MIL forcing me to start solids

skris4 · Apr 6th, 2012, 18:57 PM

My DD is almost 5 months old. For the past week or so she has had a major growth spurt. Usually I let her suckle more to meet her demands but this time she just refuses to suckle if there is no milk. I wonder if it is because she is older and can discern between milk/no milk but either way it is stressing me a lot. Anyway nothing seems to be working and my MIL is adding to my stress by saying that she is ready for solids. Although she watches my eat food and makes chewing movements with her mouth I feel she is too young to eat pureed food. She can't even sit upright without support! I am so upset .

Also, we are planning a 4 day weekend during the last week of May and my MIL thinks I should give up BFing then. She only BFed my husband for 6 months so she argues that is all that the baby needs. I am hoping to go ATLEAST a year if I can maintain supply. Help me see some light !

tommyg · Apr 6th, 2012, 19:41 PM

I am always suspicious of grannys who want LO's on food or bottles as often the underlying reason is so they can get a shot feeding.

Your baby your decison personally I'd stick to your guns and tell her you'll be doing BLW so she knows she won't be getting to muscle in with shoving food in LO's face.

booda · Apr 6th, 2012, 19:52 PM

Oooh yeah, shove BLW down her throat mwahahahahaha, no spoonfeeding for her! Also tell her to stop risking her grandchilds health, if she really cared shed back the f*ck off and let you BF til LO is 7 ifs he wants!

marycotter567 · Apr 6th, 2012, 22:17 PM

I am feeling the pressure from both my mom and MIL. MIL bought a high chair today but she knows I dont plan on introducing solids for at least another month

And my mom is always trying to get me to give him something.. when she was helojg me bathe him one time and he got some water on his face she said "look how thirsty he is.. at least give him some water!"

I just ignore it and if need be remind them that he isnt ready for solids yet.

mummyruston · Apr 7th, 2012, 03:09 AM

Agree! Mils do it out of selfish wants!!

My mil said to me when LO was 8w "it's a Shame she can't have any of the buffet!! Then at 11w asked when I will be putting her in a high chair to feed at the table!!

I said she is far too young and will not be going in a high chair for a few months yet!!

She also makes 'jokey' suggestions and offers my 12w old baby food!!!

Tell your mil you will Bfing for as long as you can and it is recommended for 2y actually!

MegGriffin · Apr 7th, 2012, 03:09 AM

My lo is the same age and I'm feeling a lot of pressure from my mum to start of solids because I was given solids at 4 months - but that was the advice in the 80s, I'm trying to follow current advise! Having that, I'm also getting a lot of pressure from nct friends to BLW lo now because they're doing it, but their lo's are about 3-4 weeks older than mine, and at this age there is a pretty difference between an almost 5 month old and an almost 6 month old I think.

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Creative · Apr 7th, 2012, 03:23 AM

I had children spanning over the give solids at 4 months and give solids at 6months.
There was always pressure to start at 3 months, but I held out till 4 months. I can honestly say that it actually felt far more natural with my daughter to leave her till 6 months. Bf accommodates a babies growing hunger as the more they want the more you make. By introducing solids earlier, you would be cutting down your milk supply. Use authority figures like health visitors and doctors as back up to your arguments. This is what research has found is the best for a baby etc.
You are the mum, you know your baby better than any grandparent and you need to make the decision and be firm about it and state firmly, this is how it will be.

Mindy_mini · Apr 7th, 2012, 03:30 AM

She's only forcing you if yOu let her. Tell her you're perfectly happy bf-ing and you intend to do so until lo is a year. As for solids just tell her lo isn't ready end of.

CandyDay · Apr 7th, 2012, 08:01 AM

http://kellymom.com/ages/older-infant/ebf-benefits/

http://kellymom.com/nutrition/starti...s/solids-when/

muddles · Apr 7th, 2012, 08:04 AM

Stick to your guns-your baby your rules! You will know when your LO is ready for solids. everyone has an opinion but you don't need to listen to it. You bf for as long as you and your LO want to, and start BLW/TW when your LO is ready.

