Me and my OH have been falling apart recently, we just dont know what is going on, everything is pushing us apart, we could be happy one minute and arguing the next!! It is so stressful and today out of hurtful words I told him to leave and that me and LO will be moving a whole country away from him!! We later made up but within two hours we were bickering again!! He claims I have changed and I am moody one minute and happy the next, he wishes I was like I was when we first met!! He says that he just doesnt know what way I am going to swing to next and he doesnt know if he can take anymore!! Last few nights when we made love after it I felt horrible and dirty!! This morning he wanted it but I wasnt bothered so I told him to just do it and get it over with so he done it while I lay there with my eyes shut!! Our relationship is so low at the minute but when we were happy our relationship was good!! Its affecting how we are with our LO as I hate him being around her and when I have her my OH just wants to take her off me!! I dont know what to do and have no one to talk to about it...I guess I just need a hug

Aww Hun. Big hugs to you. Me and OH bicker all the time at minute over the littlest thing. He says I look at him like shit and nip at him where as he is always moaning about everything. I think we are sleep deprived which doesn't help. I can't say anything about DTD as we still haven't as I haven't had my check up at the hospital yet to check the aftermath. If you need anyone to vent at anytime, you can pm me if you need to x

The same thing happened to me and my dh in the first few months after we had our lo.having a new baby is stressful and you both probably have alot going on in your heads. Its difiicult adjusting to having an addition to the family. All I can say is dont make any rash decisions until life settles down. After a while my hubby and I adjustd to life and now our relationship is great again. Its stressful but it WILL pass.

Im afraid that a baby does change your life, not forgetting to add hormones to it as well and lack of sleep.

It'll get easier when the baby is older and your settled into a routine DH and i went through that phrase too, where i just constantly snapped at him or we just argued all the time.

I've only recently stopped snapping at DH over the stupidest things. That's nearly 9 months of abuse he had to take so our relationship is a little sour too. It will need work. I would suggest this book, it was very helpful to me:

http://www.amazon.com/And-Baby-Makes...4448116&sr=8-1

We had the identical situation here, things have levelled out now. Hormones, changes, ideals, stress, no sleep! Good luck, it will get better

We had something similar too... just know that it will pass, and reassure your oh that it is a phase that lots of families with new babies go through. Our worst time is bedtime now with 2 kids... then after lo's are asleep we both relax happily on the sofa as though we weren't at each others throats 5min earlier-- crazy!

I blame sleep deprivation the most, but its also upsetting when babies are crying and its not their fault, so its easier to take it out on oh

it will be ok its normal to feel this way after a baby .. my bf and me fought so bad i almost left .