feel like giving up need support

scaredmmy2b · Mar 1st, 2012, 17:27 PM

I have been bf for 1week6days now and my baby is all of a sudden always acting like his belly hurts being really fussy no longer wanting to eat on his 2hr set schedule since birth. And he is yanking away immediately after i put him on the breast it takes a lot of time to get him to start eating. I feel so tired and like giving up. But i know if i give up i will feel like a failure and i already feel like a failure about birth after my ecs and being put to sleep

Plus i am pretty sure i have a plugged duct and it hurts

TigerLady · Mar 1st, 2012, 18:34 PM

Are you feeding him on a 2 hour schedule or feeding him on demand? I can't tell for sure from your post.

If you have a plugged duct, you can clear it with heat and rigorous massage. And I mean rigorous. The best time to work on it is when you are in the shower, get a nice hot shower going, spray the water right onto where you think the block is and massage your breast down toward your nipple. Almost like you are trying to push the block out. Don't be gentle. Word of warning: it will hurt like crazy. But that means you are doing it right. You can also do the same deep massage when baby is feeding. Doing a couple of days of that should clear it and prevent it from becoming mastitis.

scaredmmy2b · Mar 1st, 2012, 19:57 PM

I feed every two hrs per dr orders because he lost so muuch weight at birth

cajunbabe · Mar 1st, 2012, 21:44 PM

If he sucks for a few minutes and then pulls off he might be unhappy about the rate of flow. Check out kellymom.com for help with changing flow.

TigerLady · Mar 2nd, 2012, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by scaredmmy2b

I feed every two hrs per dr orders because he lost so muuch weight at birth

This is probably your problem, to be honest.

What was his birth weight and what did he go down to? Is he gaining again? Has he reached birth weight yet?

Your best bet is to feed on demand and only offer if they aren't asking if they have gone longer than about 4 hours when they are that young. It sounds like he isn't really hungry so isn't really into it.

My DS was a very frequent feeder as a newborn -- every 1-2 hours. If I would have tried to make him go 2 hours everytime he would have screamed the house down. On the other hand, my DD was less frequent. Every 2-3 hours from day 1. Sometimes she'd be hungry 2 hours later and sometimes she wouldn't be hungry for another 3.

Schedule feeding is usually a bad idea for breastfed babies.

Laurenmomma · Mar 2nd, 2012, 08:44 AM

Ur doin a fab job to be doin every 2 hours so don't beat yourself up!

Maybe let him go a bit longer n see if he is any better? Also my ds became really fussy a few days ago n he needs winding a lot now so maybe it's that, iv heard its common n they get over it but I'd try a few things before giving up but don't feel like a failure if breastfeedig doesn't work out for you x

Maxy1 · Mar 2nd, 2012, 23:24 PM

I agree that the scheduled feedings is probably part of the problem. Is your LO emptying your breast fully when he feeds or just kinda fluffing around on it. It sounds a bit like too much fore-milk without knowing any more (I am unsure if this can happen that early but the symptoms are similar).

Mar 1st, 2012, 17:27 PM	#1
scaredmmy2b Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: USA Posts: 944	feel like giving up need support I have been bf for 1week6days now and my baby is all of a sudden always acting like his belly hurts being really fussy no longer wanting to eat on his 2hr set schedule since birth. And he is yanking away immediately after i put him on the breast it takes a lot of time to get him to start eating. I feel so tired and like giving up. But i know if i give up i will feel like a failure and i already feel like a failure about birth after my ecs and being put to sleep Plus i am pretty sure i have a plugged duct and it hurts

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Mar 1st, 2012, 18:34 PM	#2
TigerLady Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a Cave Posts: 24,275	Are you feeding him on a 2 hour schedule or feeding him on demand? I can't tell for sure from your post. If you have a plugged duct, you can clear it with heat and rigorous massage. And I mean rigorous. The best time to work on it is when you are in the shower, get a nice hot shower going, spray the water right onto where you think the block is and massage your breast down toward your nipple. Almost like you are trying to push the block out. Don't be gentle. Word of warning: it will hurt like crazy. But that means you are doing it right. You can also do the same deep massage when baby is feeding. Doing a couple of days of that should clear it and prevent it from becoming mastitis.

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Mar 1st, 2012, 19:57 PM	#3
scaredmmy2b Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: USA Posts: 944	I feed every two hrs per dr orders because he lost so muuch weight at birth

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cajunbabe Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Louisiana, USA Posts: 2,725	If he sucks for a few minutes and then pulls off he might be unhappy about the rate of flow. Check out kellymom.com for help with changing flow.

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Mar 2nd, 2012, 08:44 AM	#6
Laurenmomma Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Liverpool Posts: 4,713	Ur doin a fab job to be doin every 2 hours so don't beat yourself up! Maybe let him go a bit longer n see if he is any better? Also my ds became really fussy a few days ago n he needs winding a lot now so maybe it's that, iv heard its common n they get over it but I'd try a few things before giving up but don't feel like a failure if breastfeedig doesn't work out for you x

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Mar 2nd, 2012, 23:24 PM	#7
Maxy1 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 681	I agree that the scheduled feedings is probably part of the problem. Is your LO emptying your breast fully when he feeds or just kinda fluffing around on it. It sounds a bit like too much fore-milk without knowing any more (I am unsure if this can happen that early but the symptoms are similar).

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