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Old Aug 10th, 2017, 01:38 AM   1
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Stressed out. Please can people read and help?

Okay so I'm having a little girl. I'm only 19+1 however I have anxiety issues and to control these I'm extremely organised.

Me and my other half absolutely cannot agree on a single name

I've always wanted Isabella Rose however one of my closest friends is pregnant and claims she's wanted "Bella Rose" for years before me an I already had disagreements when my son was born because he is Jacob which is too close to her son "Jake" she says. So I really don't want that fight again.

My other favourite is Chloe however that's my brothers daughters name!!

So we have this tiny list of names my other half likes, the problem is, I don't really love any of them, infact I barely like them. I'm getting so stressed out. My family like none of the names on this list either besides Isabelle which I still feel is too close too Isabella.


That's it that's all he likes. What can I do I've trawled the net for names and had absolutely no luck whatsoever.

If my brother didn't have a Chloe, that's what we would pick 100%

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Old Aug 10th, 2017, 02:46 AM   2
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My top picks for a girl is Quinn, Michaela, Hope and Faith if that helps.

Jessica is cute too but I get what you mean by wanting something you both love. I like Jessica but I don't love it and hubby, well he hates it but we have only ever had one name picked out for our daughter. As for your families, who cares what they say. This is yours and your partners baby and no one else has any say in what you call her at all! Don't give them a chance to form an opinion. Keep the name between yourselves until she is born as that makes it official and they can't say anything.

Good luck naming your little girl!

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Old Aug 10th, 2017, 03:06 AM   3
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I would just decide what you and your dh like your family will get used to it
Love the name Chloe

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Old Aug 10th, 2017, 12:53 PM   4
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Honestly imo claims mean nothing, if my best friend and I had kids with similar names then so be it, I'd never say anything about it and frankly we'd probably find it funny and talk about our good taste in names. Plus how do you know who wanted something the longest, its kind of petty. If Isabelle Rose is what you both love then go with it. I'd rather love the name and use the one I've always wanted then worry if it's to close to what my friend would use or has used.

Good luck!

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Old Aug 10th, 2017, 13:28 PM   5
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How about Gabriella, you can still keep the nickname Ella if you was going to use it Who is due first you or your friend??

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Old Aug 10th, 2017, 20:27 PM   6
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Is your friend definitely having a girl? How far along is she?

I like the name Cleo, it sounds fairly close to Chloe without being exactly the same.
Sophia Rose sounds pretty. I wouldn't see the problem with the same middle name as her child... but if she's been so icky about baby names, it might be worth it to just cut ties and name your baby whatever you want.

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Old Aug 12th, 2017, 13:36 PM   7
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I'd go with your original name and if your friend still wants a Bella rose that's fine, it's a different name. And I guarantee there's a lot more than one child in the world with the same name so if she wants to be petty over it you don't need a friend like that.
That's just me though. One of our close friends has an Oscar, and I had Oscar on my list. If OH had agreed and liked it too, it's likely our son would have had the same name as one of his peers. No big deal imo.
Isabella rose is lovely.

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Old Aug 12th, 2017, 16:20 PM   8
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I think I'd stick to your original name choice that you love despite the fact that your friend says she's picking similar.

Does it matter if you have an Isabella & She has a Bella? Not really? You may meet a friend after your daughter is born and become really close to them, would it matter to you then if your children had the same or similar names. You'd probably compliment each other on your good name choice!

I say go for the name you love, you'll end up regretting it and resenting your friend if she chose to go with Bella.

Good luck

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Old Aug 14th, 2017, 17:09 PM   9
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I also think you should just go with Isabella Rose. Isabella is an incredibly popular name, so if you do call her that, she'll end up knowing other Isabellas/Bellas anyway, even if your friend doesn't call her daughter that. I think if your name choice is one of the top name choices of the time, no one can really lay claim to it as it's not unique and there'll be lots out there the same.

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Old Aug 19th, 2017, 23:38 PM   10
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Go with the name you love, of course. There will be hundreds of girls with that name scattered around the world, who cares if your friend's daughter is Bella. No one has a prior claim on any name.

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