Wiggling, flailing, fussing during SOME feeds? Please someone help me figure this out
THIS IS REALLY WEIRD..I really have no idea what my LO is trying to do.. I've considered every possible option and still haven't figured out what's going on. He'll be latched on eating fine and then all of a sudden start flailing his limbs and he tries so hard to rip himself off. THIS IS COMPLETELY RANDOM.. I can't figure it out and it's STILL happening. Here is the entire scenario..
It first started happening about a month ago, he had a cold around the same time so OH and I thought maybe it's because he can't breathe out of his stuffy nose. So clearly that wasn't the problem now that his nose has been fine for weeks. I thought maybe it's gas and he needs to burp, but even after he burps he'll still do it. And sometimes he will do this right when I start feeding like 2 minutes into it... so it's not because he doesn't want to eat. I thought maybe it was spit up bothering him, but there have been times he's spit up and I'll put in back on and he will still do it. Then I considered that maybe he drained my boob and he's frustrated because he's done with the hind milk, but I know my boob isn't drained (I'm getting much better at being able to tell). Here's the weird part.. sometimes I get so frustrated about this I switch boobs anyway even though I know he didn't drain the first one, and he is totally fine for like 2 minutes.. then starts back up again!! This is seriously the wierdest thing ever I can't figure it out. More feeds than not he DOESN'T do this. But when he does it's so aggravating. Sometimes he'll do it 2 mintues into the feed, other times he'll start this up around the end of the feed. Its getting to the point that when he throws his fits I'm pressing him firmly to me so he can't back off, and that'll work for a few seconds but then he tries so so so hard to back off so I let him. Then he cries and screams instantly, and as soon as I latch him back on he's calm and starts sucking away for about 10 seconds.. then wiggles, freaks out, and pulls himself off again!! What the hell is going on please someone tell me you've experienced this and actually figured out what it was...
My LO does/did this.... I think it's normal when they start becoming more aware of the world. When he goes through fussy periods like this I don't push it, let him come off and wait until he displays hunger cues again. Sometimes they only want a small feed anyway. X
My LO does this too, she arches her back, wriggles, pulls off violently and cries. I've read this can be caused by having a forceful/overactive letdown (which I have) as it can cause them to gulp a lot of air and creating a lot of discomfort. This doesn't happen to her at every feeding, because the flow and production changes at different times of the day.
When this happens I have to break her off and get a good burp out of her. She cries the whole time of course because I just took her off the breast, but as soon as I get that burp she calms down instantly. Also I find that, if I put her on the breast just enough to initiate the letdown, then break the suction with my pinky and hand express a little onto a towel (I just squeeze until milk stops forcefully spraying out) then she eats a lot easier and slower, which helps.
It definitely sounds like your LO might be experiencing a little discomfort, just from the way you describe it. Maybe if you try some of the things I mentioned and read up a little about overactive letdown, you might find some improvement (at least I hope so, I know how frustrating it can be and how sore my poor nips are from her head jerking)
cococobain - this is exactly what it sounds like.. because you can tell he's uncomfortable, almost like he's in pain! And there have been times where he's burped and still does it but SOMETIMES he will burp and it will stop it for a little bit. Also when I put him on the other boob he is completely fine (which is when the letdown happens so that confuses me..) but only for a few minutes before he does it again. So he was doing it really bad the last feed and I was determined it was this air thing so I kept try burping him but he doesnt burp! The feed took over an hour because I couldn't get a burp out of him. FINALLY he did a little one and it really did seem to help. This is so frustrating when he won't burp and can't eat because he keeps ripping himself off and crying! (And he jerks away from my nipples to.. unproper unlatching hurts )
How are you burping him? For some reason I too cannot get a burp out of her the normal way (propped against my shoulder and pat on back) when she gets herself that worked up, so one thing I found that worked is to stand up, hold her upright against me and act like I'm going down some steps by gently bouncing her. I know it sounds silly, but I swear it was the only thing that worked when she was colicky and it's the quickest way to get a burp out of her when this happens too.
I hope you find a way that works soon, for his sake and your poor nips
My baby does this a lot too, it is so frustrating and my arms ache so much after a while from trying to hold her still, I don't really know what it is butim guessing wind and I've found that after she fills her nappy she seems to feed a lot better and doesn't fuss so much so it's probably a combination of wind, constipation and what a pp said it could be the milk let downs too fast aswell x
LO does this, but only in the evening. I think it's gas. I burp and burp her....but till she poops she is miserable some nights. Last night she fussed and yelled at my boobs, on and off, but was insisting to nurse while flailing about (on and off). She had an explosive diaper situation at 11:30 and finally fell asleep after a bath. Poor baby.
So after that awful feeding I had earlier I looked up best ways to burp a baby and I saw a video on youtube of them sitting the baby up right and rocking it slightly back and fourth.. and it really works! I've been doing it since then and he usually burps (I figure the times it didn't happen he just didn't need to). I really hope I've finally figured this out.. If I just need to burp him every time he fusses and then continue feeding normally again I would be in heaven! It really is so frustrating.
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