I want to begin by saying that I love my LO very, very, very much and I wouldnt change my new life for nothing, she means everything and more to me!!!!!
Now let me get to the bit that is making me feel sad tonight.....
......My friends are the same bunch that my sister and me hang about with, well I used to as they are all baby free, well Im at my mums where they all are with my sister getting ready for a big night out, they are having lots to drink, look fabulous as always and are so excited about the night (something I used to always do) they invited me after DD was born for the first few weekends but now they dont bother asking, they dont bother with me at all really anymore!!!
......Then my OH came up to my mums before he heads out to go to his darts championship competition, and he has been drinking loads since lunchtime so he is a bit drunk, when his taxi arrived he just rushed off happy as Larry about getting out to his friends and to have a night of drinking!!!!!
Im sitting in tonight with my gorgeous LO and I feel so sad because I have no one left, all my friends/sister and OH are all out having a ball!!!!!!!
Unfortunatley, it happens quite often that all your old friends (especially the childless ones) quite calling and coming around when you have a new a baby. I know this isn't the case for everyone but sadly, it can drive a wedge between some friends. Becoming a mom really does change you. That youthful fun loving side is still there but it is sometimes hard for others to see it and harder for you to be able to express it.
I don't really have any close friends where I live either and my family live further away too. It gets me down sometimes but like you say, our love for our LO's keeps us going and I'm also trying really hard now to make some new friends through baby groups etc with like-minded people.
i know how feel, my lo is 6 weeks and although i love her i need a night out where i get dressed up and have a few drinks maybe even go dancin with the girls some times i miss my pre pregancy life even though i wouldn change my life not for anyting
I just said to dh earlier that we needed a night out, we haven't been out in like 11 months. It was about a couple weeks before my bfp that we were last out, and I just need 1 night. I love my little man to death, he is my world... But just one night would be great
I don't actually have any friends who live nearby, so I can't comment on feeling left out. But I can understand how much it would hurt. But hope you feel better soon.
I've not been out for a year or so and even that wasn't a real night out, just a work meal for OH. My last proper night out was 17 months ago!
But I don't actually feel like going out yet. I can understand how you feel though
could you not have asked your mum to watch LO for a few hours so you have gone with them? xx
no I wouldnt feel comfortable leaving my LO yet I have only let my OH take her to a shop 20 minutes from the house for the first time the other day and I worried that he would leave her at the shop lol I wouldnt enjoy it when I would leave her because I would worry the whole night
I left my LO once at 6 weeks, me and DH went to the movies to see the hunger games. Missed him so much, and was worried, and talked about him alot I still had a good time, and it really refreshed me. One thing is, you can always count on your mom, she raised you and your still alive
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