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Old Oct 25th, 2013, 18:17 PM   1
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Possible Bullying?


I live in the UK and ever since finding out I was pregnant, I've loved the name Bentley, and can't imagine calling my baby anything else. Ever since telling my family all they've said is how much they hate it and how he will be called Bent at school.
It's making me very sad because there are no other boys names I love..
Hunter is I suppose my second favourite..
Opinions please? Xxx



 
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Old Oct 25th, 2013, 20:53 PM   2
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I'm in the US, and Bentley is actually pretty popular around where I live. I've never heard of anyone being made fun of for having the name, but people can get stupid nicknames from anything. I wouldn't be too fussed about it - if you & OH love it, don't listen to your family!



 
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Old Oct 25th, 2013, 21:03 PM   3
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I love the name Bentley - and there is a little boy from the show Teen Mom with that name - so it's become kind of popular & trendy in the US.

I say go for it!



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2013, 00:05 AM   4
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What? Why would they even say that? Bentley isn't even a weird name at all? And Bent? Even if someone called him Bent, it wouldn't be bullying?? It's not like the Jewish name Shlomo (where kids say Shlomo the ......... Fill in the blank). How would kids get Bent out of his name and think it has any bullying merit (I know that didn't sound quite right, but you get my drift).

I think your family is nuts. Use the name, it's really cute!!



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2013, 01:01 AM   5
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Old Oct 26th, 2013, 01:56 AM   6
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My personal feeling about 'name bullying' is that it's not about the name, it's about the kid. By which I mean that if kids want to bully someone, they will probably find a way to make fun of his or her name even if it's Jack or Matthew.

Kids don't get bullied because of their name, they get bullied because of some other aspect of their persona*, and making up mean names is just a way of getting at them. If a super-confident 'cool' kid is called Elvis or Cyril or Shlomo, they won't get hassled about it, or if they do, it will be good-natured, or they'll just laugh it off. Same with red hair, or whatever.

*I'm not saying there's anything wrong or deserving about the kid being bullied, just that some qualities - like being quiet and shy, or anxious, or particularly smart, or non-conformist, or not traditionally 'cute' - tend to make certain kids easier targets for bullies than others.



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2013, 07:14 AM   7
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Thanks ladies! And do we prefer Bentley over Hunter?
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Old Oct 26th, 2013, 07:18 AM   8
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I love Bentley NN Bent is fine too!

Hunter is nice too - Hunter Bentley sounds pretty nice but I prefer Bentley



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2013, 09:51 AM   9
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im sorry but I agree with your family - bent is always the first thing to com to mind as people tend to shorten names and its the obvious shortening by his teenage years it could lead to horrible bullying especially if he does grow up to be homosexual (there where 2 boys in my school who unfortunately got bullied horrifically for being gay and there names where twisted any which way to make jokes - its fine as adult to say it wont happen but remember school is a cruel place for lots of children) also being a car feels a bit tacky and chavvy like the boys version of Mercedes or Porsche

hunter is a great name though



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2013, 10:01 AM   10
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What? Why would they even say that? Bentley isn't even a weird name at all? And Bent? Even if someone called him Bent, it wouldn't be bullying?? It's not like the Jewish name Shlomo (where kids say Shlomo the ......... Fill in the blank). How would kids get Bent out of his name and think it has any bullying merit (I know that didn't sound quite right, but you get my drift).

I think your family is nuts. Use the name, it's really cute!!
In the UK "bent" is a slang and offensive term for a homosexual. I'm not sure if this is the case in other countries as a few of the replies don't seem to understand why it could be used in a derogatory way. Unfortunately, and as sad as it is, I have to agree that over here it may certainly set him up for bullying as it is still an uncommon name. Having said that, some kids will find a way of bullying someone for any reason, unusual name or not and if you really love the name, go with it, American names seem to be getting more mainstream lately and I'm sure as it becomes more popular over here the potential for bullying will become less of an issue.



 
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