Breastfeeding outside? - Page 3

RaspberryK · Mar 25th, 2012, 14:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Odd Socks

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Your sister? Good lord my brothers don't even do that!!!
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yep, my sister's not particularly mature! my older brother would probably turn away, or make some comment about not wanting to see my boobs, my little brother sits there & chats to me! my dad found it a bit awkward at first until he realised he couldn't actually see anything. my family are all formula feed / ers so don't really "get" breastfeeding.

xx

My poor bro's have both seen me in just my pants and feeding bra with no cover up on my boob feeding when LO was tiny

neither of them batted an eyelid I'm so proud of them. Ours is a FF family too and no one understands it but only the FIL and BIL and my "best friend"

were funny about it initially but we had the talk that basically this is what's going to happen and they'd best get used to it otherwise they'd never see me.

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Leeze · Mar 25th, 2012, 15:23 PM

I find the more I do it the less it bothers me. I really struggled at first and was very self-conscious. I had to BF on a very busy train recently and since then it's been a lot easier - somehow doing that has given me the confidence to do it more in public. I find most of the time people don't even notice.

Leeze · Mar 25th, 2012, 15:27 PM

oh, and I normally wear a BF top so it's pretty discrete anyway (although LO gets very distracted these days and definitely flashes my nipple occasionally) - I've also got a bebe au lait cover too that I have in my bag just in case I end up anywhere where I feel too self-conscious (but I've never had to use it yet)

Novbaby08 · Mar 26th, 2012, 07:28 AM

I just toss a blanket over my shoulder, and if I don't have that I try to keep my shirt in the way. If someone has a problem with it I dare them to say something to me.

I have gotten some dirty looks(mostly guys, a lot of girls give me a thumbs up), but not many have it in them to take on a girl over 6 feet tall lol

minibeast · Mar 26th, 2012, 10:45 AM

my girl is nearly 14 months now and it really does feel like the most natural thing to feed her wherever we are. i've had the odd very rare nasty look, but mostly no-one cares! i did have a bad experience the other day, i was at the golfcourse where my dad plays and helps out. serene was crying so i fed her which worked a treat, but later when i was sitting outside, the woman who serves food there came out and said the manager (who i chat to) asked her ask me not to feed her there cuz he doesn't want me to offend his customers. it really made me feel like i'd been caught doing something disgusting which i absolutely know isn't true. i kept my cool and said i can feed her wherever i like but not to worry because i wont be coming back. they make a fuss over serene and say how happy and laid back she is, but they dont get thats because i give her my breast when she needs it. it makes me relax too! they dont know any better. i'll keep doing what feels right. i do wonder what age she'll be when i start worrying about feeding her in public

Rebaby · Mar 26th, 2012, 17:41 PM

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Originally Posted by minibeast

my girl is nearly 14 months now and it really does feel like the most natural thing to feed her wherever we are. i've had the odd very rare nasty look, but mostly no-one cares! i did have a bad experience the other day, i was at the golfcourse where my dad plays and helps out. serene was crying so i fed her which worked a treat, but later when i was sitting outside, the woman who serves food there came out and said the manager (who i chat to) asked her ask me not to feed her there cuz he doesn't want me to offend his customers. it really made me feel like i'd been caught doing something disgusting which i absolutely know isn't true. i kept my cool and said i can feed her wherever i like but not to worry because i wont be coming back. they make a fuss over serene and say how happy and laid back she is, but they dont get thats because i give her my breast when she needs it. it makes me relax too! they dont know any better. i'll keep doing what feels right. i do wonder what age she'll be when i start worrying about feeding her in public

You sound like you handled that really well

i hope you'll feel happy NIP for a long time yet

And to the OP, i know i used to feel a bit anxious at first but these days i just get on with it and i've yet to have a negative experience. I do get the odd "look" from people but tbh most of the time i'm too busy looking at my scrummy baby or entertaining my scrummy toddler or having a conversation with someone to actually notice or give a hoot what anyone else thinks!

If you think it would help you feel more confident you can get breastfeeding tops/clothes which help you to be discreet. I wear a "breast vest" under normal tops so that when i lift my top up i don't flash my wobbly tum (although that's mainly for other people's benefit rather than mine- no one wants to see that!

lol)

The more people that do nurse in public the better the chances of society starting to accept that breastfeeding is normal and natural and an everyday event rather than something to get worked up about

gidge · Mar 27th, 2012, 13:15 PM

I was a bit nervous in the first few weeks, but now i don´t care i feed her wherever i am. if i feel there are too many people around i will cover with a muslin but most of the time i find i don´t need to as the nipple is covered by her mouth anyway!
i don´t understand how anybody can find anything negative about one of the most natural things in the world!
i feel very proud to be breast feeding.

