So frustrated I cried

kimmie_kisses · Mar 30th, 2012, 22:52 PM

I gave birth to my LO on Monday via c-section. I started BF him on Tuesday and we had some trouble but he did quite well on Wednesday and most of Thursday. On Thursday the nurses gave him a pacifier. Since then he will NOT BF. I put him up to my breast and he refuses and just starts fussing. Initially we used a syringe with formula in it to help him get started. Now that won't even work. My milk is really starting to come in and it's painful. I cannot get him to feed to relieve this. I have tried pumping it and that helps some but not nearly enough. After a few minutes of him yelling, I give in and syringe feed him. I need help!!!! I really don't want to give up, but I don't know what to do.

YoshiPikachu · Mar 30th, 2012, 23:05 PM

If I was you I would complain about the nurses giving him a pacifer. I was told way before I gave birth that you don't give a baby a pacifer when you are breastfeeding until the baby is at least 3 to 4 weeks old. I feel really bad.

Don't give up!

TheNewMrs · Mar 31st, 2012, 02:11 AM

I don't have any advice other than keep at it! It's hard work. My LO is 5days now and like you born via C-sectiion. We had a good couple of days and got thrown off after she needed top-up feeds and they suggested by bottle. We struggled for 2daus! She screamed and I bawled!!

She's doing great since yesterday morning. Feeding 1hr+ at a time. Just keep trying.

mum2jess · Mar 31st, 2012, 03:08 AM

Oh, you poor thing, the early days can be so hard. Do you have access to any breastfeeding support, either a phone line or a counsellor who can come round? I don't know how it works in the US but I'm sure there must be support out there.

poweris3 · Mar 31st, 2012, 03:54 AM

I can't believe the nurses did that... I'd make a formal complain against the staff member responsible hun.

I don't really have any advice other than keep at it. If your milk is coming in you may be a bit engorged, if your nipples are flattened by this then maybe try hand expressing a few drop until your nipple is more sticky out again. Also, the reason dummys and bottles are preferred by babies is because they trigger the sucking reflex and are easier. Once LO opens up wide ready to feed try aiming your nipple to the roof of their mouth as you push it in, it might help them get a better latch.

I'm really sorry the hospital have messed this up for you and made your job ten times harder. You can do it though

x

Menelly · Mar 31st, 2012, 06:34 AM

I'd start from scratch. Find the comfiest place in your house to camp for a few hours. Get both of you naked, do some skin to skin as long as you can. When he starts rooting, try to gently lead him to your breast. If either one of you gets frustrated, put him back up in skin to skin position, take a few deep breaths, and try again when he tries again.

You could look into trying one of those supplimentary systems that attaches to your nipple, so he gets rewarded instantly by sucking on your nipple instead? My LO gets PISSED waiting for letdown.

Maggs · Mar 31st, 2012, 09:09 AM

^WSS sounds like a wonderful idea! Have a nurse-in. Camp out in bed or on the couch with snacks, lots of water and a book or tv remote and just make it as relaxing as possible for the both of you. The more pressure he feels from you, the more stressed he will be. He will eventually get back, but it might take a bit of time.

MaybBaby · Mar 31st, 2012, 15:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Menelly

I'd start from scratch. Find the comfiest place in your house to camp for a few hours. Get both of you naked, do some skin to skin as long as you can. When he starts rooting, try to gently lead him to your breast. If either one of you gets frustrated, put him back up in skin to skin position, take a few deep breaths, and try again when he tries again.

You could look into trying one of those supplimentary systems that attaches to your nipple, so he gets rewarded instantly by sucking on your nipple instead? My LO gets PISSED waiting for letdown.

wss! deffo skin to skin, those mw's shouldn't have given a dummy so early

you poor thing

keep at it, maybe squirt a drop of milk so it sits on the nipple for LO to sniff and hopefully get a latch, i also found wet warm/hot flannels before expressing helped and when not expressing some savoy cabbage leaves from the fridge on the breast soothed them, just dont leave them too long as ive heard they can slow your supply, bjt it didnt affect mine

hth

kimmie_kisses · Mar 31st, 2012, 16:50 PM

So far today I have tried waiting out LO's cries until he calmed down enough to feed. He put himself to sleep and I could not wake him. As exhausted as I was I napped. My husband brought him to me when he saw LO starting to wake up, but all he would do is cry. I let this go on for 30 mins until I decided he absolutely had to eat. It had been nearly 6 hours since his last meal. I had enough breast milk expressed to satisfy him. By the way, I am not feeding him the expressed milk from a bottle. We are syringe feeding him while he sucks on my finger.

I am trying to express just a couple drops out to get him smelling it, but today all he would do is kinda lick it off and not bother trying to latch. He did get latched on for two sucks but then he just quits. I try to re-latch him and he just fights me and fusses. I've tried swaddling him and not swaddling him. Doesn't seem to matter which.

