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Old Aug 2nd, 2012, 20:33 PM   1
Miss Jennifer
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Uncomfortable with the idea of breastfeeding


Hello everyone!

Just came to the forum for the first time and was wondering if anyone felt the same way. I am so set on providing breast milk for my baby (due in October) but so uncomfortable with the idea of the baby latching. I have NO IDEA WHY! Other moms breastfeeding does not bother me, and I am 100% for breastfeeding, but I feel like I have to exclusively pump. I don't want to lose out on the beautiful bonding, I just don't know how to alter my perceptions and feelings.

Any thoughts on exclusively pumping??

Thanks and happy breastfeeding to all!



 
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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 01:05 AM   2
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Just think about the purpose of your breasts. It's the truest & purest natural act of love, really. We produce milk for a reason.

But don't feel pressured by anyone & there are women on this forum who do that. It's your body & choice as long as baby gets bm who cares how?? I do think give it a go for the bonding if nothing else.

Do what makes you a happy mummy. Good luck. X



 
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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 02:20 AM   3
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I have such huuuge respect for women that exclusively express- its so difficult in my opinion. A hundred times harder than putting the baby to the breast. Its difficult when you don't have an LO to know how you're going to feel when the baby arrives, so just read up on BF and you're prepared for every eventuality. good luck!



 
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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 03:52 AM   4
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I always knew I would bf but when I was pregnant I had huge worries about bf, about latching, bf in public etc... The first month I was still worried about bf in front of people but my dad took me out for a meal and I just had to get on with it, either I fed DS or he would scream the whole time we were eating. I think that was the turning point for me with worrying.



 
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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 04:07 AM   5
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I worried about how I would get on with BF and it meant a lot to me to be able to breastfeed but if you have never done it before it is normal to be anxious about various issues, especially if you have not been exposed to lots of family and friends breastfeeding.

To be totally honest with you, I would forget all ideas of exclusive pumping unless your baby has a medical issue which prevents feeding direct from source. Exclusive pumping is massively time consuming - you have to pump for half an hour, then you have to spend another half an hour feeding that milk to the baby. Then you have pump parts and bottles to wash and sterilise. When your baby feeds in the night you don't get to go right back to sleep - you get up and pump the next feed. All that time is time you should be spending resting and recovering from the birth and enjoying your new baby. If you pump when baby is awake you miss out on cuddles. If you pump when baby is asleep you miss out on your own sleep. Breastfeeding is WAY easier. I have enormous admiration to those who make exclusive pumping work especially when they have a sick baby who can't breastfeed. But don't make extra work for yourself if you don't need to!

Once your baby is born you will feel differently about things. The first few times breastfeeding in front of family are a bit strange but you get used to it. There are all sorts of clothes on sale for breastfeeding to make sure as little flesh as possible is exposed. In any case your baby's head covers up most of the "area".



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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 04:18 AM   6
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Before I had LO, I couldn't imagine a baby latched to my breast. Though I had no problems with others BFing and supported BFing, it seemed such an alien idea that a person would be sucking on my breast for nourishment. Before having a child, my breasts had always been something that was sexual.
Once I got into the swing of things and worked out the kinks (which hold worked best for me, proper latch, etc) it became second nature and just felt normal and natural.



 
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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 06:09 AM   7
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Hi Miss Jennifer - I've been exclusively expressing for over three months now so if you have any questions about it feel free to PM me. It is really hard for the first 12 weeks while you're establishing your supply, but after that it just becomes second nature. I would agree that you should try BFing at first, we tried and tried and spent a fortune on lactation consultants, craniosacral therapy, tongue tie clipping etc and it just wasn't in the cards for us. I found that all the headaches to do with pumping were less stressful than unsuccessful breastfeeding, so it was an easy choice for us.



 
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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 12:43 PM   8
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Agree with the pp. Feeding from the breast is much less time consuming than expressing and actually less restrictive - you need to pump round the clock until your supply is well established and it is harder (IMO) to pump discreetly than it is to breast feed a baby in public.
Also, I think the hormones that flood through you after you give birth help make bfing feel less weird because you are so hard-wired to nurture your baby.

However, if you decide it is not for you tbh I doubt there is much difference in terms of bonding (my lo is all about the milk when she feeds, no lovey-dovey eye contact or anything) and there are lots of ladies on here who can help you achieve exclusive expressing, or even combi-feeding if you decide that is what will work for you.



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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 14:26 PM   9
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Agree with the pp. Feeding from the breast is much less time consuming than expressing and actually less restrictive - you need to pump round the clock until your supply is well established and it is harder (IMO) to pump discreetly than it is to breast feed a baby in public.
Also, I think the hormones that flood through you after you give birth help make bfing feel less weird because you are so hard-wired to nurture your baby.

However, if you decide it is not for you tbh I doubt there is much difference in terms of bonding (my lo is all about the milk when she feeds, no lovey-dovey eye contact or anything) and there are lots of ladies on here who can help you achieve exclusive expressing, or even combi-feeding if you decide that is what will work for you.
LOOOOL sorry that lovey dovey eye contact thing made me giggle!!



 
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Old Aug 3rd, 2012, 14:55 PM   10
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The feeding in public is a valid point. It is possible to bf discreetly in public but you have no chance of using a double electric pump (pretty much essential for exclusive pumping) in public! so that could be quite restrictive in terms of getting about if you have to pump every few hours.



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