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Old Mar 14th, 2017, 07:51 AM   2131
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*Hugs* I'm sorry you have gone through this. We had a chemical at 15 months post partum before we conceived DD. I know breastfeeding doesn't "cause" it, but it almost felt like my body wasn't quite ready or something. Two cycles/3 months later we conceived DD and had a great pregnancy - I continued to nurse DS through the entire pregnancy, but we did cut back to nights, naps, and booboos only pretty early on.

I am finally about to wean DS completely by his 4th birthday, DD is still a champion nurser, and I'm nearly 20 weeks pregnant again. This one was a surprise while we were tandem nursing, and again, at 18 months post partum.



 
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Old Mar 14th, 2017, 09:04 AM   2132
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Gingmg, thank you so much for your response. It's so hard to find people in a similar situation! I haven't had my hormones checked, I think they do that for IVF, but not for IUI, at least not here. He put me on progesterone after de insemination. I've had my period regularly since my son was 6 months old. He is 2 years and 3 months old. I've noticed that my luteal phase now is a little shorter than it was before. Befora I had my son my cycles were 28-29 days, after I had my son my cycles are around 26-28 days (and luteal phase ranges between 11 to 14 days). But that's not that short, right?
I asked the doctor to have my hormones checked, but he said there was no point on doing that, that everything was fine if I had my periods. He said prolactine eventually stabilizes so it shouldn't be preventing me from having a decent progesterone level. But to be on the safe side I was thinking about asking my GP to giv me the papers to have that checked anyway.
And the thing with the donor is exactly that, if we use it all of course we can always have another donor, but we sooo wanted to use the same one :/ my LO used to nurse maybe 6-8 days a day and I've reduced it like in half at the moment. He is nursing before going to sleep, a couple of times during the night and sometimes when he wakes up and I'm still there.



 
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Old Mar 15th, 2017, 07:30 AM   2133
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Your son is similar age to my son, and nursing about the same too. Your cycles sound regular so I don't think nursing should interfere with you getting pregnant, but that's my own non professional opinion. The friends I had that had problems conceiving while still nursing where nursing 11 and 13 month olds- which is very different than nursing a two year old. I think the chemical, unfortunately, was just bad luck. With only 4 vials of sperm left, I completely understand your fears, but I think it sounds unlikely that you would have fertility issues because of nursing. I know you got lucky conceiving your son on the first try, but try to remember that with no fertility issues it can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive. I don't think it will take you that long, I'm just trying to put it out there what is considered "normal ". How you proceed is of course completely up to you, it's a lot to weigh out. I hope you can come to a decision that you feel comfortable with. They do say you are more fertile after a chemical or miscarriage so maybe your lucky cycle is coming up??



 
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Old Mar 17th, 2017, 09:02 AM   2134
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Thank you for that! Yesterday I found out that some new vials were available for purchase at the bank sperm (From the same donor, probably vials that were reserved by some other family that gave up on them) so we bought one more, IUI ready, just in case. And that made me feel much better. If the vials are still available in April we might purchase one more.
I know that this cycle should be my most fertile one, because of the chemical pregnancy and also because I abruptly changed nursing patterns, but the doctor insists it's best for me to wait one cycle my wife agrees I really wanted to try right away, but I don't even know when I'm going to ovulate this cycle, I guess I'm waiting one cycle the doctor told us that we could try ICI at the clinic (for legal purposes, if we do it at the clinic my wife will legally be registred as mother at birth, instead of having to adopt my biological child) like we did with our first (at the time we were in the UK so we tried at home), maybe to take stress out of the equation. But now my big question is, should I do a medicated cycle or a spontaneous one? Or maybe a natural cycle with trigger shot only? Would a medicated cycle increase my odds?



 
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Old Apr 14th, 2017, 07:04 AM   2135
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Well, we ended up trying on our own at-home insemination with frozen sperm and it worked I just hope this time everything goes well. I do feel light contractions when I breastfeed my LO, so I'm reducing it as much as possible just for reassurance



 
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Old Apr 14th, 2017, 07:58 AM   2136
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Congrats Mafia! So happy for you!



 
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Old Apr 14th, 2017, 08:24 AM   2137
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Old Apr 14th, 2017, 08:32 AM   2138
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Congrats!



 
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Old Apr 16th, 2017, 05:57 AM   2139
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Hi ladies, just one question. I've been reading that one of the first pregnancy symptons women might have is breast soreness/tenderness. I remember having that symptom only with my first (up until I was 7 weeks at least, then I had other symptoms). I'm not having that at all. I've also read that the soreness is felt because of milk glandes that start multiplying and blood flow that increases. Is it possible that with nursing mamas we don't feel that so early on or so strong because we are still breastfeeding? Did you experience this at all?



 
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Old Apr 16th, 2017, 07:04 AM   2140
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Not early, no. It was a major symptom with first pregnancy, not with second, and with third it is almost exclisively nipple tenderness and it didn't come about until second tri.



 
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