Is it realistic to go back to work one month after baby? - Page 3

Kage76 · Apr 16th, 2012, 04:53 AM

no way could i have gone back at two weeks- it would have ripped my heart out to leave her that early- personally i think the first 6 weeks are the hardest and to add work to the top of that would be ambitious. You also need time to bond and learn how to be a mum- your baby also needs to bond with you- he or she needs time to get to know you as well.

Audraia · Apr 16th, 2012, 05:25 AM

Physically I could've went back to work after 2 weeks, emotionally NO WAY! First off my emotions were all a mess, and I would've missed LO way too bad. I waited my full 6 weeks before starting back (last week in fact) and that was hard enough.

I'm pretty sure your doc will tell you not to go back til at least 4 weeks, and you'll probably want to wait that long just because of bleeding etc. Plus you want the time to bond with your LO, those first few weeks are just hard, and if you go back to work so soon you won't have time to see the good bits

Palestrina · Apr 16th, 2012, 06:56 AM

People have done it, so to answer your question yes you probably can do it. Personally it could not have happened. I had a C-section and needed to recover. Also, the first 6wks were so so so so hard, all I remember is the baby crying, trying to learn how to BF and sleeping at all odd hours. With the sleep deprivation I only had 1 or 2 functioning brain cells and had to devote both of them to taking care of LO. Can't imagine having to go back to work at 2-4weeks, you'll see that it's very hard. And babies need their mommies so much, and mommies need their babies to be as close as possible. Keeping baby close to you will also make PND go away much faster. But those raging hormones in the first few weeks are a killer!

babyhopes2010 · Apr 16th, 2012, 07:07 AM

yes its possible.

my baby has bad reflux and never slept more then 2hrs the whole night until 15 weeks.
so no i couldnt have i was physically and mentally drained

tbh think unless you have no choice i think you need to be with ur baby. even 4-6 week old is so dependent on you and as a mother itll kill u to leave her/him.

im going back to work when lo is 7 months and i think thats too soon for me.

tina3747 · Apr 16th, 2012, 10:37 AM

We're so fortunate for the mat leave in this country, real feel for you US ladies. Is 6 weeks the standard/statutory maternity leave? I seem to read a lot go back at 6 weeks, I was still sobbing most days at that point!!

hellohefalump · Apr 16th, 2012, 10:42 AM

I was still very sore at 6 weeks, I had a second degree tear, but no stitches.

I couldn't have done it, not just because of the pain, but the mental state too, I still had 'baby blues' at that point. Plus I don't think I could have left my newborn baby that early.

jenniferttc1 · Apr 16th, 2012, 11:14 AM

Its possible. I have a friend that went back to college, and her part time job after just 2 weeks. Shes drained though, and only leaves her little girl for 2 hours twice a week, as her job shes a nann and gets to take her along.
I could not have done it. I have a hard time leaving him just to go out to dinner for an hour with my husband at 9 weeks.
Also I was so sleep deprived till week 6 that I couldnt even function. I literally slept when he slept every time.
I think its easier to plan on doing something before they get here. You just have towait and see how you feel once LO is here to see if you can leave them, how they sleep at night, if your still sore etc.

avellana · Apr 16th, 2012, 11:27 AM

Hi!
In my opinion, 2 weeks is impossible. I felt pretty good after a normal painless vaginal delivery, but I had an episiotomy and the stitches hurt for 2 weeks after. I still don't feel 100% back to normal, and my baby is still so tiny, but physically it *would* be possible to go back to work now. Hope you get to stay at least 4-6 weeks with your LO, at 2 weeks you will be exhausted from no sleep, perhaps still in pain, and just getting to know your baby, who will be tiny.. I think it would be way too difficult.
Good luck!!

Button# · Apr 16th, 2012, 11:28 AM

I agree with the others I was a zombie at two weeks and really emotional and could not have coped with work at all. I still couldn't comprehend going back before my full year is up.

NaturalMomma · Apr 16th, 2012, 14:57 PM

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Originally Posted by mischaa

6 to 10 weeks when baby is sleeping through is prob the best time to go back after sleepless nite then goin to work almost killed me

It is rare for a baby to STTN at 6-10 weeks old. The normal time for STTN is actually between 18 months and 3 years. Research shows that a baby under 6 months should be eating multiple times at night and if they don't wake up (because some don't and can get dehydrated) then you need to dream feed. Some Doctors will say that a baby can start CIO at 6 months in order to get them to STTN, but that isn't true STTN because you are forcing that upon the child rather than letting the child natrually settle into a STTN pattern, and research shows that STTN naturally comes much later into toddler hood. My ds1 started to STTN at 20 months and my ds2 started exactly on his 2nd birthday.

