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Old Aug 22nd, 2012, 15:13 PM   11
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totally agree ^^ the very last thing op needs to get out the other side of this stage is to reduce feeds! Frequent feeding is critical for establishing supply. see these difficult weeks as an investment in the future. When you're out of this phase bfing will be easy and less frequent and you won't have the hassle of bottles!



 
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Old Aug 22nd, 2012, 15:25 PM   12
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I hate when people, mostly my mother, ask me if I feel like a cow.... I'm feeding my baby not the whole population.

Does your baby only sleep 4 hours a day? Can you not nap with your baby?



 
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Old Aug 22nd, 2012, 17:26 PM   13
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As per usual its blown way out of proportion. Of course reducing breast contact is not as good BUT a baby who is getting loads of contact will not be harmed by just reducing once or twice a day. Please don't tell me what benefits bfing provides. I'm a bfing mother!

Some people have nothing better to do but to attack. I hope you find whatever is beneficial to you & baby. And 'it's normal' just isn't good enough.

That's my final word.



 
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Old Aug 22nd, 2012, 20:03 PM   14
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I don't care how normal it is I get you. For me feeding is primarily for nutrition and thank goodness my son seems to get that. During growth spurts I feel like a dairy cow and not like a human and I'm not a big fan. Sometimes I pump and give a bottle myself just because my boobs need a break.



 
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Old Aug 22nd, 2012, 22:43 PM   15
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I don't care how normal it is I get you. For me feeding is primarily for nutrition and thank goodness my son seems to get that. During growth spurts I feel like a dairy cow and not like a human and I'm not a big fan. Sometimes I pump and give a bottle myself just because my boobs need a break.
I agree with DK and yumosh... I know you all mean well but I feel like you all are sorta guilt tripping her into feeling bad for being miserable with her baby constantly needing boob. "why would you want to deny your baby comfort?", are you kidding me??? That is NOT helpful- of course she doesn't want to deny her baby comfort?! but it's obvious it's getting to be too much... Maybe i will be lynched for this but I would suggest the occasional bottle or pacifier to give yourself some temporary relief if you haven't already done those things.

Otherwise just know no one thinks you want to deny your sweet babe comfort, but it's hard! hang in there sweetie, you will get through it!



 
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Old Aug 22nd, 2012, 23:43 PM   16
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Why not just feed baby and after that let baby cry till they fall asleep? If baby doesn't settle down within 3 hr period then feed her again because by then she might be hungry again. Instead of boob give her a 1-2 min cuddle or soother and cuddle and try to get her to settle down. That's what I do and it works for me - after feeding in the evening my baby always cries so I give her soother, stroke her tummy and keep doing that every 5 - 7 min till she falls asleep. Usually it takes 1 hr and after that she's sleeping till next feed. At night once she feeds she falls asleep right away, it's only evenings that are tough but that's normal apparently. During day time I just walk her in the stroller if seh's fussy or give her cuddles so that my boobs get rest even though I love it when she nurses or just nuzzles.

Each to their own though - every one of us have different ways of soothing their babies and different expectations of how to raise our kids so there's no need for people to get negative with one another. We all have different view points. This is just how I do it and if someone wants to try you are welcome to, but there's no need to get angry at one another when all of us here just want support and understanding.



 
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Old Aug 23rd, 2012, 01:14 AM   17
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Letting an 8 week old baby "cry until they fall asleep" is an awful idea. Even advocates of CIO/CC do not recommend letting a baby cry this early
Yes you can try other methods of soothing the baby, but do not just let her cry.

My 4 month old still needs the boob for comfort. We are slowly working on being able to soothe her without it as I am very tired of her waking up every 30-60 mins and wanting to nurse because she won't settle.
I will rock, bounce, sing and shush her and if she just keeps escalating then I'll give her the boob

Easing a baby off the comfort of boob will take some patience, and won't come easy at 8 weeks. Baby still very much needs you and the comfort of your boob.
Can you try pumping and letting someone else take a feed for you to give you a break? Do you feel comfortable attempting to co-sleep? When I figured out how to BF DD while in bed it made our life so much easier. We don't bed share full time but sometimes I am just so tired that I take her to bed, put the boob in her mouth and fall back asleep...it saves my sanity.



 
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Old Aug 23rd, 2012, 01:49 AM   18
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^^^as I said, we all have different opinions and ways to raise kids. This crying only happens once a day after 1 evening feed and I use other ways to soothe my baby ie. stroking her tummy/head and giving her soother till she falls asleep. I let her cry for a bit then soothe, then repeat. It's ok if you don't agree though.



 
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Old Aug 23rd, 2012, 04:42 AM   19
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Why is normal not good enough? A baby who feeds normally is perfect!



 
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Old Aug 23rd, 2012, 06:08 AM   20
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I don't care how normal it is I get you. For me feeding is primarily for nutrition and thank goodness my son seems to get that. During growth spurts I feel like a dairy cow and not like a human and I'm not a big fan. Sometimes I pump and give a bottle myself just because my boobs need a break.
I agree with DK and yumosh... I know you all mean well but I feel like you all are sorta guilt tripping her into feeling bad for being miserable with her baby constantly needing boob. "why would you want to deny your baby comfort?", are you kidding me??? That is NOT helpful- of course she doesn't want to deny her baby comfort?! but it's obvious it's getting to be too much... Maybe i will be lynched for this but I would suggest the occasional bottle or pacifier to give yourself some temporary relief if you haven't already done those things.

Otherwise just know no one thinks you want to deny your sweet babe comfort, but it's hard! hang in there sweetie, you will get through it!
In regards to asking "why would you want to deny your baby comfort?" it wasn't asked in an accusatory or mean way. But in my own experience I had to constantly remind myself that cluster feeding is NORMAL behavior because everyone around me (mother, friends, doctors, etc) were trying to tell me that it's not normal and that my baby needs to feed on a schedule. Let's face it, most BF mothers are surrounded by people who do not understand the behavior of a BF baby. We're told to put the baby on a schedule, we're told to let them cry, we're told to supplement, we're told to express so that someone else can feed the baby, we're told that we're being selfish! If we followed the doctors' advice on BF we'd all have gone the way of mothers who tried and failed when met with the first growth spurt, right?

A wise lady once told me that just because BF is "natural" doesn't mean that it's "easy." Nobody is saying get on with it, we're all saying that it IS hard but that it DOES get better if you stick with it. In fact it doesn't get just better, it gets amazing! I remember how difficult it was but once the difficult phase passed EBF (before solids) was the best time of my entire life.



 
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