Baby or get married??

milf2be · Apr 14th, 2012, 14:41 PM

just wanted your opinions and what you would do in my position

i need to wait for OH to ask first btw

, but im very undecided about what to do first. We want around a 2 year age gap between babies, but that would mean TTC october on wards....i did want to get married before another baby as im worried it will be harder to save money. i want to do it in the summer which would mean august next year really (but that would mean he would have to ask soon so i could get planning and saving!!) and if we couldnt do it the year after which mean it would be another years age gap. i dont want to be a pregnant bride.

Amygdala · Apr 14th, 2012, 14:44 PM

Personally I would just talk to him. Point out the timings and see what he says. Seems like next August would be an ideal time for you?

**AtomicPink** · Apr 14th, 2012, 14:45 PM

I was a pregnant bride, and I love how my photos tell a tale, but if I could go back I'd rather have married then had Tori . I'm not
quite sure why, it may be just a personal preference. I am happy either way though.
Edit: scrap that, had a rethink... Marriage after the second, for photos sake lol!

LeeLouClare · Apr 14th, 2012, 14:53 PM

I loved being a pregnant bride

milf2be · Apr 14th, 2012, 15:01 PM

i would just like to say i have nothing against being a pregnant bride, but i know the style of dress i want (corset top) and there's no way i could wear that pregnant :P

Jokerette · Apr 14th, 2012, 15:31 PM

I think if it was your first I'd wait until afer the wedding so you could do a honeymoon and have some time married without kids, but since you already have kids then Id say go with whatever time table works better depending on when he proposes

aliss · Apr 14th, 2012, 15:35 PM

How old are you? I think if I was younger, I'd do the wedding first. Now that I'm pushing the 30's, I'd want the kids first. The older the kid, the easier the honeymoon (easier to leave with family) so I'd get married first if I was younger. Depends on the person but I'm certainly not bringing a kid on my honeymoon, no thanks!!

RSVP to my wedding in..... 2020. I've been engaged for years lol

milf2be · Apr 14th, 2012, 16:07 PM

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Originally Posted by aliss

How old are you? I think if I was younger, I'd do the wedding first. Now that I'm pushing the 30's, I'd want the kids first. The older the kid, the easier the honeymoon (easier to leave with family) so I'd get married first if I was younger. Depends on the person but I'm certainly not bringing a kid on my honeymoon, no thanks!!

RSVP to my wedding in..... 2020. I've been engaged for years lol

im 22

yes i was thinking for honey moon a weekend away and then a holiday with LO

2ndtimeluckyX · Apr 14th, 2012, 17:00 PM

I think seeing as how you already have one lo and also planning a second I personally would wait so I could have both children included in the big day. I don't know why but I would feel sad for the one that wasn't there lol!
We married before having lo so honeymooning wasn't a problem.
If I were you I would start saving money now if you think that would be difficult to do after having baby #2

don't wait for him to ask! That way when he does ask you will be prepared

Kaede351 · Apr 14th, 2012, 17:51 PM

I got married 3 years ago (well... 3 years in August lol), we started ttc about 2 months before the wedding, but I wanted to be married before we had children. Not only am I old fashioned (lol), but to me it proves a commitment. I think in a way getting married is more of a commitment to a man than having children, they just don't seem to think like we do lol.

But I agree with what others have said, talk to your OH about it and see what he says

XxX

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Apr 14th, 2012, 14:41 PM	#1
milf2be Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: birmingham Posts: 1,842	Baby or get married?? just wanted your opinions and what you would do in my position i need to wait for OH to ask first btw , but im very undecided about what to do first. We want around a 2 year age gap between babies, but that would mean TTC october on wards....i did want to get married before another baby as im worried it will be harder to save money. i want to do it in the summer which would mean august next year really (but that would mean he would have to ask soon so i could get planning and saving!!) and if we couldnt do it the year after which mean it would be another years age gap. i dont want to be a pregnant bride.

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AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 27,322	I was a pregnant bride, and I love how my photos tell a tale, but if I could go back I'd rather have married then had Tori . I'm not quite sure why, it may be just a personal preference. I am happy either way though. Edit: scrap that, had a rethink... Marriage after the second, for photos sake lol!

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LeeLouClare Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: lincoln Posts: 2,226	I loved being a pregnant bride

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milf2be Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: birmingham Posts: 1,842	i would just like to say i have nothing against being a pregnant bride, but i know the style of dress i want (corset top) and there's no way i could wear that pregnant :P

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Amygdala Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,374	Personally I would just talk to him. Point out the timings and see what he says. Seems like next August would be an ideal time for you?

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Jokerette Waiting To Try (WTT) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Massachusetts, USA Posts: 2,247	I think if it was your first I'd wait until afer the wedding so you could do a honeymoon and have some time married without kids, but since you already have kids then Id say go with whatever time table works better depending on when he proposes

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aliss AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Québec Posts: 24,350	How old are you? I think if I was younger, I'd do the wedding first. Now that I'm pushing the 30's, I'd want the kids first. The older the kid, the easier the honeymoon (easier to leave with family) so I'd get married first if I was younger. Depends on the person but I'm certainly not bringing a kid on my honeymoon, no thanks!! RSVP to my wedding in..... 2020. I've been engaged for years lol

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2ndtimeluckyX Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Wrexham, North Wales Posts: 2,450	I think seeing as how you already have one lo and also planning a second I personally would wait so I could have both children included in the big day. I don't know why but I would feel sad for the one that wasn't there lol! We married before having lo so honeymooning wasn't a problem. If I were you I would start saving money now if you think that would be difficult to do after having baby #2 don't wait for him to ask! That way when he does ask you will be prepared

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Apr 14th, 2012, 17:51 PM	#10
Kaede351 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: County Durham Posts: 8,041	I got married 3 years ago (well... 3 years in August lol), we started ttc about 2 months before the wedding, but I wanted to be married before we had children. Not only am I old fashioned (lol), but to me it proves a commitment. I think in a way getting married is more of a commitment to a man than having children, they just don't seem to think like we do lol. But I agree with what others have said, talk to your OH about it and see what he says XxX

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