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Ozzieshunni · Apr 10th, 2012, 10:36 AM

I've not had experience of this myself, but from what I've read in AITN, it is very normal to feel an aversion or anger towards the nursing toddler.

Could you explain that Mommy is very tired and she needs her rest for the new baby? Would Isla understand something like that?

Laughing Girl · Apr 10th, 2012, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Ozzieshunni

I've not had experience of this myself, but from what I've read in AITN, it is very normal to feel an aversion or anger towards the nursing toddler.

Could you explain that Mommy is very tired and she needs her rest for the new baby? Would Isla understand something like that?

Hiya, and thanks SO much for replying. Have to admit that I've tried that and whilst she does understand, she just cant deal with not nursing. I think that I am going to have to find a way of maintaining my temper - you would think that at 42 I would have coping mechanisms in place, but this seems to be beyond me- I am usually pretty placid and patient but this is apparently my achilles heel. The fact that you mention that it is normal to feel an aversion or anger does give me hope that it is a temporary state of being and I am so hoping that new milk will bring the answer..........

Tacey · Apr 10th, 2012, 11:22 AM

Laughing Girl, I really haven't got much advice but I do have masses of sympathy. I've been in the same situation, although it led to us night weaning and having separate beds by around 20 weeks. I've felt some very unpleasant emotions towards Alice through this pregnancy. Things I didn't think that good mothers felt, but hormones combined with lack of sleep have so much to answer for.

You're on the last leg of the pregnancy now. I'm sure that new milk will make a big difference to the situation. Don't be too hard on yourself, your body is just prioritising the new baby, and making you act accordingly, as difficult as that is.

Laughing Girl · Apr 10th, 2012, 11:27 AM

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Laughing Girl, I really haven't got much advice but I do have masses of sympathy. I've been in the same situation, although it led to us night weaning and having separate beds by around 20 weeks. I've felt some very unpleasant emotions towards Alice through this pregnancy. Things I didn't think that good mothers felt, but hormones combined with lack of sleep have so much to answer for.

You're on the last leg of the pregnancy now. I'm sure that new milk will make a big difference to the situation. Don't be too hard on yourself, your body is just prioritising the new baby, and making you act accordingly, as difficult as that is.

Thanks so much. I feel like a monster but hopefully in a few days things will come right. Poor Isla, I just hope that there is no long term emotional damage done by my being horrid and shouty.....
Its such a support and relief to hear that I'm not the only one to struggle - how have you managed not to inflict the unpleasant emotions on Alice? I think that that is what I am struggling with the most.....

Tacey · Apr 10th, 2012, 11:42 AM

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Laughing Girl, I really haven't got much advice but I do have masses of sympathy. I've been in the same situation, although it led to us night weaning and having separate beds by around 20 weeks. I've felt some very unpleasant emotions towards Alice through this pregnancy. Things I didn't think that good mothers felt, but hormones combined with lack of sleep have so much to answer for.

You're on the last leg of the pregnancy now. I'm sure that new milk will make a big difference to the situation. Don't be too hard on yourself, your body is just prioritising the new baby, and making you act accordingly, as difficult as that is.

Thanks so much. I feel like a monster but hopefully in a few days things will come right. Poor Isla, I just hope that there is no long term emotional damage done by my being horrid and shouty.....
Its such a support and relief to hear that I'm not the only one to struggle - how have you managed not to inflict the unpleasant emotions on Alice? I think that that is what I am struggling with the most.....

Erm... I haven't been entirely successful with that! We have had lots of shouty mummy moments at night. I just make sure to apologise to her after it happens. I have got a bit better at feeling it coming on, and I end up going to another room to calm down. DH sometimes takes her away for a bit too. Not very helpful really - sorry!

Ozzieshunni · Apr 10th, 2012, 11:48 AM

Tacey, I love hearing what Alice comes out with sometimes in regards to nursing, like the time she said "Thank you Mummy, that was nice!"

Tacey · Apr 10th, 2012, 11:54 AM

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Tacey, I love hearing what Alice comes out with sometimes in regards to nursing, like the time she said "Thank you Mummy, that was nice!"

