I'm at peace with it now we can just go on living our lives with our 2 children , we can travel easily, plan things far easier, and I start uni in June!! Once you get into the world of having 3 children we'd need to move house, get a bigger car plus I'm actually an American living over here and we travel back once a year and can continue to do so with 2. Going back to school is my big thing right now though and that is something I would not be able to start if there was a chance in having another baby. Of course I get sad a little about not being pregnant again but for us 2 is perfect, plus having one of each helped a lot Not to mention the fact that having 2 16 months apart is keeping me BUSY!
Well.......I didn't really enjoy pregnancy (previous mc and at 32 wks, high BP), so am happy not to be worrying about all that again -- my LO is my one and only (am 44), so unless I get lucky again (maybe, but not trying!), don't mind.............I do agree, tho, looking at my LO -- I am still in shock that this little person is mine!
First and last, most likely... I have very mixed feelings about it. I never wanted a big family but I did always want two children. It just seems balanced to me. Plus I was basically an only child (I have half-brothers I hardly saw while growing up) and I found it could be lonely. I at least had a big extended family to make up for it, but LO won't. But I think my husband and I have pretty much agreed that LO will be an only child.
We've had such a hard time with her not sleeping, she's nine months now and still up six times a night or more. My husband has been sleeping on the sofa since she was born! It's really put a strain on everything and feels like some never-ending nightmare. I think if she'd been an "easier" baby my husband would be more likely to want another. TBH my husband never really wanted kids in the first place, and it took me years of wrangling to get him to agree. He loves our daughter but I don't think he's keen to go through all that TTC and pregnancy stress again. It took us nearly a year to conceive her.
If we had a few years to wait and the memory of how hard it's been has faded I think we could go again, but I'm in my mid-30's now and time really isn't a luxury for us. Plus I tore badly when LO was born and there's a chance it could complicate any future deliveries. I shouldn't complain really, I've been given the most beautiful little girl, she's bright and happy and just the joy of my heart, but I do feel sad thinking she'll probably be the only one.
I'll admit though, even though it's sad there is an element of relief in thinking she'll be the only one. When she finally sleeps, then sleepless nights are over. (At least until she hits the teenage years! ) When she finally weans off the breast, I can finally have my body back. Plus I really need to get back into work here, and I don't think we could financially handle me taking another couple years off to have a baby. Mixed feelings, like I said.
I'm kinda struggling to deal with it I guess. It's worse when I see or hear about a friend or relative being pregnant and at present I have a pregnant cousin and a heavily pregnant friend. I think once theyve had their babies I'll find it easier but then I know there are other friends who plan on having more so I know when they announce their pregnancies all my feelings will come back.
BUT, I always wanted 2 girls and I have exactly that. 2 perfect, healthy precious princesses so I know I'm so blessed. My husband has always envisaged us having 3 children though and so does want us to have one more. I had a horrible second pregnancy though and it's mainly down to that that I'm against having anymore.
Right now I'm saying no more babies ever again. But I know I can't 100% totally rule it out due to my husband wanting more. Perhaps when my cousin gives birth in September or more friends announce pregnancies I'll cave in and try again but then I'm just enjoying my girls do much and feel I'm able to give them both everything they need so why would I change that!
But I do find it really tough when each month I notice signs of ovulation etc and I can't help but think its a wasted opportunity!
But having said all of that, 1 kid or 10 kids, we are all so incredibly lucky to have our beautiful lo's!
a little part of me will feel a bit sad that ill never go through the experience again but ive done it 4 times now and im 100% sure my family is complete. its natural to feel broody but i know i dont want any more than 4 kids and dh is going to get the snip as we dont want to risk putting ourselves in that position. babies are lovely but they grow into kids and kids are expensive so you have to be realistic and draw the line somewhere.
also my pregnancies got harder and harder, the last was horrible and i feel healthy again now and wouldnt want to do it again, also i feel we are blessed with 4 healthy kids after problems ttc and 2 mc's, so i wouldnt want to push my luck.
we are happy with life and theres so much more good things than just the baby part. my oldest is 12 so i know how quick they grow up so i want to enjoy every part.
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