Really, it depends on the day... There are days I'll do more, as I have more time and visa versa with hubby. I usually get LO up in the mornings, as I leave for work later than hubby and have time to get her ready before my MIL comes over to watch her. But there are some mornings I'll be up early at the gym and LO will wake up early so hubby get's her ready for the day before I get home.

During the weekdays she is watched by my MIL- so when hubby and I get home, around the same time, we split the house work and care for LO. He does his own laundry and so does my SD (she also keeps her room clean and her bathroom too)- so I only do mine and LO's (but they help when needed)- as for other household stuff- I do tend to do more, they do help and do their part- but I am a bit OCD when it comes to things being clean and organized, so I just kinda take on more myself... but if I ever ask Hubby or SD to do anything more, they will

As for LO care- I probably do more than hubby- by choice. I love putting her to bed at night so I typically do that more often. But he'll step in and do it too- or there are nights I just need a little moment to myself so I'll go upstairs for a bath and some TV (uninterupted! LOL) and he'll watch LO. My SD helps out too- as she's almost 15 and will watch LO for a bit downstairs if hubby or I need to take care of things around the house etc... she enjoys helping with her sister, but usually not for long! LOL. She's a busy girl and usually has her own stuff to do or places to go etc...

Really, I say it's 50/50ish- haha... with there being times I'll do more or hubby will do more etc. But overall we all do our part, as we are all part of this Family

Well, the "plan" was 50/50, OH and I both like the 2 incomes and agreed on splitting chores. With my OH, I quickly learned that he just will NOT do anything around the house unless I flat out tell him/ask him to do it, then he is more than happy to do it. I've tried everything else but the only thing that works is telling him each night what he needs to do (he says I have to nag him, other men hate nagging. funny). So just now he is starting to actually think to check the laundry or dishes once in awhile on his own without being reminded. Baby steps, lol...

UGH I need help on this! I work two 12 hour days and my OH works three 12 hours nights. It is so hecktic and I can't afford daycare. It is $200 a week! How am i supposed to afford that. On top of it all I am taking online classes so I feel super stressed. Then I have to go back to nursing school in the fall.

PS. I am super jealous of you ladies that get a whole year off with your LO!

Thanks for all of your experiences and advice. We are aiming for 50:50 as well on the days that I work as we will both be doing long days so I only think that is fair. But I know that as I have been the person with our son all the time that I will probably take on more responsibility as I naturally do things.

I really appreciate everyones responses and help. x

I'm going back next week so I'll let you know

I go back 3 days a week, the other 4 I have her, she's going to nursery 2 days and OH is having her one day.

The nursery days I will be dropping her off both days, picking her up one and DH will pick her up the other as I work late.

When I go full time from August, I will be dropping her off and picking her up the 4 days a week she is in nursery.

I think it'll probably be a 70:30 split tbh.

I'm hoping we'll split it 50/50. I started back at work on Thursday so tomorrow will be the start of my first full week, I'm only doing Mon - Thurs though and OH will work Fri - Sun, He works longer hours than me though.

OH has been full time whilst I've been on mat leave and I always cook etc when he's been at work so I expect he'll do the same for me, I'll be getting home about 2 hours earlier than he has though so if I end up cooking it won't be the end of the world, although when I got in on Thursday LO jumped on one boob and I had to pump the other so not much chance to make it to the kitchen, won't be able to use that excuse forever though

I guess with the housework it'll be whoever is home when something needs doing, we don't have any particular routine so there's no pressure to stick to a certain way of doing things, having said that I've just spent this weekend making sure all the washing is washed, dried and put away so he doesn't have to do it, but only because I'd rather it's done my way and not using half a bottle of fabric softener.

The only thing I'll probably keep doing by myself is the shopping but I don't mind because I'd probably only moan he'd bought the wrong thing, plus we do our big shop online so it's not much bother.