i have a ten year old, an almost 2 year old and a 7 week old.
my latest baby is supposed to be my last, me and oh agreed to it. but i just feel so upset at the thought of never having another baby, Im only 30 and i just don't feel like Im done.
Im hoping i will get over it but Im not sure i will x
I am finished now after 2 little boys. It does make me sad but then I know it is bloody hard work. My brother is getting married today in the US so more than likely I will become an Aunty for the first time in the next couple of years so there is that to look forward to. Then I think that I will just have to concentrate on the next steps in life, when the kids are old enough to go their own way and plan the middle aged things. My big plan is to do Route 66 and travel around America. Becoming a 'nanna' in the long distant future.
I will miss never ever being pregnant again as I love being pregnant, but I can definatley do without the sleepless nights!!!
I have written myself a letter when J was a few months old to remind myself of all the bad points, so when I feel broody I can read that just to put me off
I am absolutely not ok with it atm . The thought of not doing it again breaks my heart. I'm sure these feelings will pass as I'm probably just still hormonal etc but it makes me so upset to think that I will never have that new baby moment again.
Its strange as I never felt like this after my first 2, but this time around its completely different.
I always knew I wanted two children and after having dd2 they have definitely been confirmed. I don't feel upset that I don't want anymore children. I'm very happy with the two gorgeous girlies I've got.
I'm completely at peace with not having anymore babies. But who knows we could end up changing our minds in a few years time. But I don't want anymore and for me it's a nice thought to be able to start getting rid of baby clothes that dd2 has now outgrown after putting things aside that I want to keep as well as all the equipment.
I feel differently as I had a stillborn baby and I don't ever think that I will feel "done" having children as one of my babies isn't with me and never will be but no matter how many other children I have he won't be here so I guess its a no win situation!
3 full term pregnancies and only two children with me.....
From a financial pov dh thinks no more children! For me I would love another baby, but don't think I could endure another PAL I was literally a little bit mental. So for my sanity glad I would end up locked up if I had to go through the what ifs again whilst I was pg!.....
i feel sad that i won't experience pregnancy & labour again, but i don't want another baby. i didn't feel that way after bella. i felt i needed another baby when bella was a couple of weeks old, part of that was down to a disappointing birth experience, not being able to breastfeed successfully & because i'd always wanted 2 children. just, i needed another baby as soon as possible because i was carrying around so much hurt.
i realise that sounds terrible, that bella wasn't "enough", or something. bella is amazing & i never felt i was missing something with her, just that, along with wanting 2 children, i had to drop the guilt in order to believe in myself again.
lauren wasn't planned, but was very much wanted from the moment i saw the second line on the pregnancy test. i was absolutely terrified of losing her from the word go. but she was absolutely meant to be. i had a wonderful birth with her, she breastfed from the word go, she's absolutely the healing baby i needed.
i can't express it right at all, there's no "loving lauren more than bella" because she healed the wounds or anything. but i don't want or need another baby because my 2 girls have completed me.
we'll have more financial independance quicker (when we dont have childcare costs)
we can travel easier (no need for bigger car, holidays are made for 2 children and 2 adults)
no more having to go through labour
but also sad:
no more newborn snuggles (with one of my own chidlren) after this one
no more "mum to be" excitment
both my daughters will only have 1 sibling (i was 1 of 3)
i'm not sure if this is my last. my head tells me it should be and sometimes i allow my heart to be heard and it says "maybe one more..."
It's a mixed bag of emotions really. Like Sabrina, I'm 44. I have managed two healthy babies, one at the age of 37 and one at 44. I have pressed my luck. Neither pregnancy was smooth sailing.
This last baby was rough; preeclampsia, diabetes, thyroid issues, c-section with 2 blood transfusions,and then hospitalized 11 addtional days with a staph infection. Eleven days in the hospital seperated from my baby with 103 degree fevers destroyed our breastfeeding relationship. Then an additonal 5 days at home in bed with a drainage bag and a home health nurse coming once a day. I think if I was 24 instead of 44 I would have been shellshocked into a tubal ligation.
We did opt for a tubal; not because I wouldn't love another child. But I cannot handle the grief of another miscarriage. We've had 3 and the one I had before we conceived this baby went to 11, nearly 12 weeks and it was brutal.
The whole thing makes me sad, but logically, with my health,age, and the fact that we are not that well off, it just makes sound sense to "know when to stop."
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