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Old Jun 22nd, 2017, 11:56 AM   11
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As the others have said, complete nonsense! I'm sorry that medical professionals would treat you this way as that's the complete opposite of what they should be doing! I'm glad you posted here and received some reassurance that you're a great mother to your baby and doing nothing wrong.

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Old Jun 22nd, 2017, 12:21 PM   12
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Stories like this anger me terribly. NO ONE has the right to tell/coerce/force someone else to to something with their own body in any way shape or form.

If they say anything again, please stand up for yourself. Don't let them upset you. THEY should be the ones shamed.

Here are some possible retorts:

"This is my body. Not yours. How would you feel if someone tried to force you to do something with your body that you don't want to? That's actually a crime, ya know."

"How will I bond? With my heart."

"OMG! That's ridiculous, and so ignorant. What do you say to adoptive parents? Do you call them subpar?"

"No. A woman is not selfish just because she's thinking/caring about her own physical and mental/emotional health/happiness. To suggest so is misogynistic. Women matter in and of themselves, too. Shocking, I know!"

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Old Jun 22nd, 2017, 12:49 PM   13
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Some cracking answers there Witchrose. I'll defo be throwing them out there this time round.

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Old Jun 22nd, 2017, 19:06 PM   14
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Thanks everyone! Glad I posted; this has made me feel so much better. Feeling more confident in my decision

And witchrose, I'll have to remember those haha. I've actually gotten to the point that I'm gonna just say I'm breastfeeding so I don't have to deal with the "look".

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Old Jun 27th, 2017, 02:28 AM   15
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Awful people, completely unprofessional! They shouldn't speak to anyone like that!

Pumping is very hard, harder than breastfeeding, they shouldn't be admonishing you, they should be giving you a medal!

I had EMCS and baby wouldn't feed, then I pumped and didn't get enough milk (am still a bit angry at how the medical professionals didn't suggest I top her up with formula until she got low blood sugar). Eventually got her to bf (after I quitting pumping as it was so hard) and happily combi-fed after that, we always needed formula and that was fine.

They need to be more supportive of however a mother wants to feed their baby.

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Old Jul 1st, 2017, 17:35 PM   16
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Feed your baby however you want. You are doing what's best for you, what does it matter how she is fed as long as she's eating?

I personally hate pumping so I commend you. I get so cranky when I have to pump enough to make a bottle for me to leave the house without baby and have considered just doing formula for those times. I'm kind of also stingy with money since I'm not working so I haven't gone that route yet because I don't want to spend the money for something I can get for free and am just too lazy to do. But if it gets to be too much of a hassle I will, and you know what? Baby will be fine either way.

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Old Jul 2nd, 2017, 14:45 PM   17
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Dude. I am a huge fan of breastfeeding and for me it was the one thing that actually went well, so much so that I have been doing it for a few years now!

I had a friend at the same time who exclusively pumped for a year. I was in complete awe of her - she totally deserved daily praise and worship, and so do you. Your medical people are jerks and if you feel brave enough to put in a complaint, you would be doing a good thing

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Old Jul 5th, 2017, 10:54 AM   18
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I think what you are doing is amazing pumping is damn hard work much harder I would say than feeding directly from the breast

I breastfed with ease thankfully but when I went back to work at 6 weeks and had to pump OMG that was hard work and I found it just so stressful

Ignore those ignorant people you are doing an amazing job

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