She's a big fan of it. I can't believe she's just not been bothered about it while she's away. Having said that, she did stare at my mum's chest for a while this morning while she was having breakfast, then finally said "Granny, you don't have any mukmee, you just have breasts and nipples." My mum agreed (!) then Alice said "Mummy drank up all your mukmee when she was a little girl, and now there isn't any left."

Just as well she knows this - I don't think my mum would be up for dry nursing!

Laughing Girl · Apr 10th, 2012, 12:35 PM

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Laughing Girl, I really haven't got much advice but I do have masses of sympathy. I've been in the same situation, although it led to us night weaning and having separate beds by around 20 weeks. I've felt some very unpleasant emotions towards Alice through this pregnancy. Things I didn't think that good mothers felt, but hormones combined with lack of sleep have so much to answer for.

You're on the last leg of the pregnancy now. I'm sure that new milk will make a big difference to the situation. Don't be too hard on yourself, your body is just prioritising the new baby, and making you act accordingly, as difficult as that is.

Thanks so much. I feel like a monster but hopefully in a few days things will come right. Poor Isla, I just hope that there is no long term emotional damage done by my being horrid and shouty.....
Its such a support and relief to hear that I'm not the only one to struggle - how have you managed not to inflict the unpleasant emotions on Alice? I think that that is what I am struggling with the most.....

Erm... I haven't been entirely successful with that! We have had lots of shouty mummy moments at night. I just make sure to apologise to her after it happens. I have got a bit better at feeling it coming on, and I end up going to another room to calm down. DH sometimes takes her away for a bit too. Not very helpful really - sorry!

God, that is so good to hear!! Thanks x

Ozzieshunni · Apr 10th, 2012, 13:13 PM

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Tacey, I love hearing what Alice comes out with sometimes in regards to nursing, like the time she said "Thank you Mummy, that was nice!"

She's a big fan of it. I can't believe she's just not been bothered about it while she's away. Having said that, she did stare at my mum's chest for a while this morning while she was having breakfast, then finally said "Granny, you don't have any mukmee, you just have breasts and nipples." My mum agreed (!) then Alice said "Mummy drank up all your mukmee when she was a little girl, and now there isn't any left."

Just as well she knows this - I don't think my mum would be up for dry nursing!

And she'll grow up to give milk to her babies

It's so nice she sees it as absolutely natural and normal

tommyg · Apr 10th, 2012, 17:44 PM

Tracy that is so cute with Alice.

Ozzie sorry you never got the BFP but at least your ready to start again. I'm still in limbo land. Just about got shot of the bug thing that Smurf gave me so hopefully my body will sort it's self out.

Laughing Girl. When your dead beat and in pain it's easy to grump at LO's esp when they demand attention and you can't work out what they want. I was grumping at my poor Smurf this morning he was tired wouldn't sleep and I had tummy cramps and a dose of the runs. No nice hopefully he'll never remember

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Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,286	I've not had experience of this myself, but from what I've read in AITN, it is very normal to feel an aversion or anger towards the nursing toddler. Could you explain that Mommy is very tired and she needs her rest for the new baby? Would Isla understand something like that?

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Tacey Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Warwickshire Posts: 5,973	Laughing Girl, I really haven't got much advice but I do have masses of sympathy. I've been in the same situation, although it led to us night weaning and having separate beds by around 20 weeks. I've felt some very unpleasant emotions towards Alice through this pregnancy. Things I didn't think that good mothers felt, but hormones combined with lack of sleep have so much to answer for. You're on the last leg of the pregnancy now. I'm sure that new milk will make a big difference to the situation. Don't be too hard on yourself, your body is just prioritising the new baby, and making you act accordingly, as difficult as that is.

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tommyg Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Scotland Posts: 4,297	Tracy that is so cute with Alice. Ozzie sorry you never got the BFP but at least your ready to start again. I'm still in limbo land. Just about got shot of the bug thing that Smurf gave me so hopefully my body will sort it's self out. Laughing Girl. When your dead beat and in pain it's easy to grump at LO's esp when they demand attention and you can't work out what they want. I was grumping at my poor Smurf this morning he was tired wouldn't sleep and I had tummy cramps and a dose of the runs. No nice hopefully he'll never remember

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