I am trying to get an appt with a lactation consultant at the hospital where I delivered. Just waiting on a phone call back.

flashy09 · Mar 31st, 2012, 18:40 PM

Please go get a nipple shield!! I am almost positive your baby will latch right on. They saved my life the first three weeks. I would never have BF without them (she dropped them cold turkey at 3 weeks). Medela makes a great one.

Mar 30th, 2012, 22:52 PM	#1
kimmie_kisses Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Pace, FL Posts: 278	So frustrated I cried I gave birth to my LO on Monday via c-section. I started BF him on Tuesday and we had some trouble but he did quite well on Wednesday and most of Thursday. On Thursday the nurses gave him a pacifier. Since then he will NOT BF. I put him up to my breast and he refuses and just starts fussing. Initially we used a syringe with formula in it to help him get started. Now that won't even work. My milk is really starting to come in and it's painful. I cannot get him to feed to relieve this. I have tried pumping it and that helps some but not nearly enough. After a few minutes of him yelling, I give in and syringe feed him. I need help!!!! I really don't want to give up, but I don't know what to do.

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Mar 30th, 2012, 23:05 PM	#2
YoshiPikachu Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Minnesota Posts: 2,018	If I was you I would complain about the nurses giving him a pacifer. I was told way before I gave birth that you don't give a baby a pacifer when you are breastfeeding until the baby is at least 3 to 4 weeks old. I feel really bad. Don't give up!

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Mar 31st, 2012, 02:11 AM	#3
TheNewMrs Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Leinster, Ireland Posts: 2,663	I don't have any advice other than keep at it! It's hard work. My LO is 5days now and like you born via C-sectiion. We had a good couple of days and got thrown off after she needed top-up feeds and they suggested by bottle. We struggled for 2daus! She screamed and I bawled!! She's doing great since yesterday morning. Feeding 1hr+ at a time. Just keep trying.

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Mar 31st, 2012, 03:08 AM	#4
mum2jess Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 101	Oh, you poor thing, the early days can be so hard. Do you have access to any breastfeeding support, either a phone line or a counsellor who can come round? I don't know how it works in the US but I'm sure there must be support out there.

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Mar 31st, 2012, 03:54 AM	#5
poweris3 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Co Durham Posts: 53	I can't believe the nurses did that... I'd make a formal complain against the staff member responsible hun. I don't really have any advice other than keep at it. If your milk is coming in you may be a bit engorged, if your nipples are flattened by this then maybe try hand expressing a few drop until your nipple is more sticky out again. Also, the reason dummys and bottles are preferred by babies is because they trigger the sucking reflex and are easier. Once LO opens up wide ready to feed try aiming your nipple to the roof of their mouth as you push it in, it might help them get a better latch. I'm really sorry the hospital have messed this up for you and made your job ten times harder. You can do it though x

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Mar 31st, 2012, 06:34 AM	#6
Menelly Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Utah Posts: 3,464	I'd start from scratch. Find the comfiest place in your house to camp for a few hours. Get both of you naked, do some skin to skin as long as you can. When he starts rooting, try to gently lead him to your breast. If either one of you gets frustrated, put him back up in skin to skin position, take a few deep breaths, and try again when he tries again. You could look into trying one of those supplimentary systems that attaches to your nipple, so he gets rewarded instantly by sucking on your nipple instead? My LO gets PISSED waiting for letdown.

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Mar 31st, 2012, 09:09 AM	#7
Maggs Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Canadian living in Scotland Posts: 2,437	^WSS sounds like a wonderful idea! Have a nurse-in. Camp out in bed or on the couch with snacks, lots of water and a book or tv remote and just make it as relaxing as possible for the both of you. The more pressure he feels from you, the more stressed he will be. He will eventually get back, but it might take a bit of time.

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Mar 31st, 2012, 16:50 PM	#9
kimmie_kisses Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Pace, FL Posts: 278	So far today I have tried waiting out LO's cries until he calmed down enough to feed. He put himself to sleep and I could not wake him. As exhausted as I was I napped. My husband brought him to me when he saw LO starting to wake up, but all he would do is cry. I let this go on for 30 mins until I decided he absolutely had to eat. It had been nearly 6 hours since his last meal. I had enough breast milk expressed to satisfy him. By the way, I am not feeding him the expressed milk from a bottle. We are syringe feeding him while he sucks on my finger. I am trying to express just a couple drops out to get him smelling it, but today all he would do is kinda lick it off and not bother trying to latch. He did get latched on for two sucks but then he just quits. I try to re-latch him and he just fights me and fusses. I've tried swaddling him and not swaddling him. Doesn't seem to matter which. I am trying to get an appt with a lactation consultant at the hospital where I delivered. Just waiting on a phone call back.

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Mar 31st, 2012, 18:40 PM	#10
flashy09 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: USA Posts: 1,173	Please go get a nipple shield!! I am almost positive your baby will latch right on. They saved my life the first three weeks. I would never have BF without them (she dropped them cold turkey at 3 weeks). Medela makes a great one.

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