WantingABubba · Mar 27th, 2012, 13:30 PM

Well done on you ladies for NIP! I always smile when I see ladies BF'ing or NIP. I think it's beautiful, and shows a caring, strong Mama to me. It's a shame I don't see it more often - the attitude towards NIP and BF'ing in general is disgusting. You can blame our sexually fucked up society and formula companies for that.

I will NIP when I have my LO

WantingABubba · Mar 27th, 2012, 13:30 PM

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Originally Posted by minibeast

my girl is nearly 14 months now and it really does feel like the most natural thing to feed her wherever we are. i've had the odd very rare nasty look, but mostly no-one cares! i did have a bad experience the other day, i was at the golfcourse where my dad plays and helps out. serene was crying so i fed her which worked a treat, but later when i was sitting outside, the woman who serves food there came out and said the manager (who i chat to) asked her ask me not to feed her there cuz he doesn't want me to offend his customers. it really made me feel like i'd been caught doing something disgusting which i absolutely know isn't true. i kept my cool and said i can feed her wherever i like but not to worry because i wont be coming back. they make a fuss over serene and say how happy and laid back she is, but they dont get thats because i give her my breast when she needs it. it makes me relax too! they dont know any better. i'll keep doing what feels right. i do wonder what age she'll be when i start worrying about feeding her in public

Omg, how horrible! So sorry you were treated like that

well done on you for sticking up for yourself, though! Good Mama

Mar 25th, 2012, 15:23 PM	#22
Leeze Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: London Posts: 2,913	I find the more I do it the less it bothers me. I really struggled at first and was very self-conscious. I had to BF on a very busy train recently and since then it's been a lot easier - somehow doing that has given me the confidence to do it more in public. I find most of the time people don't even notice.

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Mar 25th, 2012, 15:27 PM	#23
Leeze Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: London Posts: 2,913	oh, and I normally wear a BF top so it's pretty discrete anyway (although LO gets very distracted these days and definitely flashes my nipple occasionally) - I've also got a bebe au lait cover too that I have in my bag just in case I end up anywhere where I feel too self-conscious (but I've never had to use it yet)

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Mar 26th, 2012, 07:28 AM	#24
Novbaby08 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Utah Posts: 2,658	I just toss a blanket over my shoulder, and if I don't have that I try to keep my shirt in the way. If someone has a problem with it I dare them to say something to me. I have gotten some dirty looks(mostly guys, a lot of girls give me a thumbs up), but not many have it in them to take on a girl over 6 feet tall lol

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Mar 26th, 2012, 10:45 AM	#25
minibeast Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Bournemouth Posts: 364	my girl is nearly 14 months now and it really does feel like the most natural thing to feed her wherever we are. i've had the odd very rare nasty look, but mostly no-one cares! i did have a bad experience the other day, i was at the golfcourse where my dad plays and helps out. serene was crying so i fed her which worked a treat, but later when i was sitting outside, the woman who serves food there came out and said the manager (who i chat to) asked her ask me not to feed her there cuz he doesn't want me to offend his customers. it really made me feel like i'd been caught doing something disgusting which i absolutely know isn't true. i kept my cool and said i can feed her wherever i like but not to worry because i wont be coming back. they make a fuss over serene and say how happy and laid back she is, but they dont get thats because i give her my breast when she needs it. it makes me relax too! they dont know any better. i'll keep doing what feels right. i do wonder what age she'll be when i start worrying about feeding her in public

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Mar 27th, 2012, 13:15 PM	#27
gidge Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Lanzarote Posts: 925	I was a bit nervous in the first few weeks, but now i don´t care i feed her wherever i am. if i feel there are too many people around i will cover with a muslin but most of the time i find i don´t need to as the nipple is covered by her mouth anyway! i don´t understand how anybody can find anything negative about one of the most natural things in the world! i feel very proud to be breast feeding.

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Mar 27th, 2012, 13:30 PM	#28
WantingABubba Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 2,546	Well done on you ladies for NIP! I always smile when I see ladies BF'ing or NIP. I think it's beautiful, and shows a caring, strong Mama to me. It's a shame I don't see it more often - the attitude towards NIP and BF'ing in general is disgusting. You can blame our sexually fucked up society and formula companies for that. I will NIP when I have my LO

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