Feel Trapped by BF :( - Page 2

Novbaby08 · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:01 PM

It wouldn't make any difference, most bf babies won't take a pacifier or bottle after a while. My oldest daughter at 2 months old had to be brought down to my school while I was in class every couple hours because at 2 months old she decided she didn't like bottles anymore and she never liked pacifiers.
My second daughter is almost a month old and just in the last few days is starting to reject the pacifiers.

IzzyPeanut · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:04 PM

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Originally Posted by charlie1605

Hi, I am in exactly the same boat. Although I still have 10 weeks or so before I'm back at work. I've been tryin LO for approx 6 weeks now. I've tried several types of bottle, BM and formula, hot and cold, me feeding her and someone else feeding her and sitting upright and lying down. She eventually one day just took a bottle after about 4 weeks, it was a MAM bottle with a fast flow teat. She would take it lying flat at least once a day. However the past 4 days or so is now flatly refusing and I am back to the beginning.

I know exactly what u mean about feeling trapped. I love my little girl more than anything but would love to be away for longer than an hour. And also worry about my return to work.
I just want to know u are not alone

X x

It's horrible isn't it

I love my LO to bits too but I just want to know I can go somewhere if I wanted to or spend some time with DH without her feeling hungry or crying for milk. At the moment I'm with her 24-7 and it's almost suffocating at times and that's what makes me feel guilty when I feel like that! It's so frustrating and stressful not having the option of a bottle - I'm glad I'm not the only one who has this problem but then I wouldn't want anyone feeling as sad as it makes me feel sometimes. Hope she takes the bottle for you when you try again xxx

Lil_Pixie · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:06 PM

Have you tried getting someone else to give the bottle? If your LO is with you nothing by bf will do. Also have you tried a faster teat?

IzzyPeanut · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Novbaby08

It wouldn't make any difference, most bf babies won't take a pacifier or bottle after a while. My oldest daughter at 2 months old had to be brought down to my school while I was in class every couple hours because at 2 months old she decided she didn't like bottles anymore and she never liked pacifiers.
My second daughter is almost a month old and just in the last few days is starting to reject the pacifiers.

OMG, this would be my worst nightmare - I'm a teacher and although it would solve a problem having her brought to me, my headteacher is not very supportive to say the least! She would be very uncooperative with this sort of situation and would make my life hell! I'm glad it worked out for you, I wish I was going somewhere that would be just as helpful. That would be brilliant - in my dreams!

Novbaby08 · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:13 PM

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Originally Posted by IzzyPeanut

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Originally Posted by Novbaby08

It wouldn't make any difference, most bf babies won't take a pacifier or bottle after a while. My oldest daughter at 2 months old had to be brought down to my school while I was in class every couple hours because at 2 months old she decided she didn't like bottles anymore and she never liked pacifiers.
My second daughter is almost a month old and just in the last few days is starting to reject the pacifiers.

OMG, this would be my worst nightmare - I'm a teacher and although it would solve a problem having her brought to me, my headteacher is not very supportive to say the least! She would be very uncooperative with this sort of situation and would make my life hell! I'm glad it worked out for you, I wish I was going somewhere that would be just as helpful. That would be brilliant - in my dreams!

It definitely made things difficult, because my parents had her while I was in class, but I kept having to leave every couple hours sometimes sooner to feed her. boob was all she'd take. :/

IzzyPeanut · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Lil_Pixie

Have you tried getting someone else to give the bottle? If your LO is with you nothing by bf will do. Also have you tried a faster teat?

My DH has been trying it with her but still she refuses, she'll just scream and scream! He ends up exhausted after trying to feed her and then feels bad for doing it even though it is for the best. I feel so sorry for him! I'm going to try myself tomorrow to see if it makes a difference - it's worth a try but I reckon like you said she'll just smellthe milk and want it straight from me!

Menelly · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:21 PM

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Originally Posted by IzzyPeanut

I've been trying with expressed milk as thata what I want her to drink when I'm at work but she's having none if it - I feel like crying with the waste of it! What have you done if LO cries while you give them the bottle? Do you stop and wait and not feed from the breast until LO has drank the bottle? I don't want to be overly stressing for her but it just gets so she screams herself sick! Has this been the same for others? My HV says to not feed her from the boob until she takes the bottle as she'll prob only miss one feed - I think it's cruel but then I'm being cruel to be kind as she' ll find it worse if I'm not there while I'm in work won't she? Guilt creeping in again!

Do you have someone else who can try to give her the bottle? She smells boobie with you and has associated you with boobs. Maybe someone else can give her a bottle when you can't?

I've given Kesslie one bottle, and she had to take it from Daddy. When I tried to give it to her, she got mad and started aiming for the boobs instead.

waitingfor · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:25 PM

I'd definitely try the MAM bottles. I combi fed from the beginning and tried several bottles before getting success with the MAM bottles. The teats are very soft and moulded, not round like other brands so my LO could switch really easily between breast and bottle. She struggled with Avent and Breastflow. Like others have said, maybe you will need to get a faster flowing teat for them. Good luck

kanga · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:30 PM

Not sure if someone has already suggested this but do you have someone who could offer lo the bottle on your behalf. Maybe while you wait in (watch from!) another room or even outside. It could be that she knows your there and so is waiting for her preferred drink. x

Leeze · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:47 PM

One my friends who BFs can't give her LO a bottle but her LO will take it from anyone else. Could you maybe leave your LO with your Mum or OH for an hour or so and see if they can do it if you're not there? Good luck x

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Novbaby08 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Utah Posts: 2,658	It wouldn't make any difference, most bf babies won't take a pacifier or bottle after a while. My oldest daughter at 2 months old had to be brought down to my school while I was in class every couple hours because at 2 months old she decided she didn't like bottles anymore and she never liked pacifiers. My second daughter is almost a month old and just in the last few days is starting to reject the pacifiers.

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Lil_Pixie Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 4,907	Have you tried getting someone else to give the bottle? If your LO is with you nothing by bf will do. Also have you tried a faster teat?

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Apr 15th, 2012, 15:25 PM	#18
waitingfor Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: UK Posts: 266	I'd definitely try the MAM bottles. I combi fed from the beginning and tried several bottles before getting success with the MAM bottles. The teats are very soft and moulded, not round like other brands so my LO could switch really easily between breast and bottle. She struggled with Avent and Breastflow. Like others have said, maybe you will need to get a faster flowing teat for them. Good luck

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kanga Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: England Posts: 3,741	Not sure if someone has already suggested this but do you have someone who could offer lo the bottle on your behalf. Maybe while you wait in (watch from!) another room or even outside. It could be that she knows your there and so is waiting for her preferred drink. x

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Leeze Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: London Posts: 2,913	One my friends who BFs can't give her LO a bottle but her LO will take it from anyone else. Could you maybe leave your LO with your Mum or OH for an hour or so and see if they can do it if you're not there? Good luck x

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