Breastfeeding in a resturant? Rant

nullaby · May 9th, 2011, 20:46 PM

So I love my OH and he has been very supportive with breastfeeding but he seems very uncomfortable about feeding in public as he has asked me to bring a blanket incase I need to cover up. Well today we had lunch with some friends and he woke up so I gave DS to OH and said hlld him so I can get ready to nurse and he proceeded to gather our things tell our friends its time to leave.

So im confused and say he needs to eat and says lets go oit first. We get outside and then he tells me I cant feed in a resturant because exposing genitils which is a health code violation. So we get in the car and race home while baby is screaming to eat, about 7 mins.

So needless to say im pissed. The only breastfeeding law in colorado states a woman has the right to breastfeed anyplace she has a right to be. Its not like I would be feedimg in the kitchen so I dont know if he's right, I think I have the right to feed him in the reasturant..am I wrong??

somedaymama · May 9th, 2011, 21:22 PM

Yes, you definitely have the right to feed him in the restaurant. Breasts are meant for feeding babies, and they aren't genitals!!! My hubby was uncomfortable with it at first but he came around. Hopefully yours will too.

spacefem · May 9th, 2011, 21:26 PM

heh... if you're exposing your genitals to breastfeed, you're doing it wrong!

Breastfeeding is not a health code violation. Breastmilk is not a dirty bodily fluid, it's FOOD! And you have to feed your baby when practical, most people understand that.

Have you read this post? It's amazing:
http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/0...time-anywhere/

Blob · May 9th, 2011, 21:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spacefem

heh... if you're exposing your genitals to breastfeed, you're doing it wrong!

Breastfeeding is not a health code violation. Breastmilk is not a dirty bodily fluid, it's FOOD! And you have to feed your baby when practical, most people understand that.

Have you read this post? It's amazing:
http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/0...time-anywhere/

Thats insane, think your husband sounds embarrassed by your feeding

just keep doing it and he will get used to it, go you for being so confident

nullaby · May 9th, 2011, 22:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spacefem

heh... if you're exposing your genitals to breastfeed, you're doing it wrong!

Breastfeeding is not a health code violation. Breastmilk is not a dirty bodily fluid, it's FOOD! And you have to feed your baby when practical, most people understand that.

Have you read this post? It's amazing:
http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/0...time-anywhere/

I just read it, and its awesome!!

And I think he is embarassed, or being over protective? I'm not sure. He is so open minded about everything else but when it comes to breastfeeding in public it makes him so uncomfortable. Last time we all went out we were at Babies R Us and when DS woke ready to eat he asked if I should take him to the bathroom. I said no and to never suggest that again which he hasnt, but I really do hope it gets better!

cleckner04 · May 9th, 2011, 23:24 PM

Aww. It sounds like he just gets plain ol' flustered about you wanting to feed in public. You feed wherever YOU are comfortable hun. Let your DH just deal with it. There's no reason to leave your LO cry just because your DH isn't comfortable.

vera152 · May 9th, 2011, 23:25 PM

What about a nursing cover? My son is 16M and i still breastfeed him, even in public.

mrs_park · May 10th, 2011, 02:07 AM

I would also suggest a breastfeeding cover, they are great and very discreet. Sounds like your OH is just being protective.

lozzy21 · May 10th, 2011, 02:19 AM

I would have been livid if my OH had tryed to to that, how are people to see BF as normal if they never see it.

You feed where you feel comfortable and if your OH doesnt like it tell him though, hel get over it.

Id be inclined to cook his dinner but not dish it up for an hour after its ready, see how he likes waiting for his tea when hes hungry and dangled infront of him.

special_kala · May 10th, 2011, 02:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spacefem

heh... if you're exposing your genitals to breastfeed, you're doing it wrong!

Breastfeeding is not a health code violation. Breastmilk is not a dirty bodily fluid, it's FOOD! And you have to feed your baby when practical, most people understand that.

Have you read this post? It's amazing:
http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/0...time-anywhere/

Everyone else is eating so why shouldnt your baby?

May 9th, 2011, 20:46 PM	#1
nullaby Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Denver, CO Posts: 1,163	Breastfeeding in a resturant? Rant So I love my OH and he has been very supportive with breastfeeding but he seems very uncomfortable about feeding in public as he has asked me to bring a blanket incase I need to cover up. Well today we had lunch with some friends and he woke up so I gave DS to OH and said hlld him so I can get ready to nurse and he proceeded to gather our things tell our friends its time to leave. So im confused and say he needs to eat and says lets go oit first. We get outside and then he tells me I cant feed in a resturant because exposing genitils which is a health code violation. So we get in the car and race home while baby is screaming to eat, about 7 mins. So needless to say im pissed. The only breastfeeding law in colorado states a woman has the right to breastfeed anyplace she has a right to be. Its not like I would be feedimg in the kitchen so I dont know if he's right, I think I have the right to feed him in the reasturant..am I wrong??

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May 9th, 2011, 21:22 PM	#2
somedaymama Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 2,531	Yes, you definitely have the right to feed him in the restaurant. Breasts are meant for feeding babies, and they aren't genitals!!! My hubby was uncomfortable with it at first but he came around. Hopefully yours will too.

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May 9th, 2011, 21:26 PM	#3
spacefem Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Kansas Posts: 49	heh... if you're exposing your genitals to breastfeed, you're doing it wrong! Breastfeeding is not a health code violation. Breastmilk is not a dirty bodily fluid, it's FOOD! And you have to feed your baby when practical, most people understand that. Have you read this post? It's amazing: http://www.phdinparenting.com/2010/0...time-anywhere/

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May 9th, 2011, 23:24 PM	#6
cleckner04 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Edon, oh Posts: 21,293	Aww. It sounds like he just gets plain ol' flustered about you wanting to feed in public. You feed wherever YOU are comfortable hun. Let your DH just deal with it. There's no reason to leave your LO cry just because your DH isn't comfortable.

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vera152 Mum (Mom) New BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 5	What about a nursing cover? My son is 16M and i still breastfeed him, even in public.

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mrs_park Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 4,583	I would also suggest a breastfeeding cover, they are great and very discreet. Sounds like your OH is just being protective.

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May 10th, 2011, 02:19 AM	#9
lozzy21 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Teesside, Posts: 23,599	I would have been livid if my OH had tryed to to that, how are people to see BF as normal if they never see it. You feed where you feel comfortable and if your OH doesnt like it tell him though, hel get over it. Id be inclined to cook his dinner but not dish it up for an hour after its ready, see how he likes waiting for his tea when hes hungry and dangled infront of him.

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