I have to agree with Kristin, it screams flight risk to me, biological or not, why give this bully access to your child, just because he provided the seed doesn't mean he will turn over a new leaf and become a model father, why take the risk? Once done can't be undone!

i dont nessecarily agree but to each their own.

Thank you.
As I've said, biological or not it's whose been there and he hasn't.
he doesn't want to be a father, I smell a sick twisted little game to make her look like the bad person who doesn't let him see "his" child.

Hell no. You can't trust people like that. I would fall over dead before I let that happen if I were in that same situation.

You just can't trust it.

You don't need to agree. I'm talking about where I'm from.
you're not from here. So you'll never know.

:\ no need to be so passive agressive. i was talking about the 'it should be like that everywhere'.

Oopsie. I guess I'm just starting to see red with this discussion in general.
I feel my way, others feel their own way. As you've said to each their own.

I agree with that last sentence. However maybe he should be given one chance to be in her life, for the baby´s sake. Perhaps he will be a better father than he was a boyfriend. And always under supervision. Chances are he would get tired of it, and at least the OP can say she did her part.

Personally if that had of been done to me I would have signed what it was that meant he took nothing to do with the child and given it to my solicitor. That way I would have some sort of back up as what normally happens is the dad comes around when he knows baby is born and has a think about it. Theres a lot we dont know about this man, when the poster says he is evil and sounds a right dick I am sure she has good reason to think that and good reason to keep child away. The dad of this child is the dad who raised this child and I think she said she met someone at 14 weeks ? but sadly courts wont see all that if it goes that far. And this is the start of it, weather you run or face him he will be there, always coming after you. I wouldnt want to run from him, you would be paranoid all the time and it wouldnt look great down on record either. face him and go through the legal way, dosnt look good he was absent the whole pregnancy on his end so you got something. He isnt on the birth cert I assume to. But he will have to pay surely now for his child wont he? CSA? get in on that to. And make visits see how it goes, supervised ones.

I think I'm just going to leave it for a bit...he doesn't sound desperate to see her, like I said I think it's curiosity.
I understand everyone's opinions but I actually don't think he's that interested!

But I think as a mother I'm so protective over that little girl and I just think she's got a perfect family here and I don't really want him to hurt her.
He was violent to me and alway said if he had children he'd smack them
Etc and he's got a very short temper so I just couldn't risk anything!

If he keeps nagging he might get a pic but if he wants more then he will have to take it further, even the midwives were concerned about him!

I guess we'll see and I will just carry on as normal

goodluck darling.
remember you're her mother, you know what's best for her.