryig to take a nap an shoo them away, lol, imagine how icky kids hands are after a full day at school!!! Eeek! U are definately not alone.. I feel it important i am lo's voice to ensure her personal space is respected x

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Apr 11th, 2012, 16:33 PM	#9
creatingpeace Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Muskoka, Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,276	It always makes me feel awkward to have to tell people. I have a young niece and nephew who will wait until my sister os holding the baby and then ask "Mom can I hold Avery" which is nice and all but it bothers me as I should be asked and I feel sis should direct them to ask me, and then further direct them to wash their hands. Bugs me, always has. I hate being put in an awkward situation having to ask people to be clean. I am glad he is slightly older now and I worry much less, but STILL PEOPLE!!!

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Apr 11th, 2012, 16:41 PM	#10
BandK Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: BC, Canada Posts: 260	Can agree with all you ladies it is so frustrating! I just tell him how would you like it if I came up to you and touched your face and you have NO IDEA when the last time I washed my hands... Or I hold your hand and then you suck on your fingers NOT knowing if I peed on my hands and didnt wash them! (yuck), but come'on!

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