Not being snippy just wanting to make sure correct info gets out so new moms who have a 3 month old baby who doesn't STTN don't feel like something is wrong

Apr 16th, 2012, 04:53 AM	#21
Kage76 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 1,111	no way could i have gone back at two weeks- it would have ripped my heart out to leave her that early- personally i think the first 6 weeks are the hardest and to add work to the top of that would be ambitious. You also need time to bond and learn how to be a mum- your baby also needs to bond with you- he or she needs time to get to know you as well.

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Apr 16th, 2012, 05:25 AM	#22
Audraia Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Clarksburg, WV Posts: 1,174	Physically I could've went back to work after 2 weeks, emotionally NO WAY! First off my emotions were all a mess, and I would've missed LO way too bad. I waited my full 6 weeks before starting back (last week in fact) and that was hard enough. I'm pretty sure your doc will tell you not to go back til at least 4 weeks, and you'll probably want to wait that long just because of bleeding etc. Plus you want the time to bond with your LO, those first few weeks are just hard, and if you go back to work so soon you won't have time to see the good bits

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Apr 16th, 2012, 06:56 AM	#23
Palestrina Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: New York, NY Posts: 3,690	People have done it, so to answer your question yes you probably can do it. Personally it could not have happened. I had a C-section and needed to recover. Also, the first 6wks were so so so so hard, all I remember is the baby crying, trying to learn how to BF and sleeping at all odd hours. With the sleep deprivation I only had 1 or 2 functioning brain cells and had to devote both of them to taking care of LO. Can't imagine having to go back to work at 2-4weeks, you'll see that it's very hard. And babies need their mommies so much, and mommies need their babies to be as close as possible. Keeping baby close to you will also make PND go away much faster. But those raging hormones in the first few weeks are a killer!

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Apr 16th, 2012, 07:07 AM	#24
babyhopes2010 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: sleaford,Lincolnshire Posts: 16,150	yes its possible. my baby has bad reflux and never slept more then 2hrs the whole night until 15 weeks. so no i couldnt have i was physically and mentally drained tbh think unless you have no choice i think you need to be with ur baby. even 4-6 week old is so dependent on you and as a mother itll kill u to leave her/him. im going back to work when lo is 7 months and i think thats too soon for me.

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tina3747 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Leicester uk Posts: 3,582	We're so fortunate for the mat leave in this country, real feel for you US ladies. Is 6 weeks the standard/statutory maternity leave? I seem to read a lot go back at 6 weeks, I was still sobbing most days at that point!!

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Apr 16th, 2012, 10:42 AM	#26
hellohefalump Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 2,611	I was still very sore at 6 weeks, I had a second degree tear, but no stitches. I couldn't have done it, not just because of the pain, but the mental state too, I still had 'baby blues' at that point. Plus I don't think I could have left my newborn baby that early.

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Apr 16th, 2012, 11:14 AM	#27
jenniferttc1 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: US Posts: 11,063	Its possible. I have a friend that went back to college, and her part time job after just 2 weeks. Shes drained though, and only leaves her little girl for 2 hours twice a week, as her job shes a nann and gets to take her along. I could not have done it. I have a hard time leaving him just to go out to dinner for an hour with my husband at 9 weeks. Also I was so sleep deprived till week 6 that I couldnt even function. I literally slept when he slept every time. I think its easier to plan on doing something before they get here. You just have towait and see how you feel once LO is here to see if you can leave them, how they sleep at night, if your still sore etc.

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Apr 16th, 2012, 11:27 AM	#28
avellana Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 227	Hi! In my opinion, 2 weeks is impossible. I felt pretty good after a normal painless vaginal delivery, but I had an episiotomy and the stitches hurt for 2 weeks after. I still don't feel 100% back to normal, and my baby is still so tiny, but physically it would be possible to go back to work now. Hope you get to stay at least 4-6 weeks with your LO, at 2 weeks you will be exhausted from no sleep, perhaps still in pain, and just getting to know your baby, who will be tiny.. I think it would be way too difficult. Good luck!!

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Apr 16th, 2012, 11:28 AM	#29
Button# Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2010 Location: London Posts: 3,844	I agree with the others I was a zombie at two weeks and really emotional and could not have coped with work at all. I still couldn't comprehend going back before my full year is up.

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