Apr 6th, 2012, 18:57 PM	#1
skris4 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: California Posts: 470	MIL forcing me to start solids My DD is almost 5 months old. For the past week or so she has had a major growth spurt. Usually I let her suckle more to meet her demands but this time she just refuses to suckle if there is no milk. I wonder if it is because she is older and can discern between milk/no milk but either way it is stressing me a lot. Anyway nothing seems to be working and my MIL is adding to my stress by saying that she is ready for solids. Although she watches my eat food and makes chewing movements with her mouth I feel she is too young to eat pureed food. She can't even sit upright without support! I am so upset . Also, we are planning a 4 day weekend during the last week of May and my MIL thinks I should give up BFing then. She only BFed my husband for 6 months so she argues that is all that the baby needs. I am hoping to go ATLEAST a year if I can maintain supply. Help me see some light !

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Apr 6th, 2012, 19:41 PM	#2
tommyg Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Scotland Posts: 4,343	I am always suspicious of grannys who want LO's on food or bottles as often the underlying reason is so they can get a shot feeding. Your baby your decison personally I'd stick to your guns and tell her you'll be doing BLW so she knows she won't be getting to muscle in with shoving food in LO's face.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 19:52 PM	#3
booda Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Not here. Posts: 1,444	Oooh yeah, shove BLW down her throat mwahahahahaha, no spoonfeeding for her! Also tell her to stop risking her grandchilds health, if she really cared shed back the f*ck off and let you BF til LO is 7 ifs he wants!

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Apr 6th, 2012, 22:17 PM	#4
marycotter567 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 498	I am feeling the pressure from both my mom and MIL. MIL bought a high chair today but she knows I dont plan on introducing solids for at least another month And my mom is always trying to get me to give him something.. when she was helojg me bathe him one time and he got some water on his face she said "look how thirsty he is.. at least give him some water!" I just ignore it and if need be remind them that he isnt ready for solids yet.

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Apr 7th, 2012, 03:09 AM	#5
mummyruston Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 1,189	Agree! Mils do it out of selfish wants!! My mil said to me when LO was 8w "it's a Shame she can't have any of the buffet!! Then at 11w asked when I will be putting her in a high chair to feed at the table!! I said she is far too young and will not be going in a high chair for a few months yet!! She also makes 'jokey' suggestions and offers my 12w old baby food!!! Tell your mil you will Bfing for as long as you can and it is recommended for 2y actually!

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Apr 7th, 2012, 03:09 AM	#6
MegGriffin Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: UK Posts: 2,243	My lo is the same age and I'm feeling a lot of pressure from my mum to start of solids because I was given solids at 4 months - but that was the advice in the 80s, I'm trying to follow current advise! Having that, I'm also getting a lot of pressure from nct friends to BLW lo now because they're doing it, but their lo's are about 3-4 weeks older than mine, and at this age there is a pretty difference between an almost 5 month old and an almost 6 month old I think. X

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Apr 7th, 2012, 03:23 AM	#7
Creative Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: East Yorkshire Posts: 1,318	I had children spanning over the give solids at 4 months and give solids at 6months. There was always pressure to start at 3 months, but I held out till 4 months. I can honestly say that it actually felt far more natural with my daughter to leave her till 6 months. Bf accommodates a babies growing hunger as the more they want the more you make. By introducing solids earlier, you would be cutting down your milk supply. Use authority figures like health visitors and doctors as back up to your arguments. This is what research has found is the best for a baby etc. You are the mum, you know your baby better than any grandparent and you need to make the decision and be firm about it and state firmly, this is how it will be.

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Apr 7th, 2012, 03:30 AM	#8
Mindy_mini Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 2,080	She's only forcing you if yOu let her. Tell her you're perfectly happy bf-ing and you intend to do so until lo is a year. As for solids just tell her lo isn't ready end of.

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muddles Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: UK Posts: 2,951	Stick to your guns-your baby your rules! You will know when your LO is ready for solids. everyone has an opinion but you don't need to listen to it. You bf for as long as you and your LO want to, and start BLW/TW when your LO is ready.

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