The father of my baby & I found out about 2 weeks ago that we were expecting. In the beginning he was very excited and things were great up until we had a nasty argument about finances. Long story short he said he can see our baby being the center of even more financial arguments. So he told me he wants nothing to do with the baby or anything pertaining to me. That was 5 days ago & I haven't heard from him since. I'm devastated, crying all the time, & don't know what to do.
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I went through something similar. I take it you two don't live together? My little one's father and I were having issues and the pregnancy was unplanned and he even suggest I not have the baby. But at the age of 32 and possibly my last chance, I wasn't going to do anything but have the baby if it was too happen. Which it did - best decision of my life!
Ppl can make babies but you can't make them parents. I KNOW this is scary. Right now, give the guy some space. Let him know you are available to talk. Don't be accusatory or demanding. Times are tough and he could be freaking out. Allow him to calm down a bit and accept the situation.
However, you also should focus right now on yourself. Try to get a support system going of friends and family. Just focus on YOU...your needs and the babies needs. Ensure you are in a good place emotionally about being pregnant. And, even though some may not like this....weigh your options. A decision no matter what is yours to make.
He may come around or he may not. My 1st born's Dad did before the birth but it was an emotional journey. Just take one day at a time.
So sorry to hear that but really huge congrats in your bfp. You kno I think there is a reason women carry the babies-we just have this instinctual strength to deal with the physical and emotional stress that comes with reproduction. I think it might be more common than we like to admit for men, long term husbands or whatever to freak out and panic in the beginning or even later stages. All I can say us trust your instinct and do what is right for you, I hope you have a strong support system to get through the next few weeks. And if/when he does come back, resist the urge to kick his ass! p!
Congratulations again and best wishes for you and your little one xxx
Congratulations on your BFP. I am sure everything will be just fine.
I am afraid I disagree with the others.. if my partner treated me like that... it would take a lot to forgive him if he decides to come back. I certainly would be kicking his ass and as much as I would want a father for my child..he needs to earn his forgiveness because his behaviour is simply unacceptable. Men are very very immature no matter what there age.
men can be awful jerks sometimes,they often only think of themselves and not how their actions effect those around them,if i were you i would focus on yourself and the little one and keep strong,i know,easier said than done pet but its why we are the stronger sex!we can do anything we put our minds too,stay strong and make sure you have your family/friends around you to help out, gl to you chick xx
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