Why do people think they can give my baby milk!

babyhopes2010 · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:16 PM

argh this really annoys me!

I tried bf and struggled it didnt work out and im gutted..........infact more than gutted

There for i feel i should feed LO being her mummy.Ok, im only able to feed her formula but still its my job to feed her.i let DH give her bottle sometimes as he likes to.

But nearly everyone that comes around expects to be able to give her bottle. well if i was breastfeeding they wouldnt be sat there holding my breast so why do they assume feeding her is ok. its a special bond and people look at my crazy when i tell them now.

is this unreasonable?

LJaydow · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:27 PM

It used to annoy me too when I was at home shortly coming out of hospital and everyone wanting to feed LO. I saw it as a bonding time for us, particularly as BF didnt work out for me and I was expressing. It was the best I could do!

mummyruston · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:31 PM

Absolutely!! I bf and love the special bond we have so I can totally understand that it should be just mummy and LO...

Lau88 · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:32 PM

Not unreasonable at all. People drive me crazy with acting like babies are public property to do with as they please

Cutieboy · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:33 PM

I combi feed. I know how annoying it is. My MIL who we live with doesn't even ask if she can feed him, she just makes bottle and feeds him. Hate it.

seoj · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:34 PM

I don't have issue with it when someone wants to feed my LO- BUT, it doesn't happen that often really. Plus, I think people like to do it cause they enjoy that bond as well. But if it bothered me, I would just say something. That is your right as the Mom! I don't have anyone pushing to feed her though (other than my hubby and occassionally my SD

hehe- otherwise my Mom might ask sometimes as she doesn't get to see her too often. Sometimes I'll ask her if she wants to feed her, cause I know she enjoys it!

I do work full time though- so MIL (who provides care) feeds her during the day. So our morning routine is just that more special to me-- as well, I love being the one to feed her right before bed. Although hubby enjoys it too- But my LO also still feeds every 2-3 hrs- so plenty to go around

seoj · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:39 PM

P.S. So sorry BF didn't work out for you hun. It's such a struggle (I dealt with it myself and had many meltdowns over it for weeks!)- another reason it's understandable you'd want that time just you and LO...

People should respect whatever YOU decide is OK... Period.

ellie27 · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:42 PM

I dont really undedrstand it....

This LO is breastfed but my first wasnt - I loved it when folk who came around said they would like to give her the bottle - gave me a break!! People like giving a baby a bottle - its a lovely feeling giving a little baby its milk!

Mindy_mini · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:47 PM

Personally it was the only way I was able to deal with bf not working for us - being able to pass lo to dh, nanny/granddad etc to give me a rest tbh.

But I can understand your frustration that people expect to be able to.

mummyruston · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Cutieboy

I combi feed. I know how annoying it is. My MIL who we live with doesn't even ask if she can feed him, she just makes bottle and feeds him. Hate it.

That's damn right rude!!!

Apr 11th, 2012, 15:16 PM	#1
babyhopes2010 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Ellon,Aberdeenshire Posts: 15,861	Why do people think they can give my baby milk! argh this really annoys me! I tried bf and struggled it didnt work out and im gutted..........infact more than gutted There for i feel i should feed LO being her mummy.Ok, im only able to feed her formula but still its my job to feed her.i let DH give her bottle sometimes as he likes to. But nearly everyone that comes around expects to be able to give her bottle. well if i was breastfeeding they wouldnt be sat there holding my breast so why do they assume feeding her is ok. its a special bond and people look at my crazy when i tell them now. is this unreasonable?

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Apr 11th, 2012, 15:27 PM	#2
LJaydow Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: London, UK Posts: 1,192	It used to annoy me too when I was at home shortly coming out of hospital and everyone wanting to feed LO. I saw it as a bonding time for us, particularly as BF didnt work out for me and I was expressing. It was the best I could do!

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Apr 11th, 2012, 15:31 PM	#3
mummyruston Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 1,189	Absolutely!! I bf and love the special bond we have so I can totally understand that it should be just mummy and LO...

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Apr 11th, 2012, 15:32 PM	#4
Lau88 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: south east England Posts: 1,046	Not unreasonable at all. People drive me crazy with acting like babies are public property to do with as they please

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Apr 11th, 2012, 15:33 PM	#5
Cutieboy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: UK Posts: 240	I combi feed. I know how annoying it is. My MIL who we live with doesn't even ask if she can feed him, she just makes bottle and feeds him. Hate it.

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Apr 11th, 2012, 15:34 PM	#6
seoj Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 8,740	I don't have issue with it when someone wants to feed my LO- BUT, it doesn't happen that often really. Plus, I think people like to do it cause they enjoy that bond as well. But if it bothered me, I would just say something. That is your right as the Mom! I don't have anyone pushing to feed her though (other than my hubby and occassionally my SD hehe- otherwise my Mom might ask sometimes as she doesn't get to see her too often. Sometimes I'll ask her if she wants to feed her, cause I know she enjoys it! I do work full time though- so MIL (who provides care) feeds her during the day. So our morning routine is just that more special to me-- as well, I love being the one to feed her right before bed. Although hubby enjoys it too- But my LO also still feeds every 2-3 hrs- so plenty to go around

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Apr 11th, 2012, 15:39 PM	#7
seoj Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 8,740	P.S. So sorry BF didn't work out for you hun. It's such a struggle (I dealt with it myself and had many meltdowns over it for weeks!)- another reason it's understandable you'd want that time just you and LO... People should respect whatever YOU decide is OK... Period.

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Apr 11th, 2012, 15:42 PM	#8
ellie27 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: uk Posts: 10,560	I dont really undedrstand it.... This LO is breastfed but my first wasnt - I loved it when folk who came around said they would like to give her the bottle - gave me a break!! People like giving a baby a bottle - its a lovely feeling giving a little baby its milk!

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Apr 11th, 2012, 15:47 PM	#9
Mindy_mini Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 2,080	Personally it was the only way I was able to deal with bf not working for us - being able to pass lo to dh, nanny/granddad etc to give me a rest tbh. But I can understand your frustration that people expect to be able to.

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