I completely forgot how hard this is!!

steph1505 · Apr 14th, 2012, 15:54 PM

Does anyone else feel like that?

We already have DS1 who will be 3 in August so we thought we would be completely fine when DS2 arrived! We didnt think we would experience any of that uncertainty or anxiety that came with the birth of DS1...but we are!!

Did anyone else completely forget just how hard the first few weeks are? I forgot all about the stress of not knowing why they are crying or trying to guess if they are hungry or have wind!!

DS2 is only 6 days old so we are still trying to get to know him but jeeeez!! What a wake up call its been!! Lol we r definitely not experts at this!

I know this is a bit of a pointless thread but just wondered if any other 2nd time parents felt the same?

Xxxxx

mrsthomas623 · Apr 14th, 2012, 20:22 PM

Yep! My DS isn't even two and I have forgotten everything!

mumnbean · Apr 14th, 2012, 20:29 PM

They just grow so fast don't they!

LockandKey · Apr 14th, 2012, 21:13 PM

this scares me too. I can't say I completely understand where you are coming from, but I do understand your fear. I really want more children, and being pregnant and having a new life is exciting and all, but I often wonder how the heck I am going to do all that all over again AND take care of a toddler at the same time

lucy_lu10 · Apr 15th, 2012, 02:17 AM

I know how you're feeling!!
DS1 was 22 months when DS2 arrived and omg, our world turned upside down for about 2 weeks!! lol I didn't experience the same anxiety/confusion as I did with DS1 but I had completely forgotten how much newborns can cry and how hard nursing can be!! The breastfeeding really threw me off because I nursed DS1 until he was 17 months and figured "ha I'm a pro at this!". How wrong was I?! It took several weeks for DS2 and I to fall into a nice pattern.

Scary thing is that DS2 is 4 months now and all the chaos from the first month is a bit foggy now. I wish it stuck out a bit more so that I wouldn't already be thinking ahead to future babies!!! haha

steph1505 · Apr 15th, 2012, 02:46 AM

Lol they really do grow so fast!! I used to think DS1 was still my baby...but DS2s arrival has shown me just how grown up he actually is!

Me and OH both wanted 4 kids but were thinkin of callin it a day at 2! Altho, i bet when DS2 is a toddler, we start to change our mind haha!!

Xxxxx

misstrouble · Apr 15th, 2012, 06:01 AM

I had my 3rd after a 6 year gap and thought it would be a breeze!! It hit me like a ton of bricks lol

ellie27 · Apr 15th, 2012, 12:08 PM

Congrats on your newest arrival!!

I was the same when no2 arrived, although there is under 2 years of a gap.

Within a couple of months you will be sailing.

Breastfeeding no2, while trying to look after a toddler was the most difficult part, now 5 months on things are all great!!!

Congrats!

steph1505 · Apr 16th, 2012, 12:57 PM

Thanks!!

Its nice to know that im not the only one who struggled!!

I really hope we do settle into things soon! We seem to have good and bad days! But i know im being impatient...hes only 8 days old!

Xxxxxx

Apr 14th, 2012, 15:54 PM	#1
steph1505 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Paisley Posts: 2,194	I completely forgot how hard this is!! Does anyone else feel like that? We already have DS1 who will be 3 in August so we thought we would be completely fine when DS2 arrived! We didnt think we would experience any of that uncertainty or anxiety that came with the birth of DS1...but we are!! Did anyone else completely forget just how hard the first few weeks are? I forgot all about the stress of not knowing why they are crying or trying to guess if they are hungry or have wind!! DS2 is only 6 days old so we are still trying to get to know him but jeeeez!! What a wake up call its been!! Lol we r definitely not experts at this! I know this is a bit of a pointless thread but just wondered if any other 2nd time parents felt the same? Xxxxx

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mrsthomas623 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Ohio, US Posts: 4,163	Yep! My DS isn't even two and I have forgotten everything!

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mumnbean Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 1,353	They just grow so fast don't they!

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LockandKey Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: West Virginia Posts: 3,731	this scares me too. I can't say I completely understand where you are coming from, but I do understand your fear. I really want more children, and being pregnant and having a new life is exciting and all, but I often wonder how the heck I am going to do all that all over again AND take care of a toddler at the same time

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lucy_lu10 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: BC, Canada Posts: 1,167	I know how you're feeling!! DS1 was 22 months when DS2 arrived and omg, our world turned upside down for about 2 weeks!! lol I didn't experience the same anxiety/confusion as I did with DS1 but I had completely forgotten how much newborns can cry and how hard nursing can be!! The breastfeeding really threw me off because I nursed DS1 until he was 17 months and figured "ha I'm a pro at this!". How wrong was I?! It took several weeks for DS2 and I to fall into a nice pattern. Scary thing is that DS2 is 4 months now and all the chaos from the first month is a bit foggy now. I wish it stuck out a bit more so that I wouldn't already be thinking ahead to future babies!!! haha

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Apr 15th, 2012, 02:46 AM	#6
steph1505 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Paisley Posts: 2,194	Lol they really do grow so fast!! I used to think DS1 was still my baby...but DS2s arrival has shown me just how grown up he actually is! Me and OH both wanted 4 kids but were thinkin of callin it a day at 2! Altho, i bet when DS2 is a toddler, we start to change our mind haha!! Xxxxx

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Apr 15th, 2012, 06:01 AM	#7
misstrouble Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: London Posts: 478	I had my 3rd after a 6 year gap and thought it would be a breeze!! It hit me like a ton of bricks lol

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Apr 15th, 2012, 12:08 PM	#8
ellie27 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: uk Posts: 10,557	Congrats on your newest arrival!! I was the same when no2 arrived, although there is under 2 years of a gap. Within a couple of months you will be sailing. Breastfeeding no2, while trying to look after a toddler was the most difficult part, now 5 months on things are all great!!! Congrats!

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Apr 16th, 2012, 12:57 PM	#9
steph1505 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Paisley Posts: 2,194	Thanks!! Its nice to know that im not the only one who struggled!! I really hope we do settle into things soon! We seem to have good and bad days! But i know im being impatient...hes only 8 days old! Xxxxxx

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