FED UP of constant comments! - Page 5

YoshiPikachu · Apr 14th, 2012, 18:38 PM

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Originally Posted by meli1981

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Originally Posted by JakesMummy

I apologise, in advance, for the rant that's about to erupt!!

I am SO SO proud of myself that we made it to a year of EBF (well, almost..only 11 days away

But I never bring it up in conversation nor do I go on about it, but if asked if I am still feeding my lo, then I reply with "Yes, of course" or something along those lines. Then I can almost predict what will happen next. The usual response I get is "Yuck! You're STILL breastfeeding at a year?! That isn't normal!". Now this is the number one response that get's my goat. ISN'T NORMAL?!?! Then if the most natural thing in the world isn't normal, what the eff is?!

Don't get me wrong, I am not against any other form of feeding, seeing as I hardly BF my first, but it's the pure fact people can be so rude about it!!

I always have an answer usually along the lines of "a human drinking cows milk is normal?". Again I do drink cows milk, and so will Amelia when she decided to wean off of me, but for now I am doing what I want to do. Not what YOU think I should do! (YOU being the person critisicing my choice!)

Sorry to get on my soapbox, I am just sick to death of the comments and god forbid I feed my daughter in public. She is very tall so looks like a long toddler on my lap

but I ALWAYS get a snide comment.
When LO was a baby, I always got nice remarks and friendly smiles but now it is horrifying lol Even some members of my extended family made comments recently.

What am I going to do? Carry on feeding her myself and let the, think their thoughts as I sure as hell won't let it affect me!!

(Sorry for the full on rant. I found breastfeeding incredibly hard the first couple of months and for us to get this far is incredible, as I never thought we would! Thankyou for still reading, if you got this far!)

Anyone else receive comments now you BF an older baby/toddler?

i bf my first daughter until she was eighteen months, and my mother and grandmother said i was nursing too long. my mother would make comments like, "ih youre going to put her on your boob again!" oh come on im just feeding my baby! i never bf in public for fear of stares and comments from strangers, as it was when my daughter was just a few days old i was out and to bf in the car and a lady walking by gave me a dirty look, even though i was covered and we were in my car! just keep doing what youre doing, and congrats on your one year milestone!

Wow that is sad. I will pump just because I don't want to deal with crap like that when I'm out.

Sherileigh · Apr 14th, 2012, 18:45 PM

I had one person ask me how long I'll bf for and when I told them 2 years thy proceeded to tell me why they thought that was gross! Moron. Hmmm did I ask your opinion??

JakesMummy · Apr 14th, 2012, 18:45 PM

Yoshi - Honestly, these people are in the minority! Please don't let it put you off feeding whilst in public, these idiots just can't keep things to themselves and be proud of the fact that your BFing your baby and giving him the best start in life!

LittleAngel09 · Apr 16th, 2012, 03:46 AM

I'm only 8 weeks into ebf but already I've started getting that 'when you going to stop doing that' question! You're doing an amazing job. The WHO recommend 2 years anyway so poo them. Hold your head up high, you've given your child the absolute best start in life. I ff my first and it didn't cause such divided opinions as my choice to bf. Every week my own mum asks if I'm still managing to bf! Why would I suddenly not be ok with it at 8 weeks.

Sorry, started a bit of my own rant.

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motherofboys · Apr 17th, 2012, 11:32 AM

Very few people know that I am still breastfeeding my 25 month old. We stopped feeding in public and around other people when he was 14 months, mainly because he was too distracted and never bothered asking. i guess people just assumed because they never saw it, it never happened. I went out for the night when he was 17 months old with some friends. We were standing out side a pub talking about breastfeeding and I admited that I was still feeding, I hadnt planned this long, in fact 6 months had been my goal. One of them actually made a disgusted noise said "I just couldnt do THAT!" and walked away from me and went inside.
The next time someone asked me and I said yes, I was told "well you'll want to stop by 2 years, thats the recommended, you don't want to end up like Sam, shes still breastfeeding George and his almost 3!" In fact the little boy had only turned 2 a month or so before hand, and I thought so what if I end up like Sam, all I can say is lucky little George. So now its just my hubby and my kids who ever see me breastfeed, and only they, and Sam know that I am still breastfeeding at all.

motherofboys · Apr 17th, 2012, 11:41 AM

I have never had a stanger comment. My favourite place when I was still breastfeeding in public was the sainsburys cafe, right next to the breastfeeding welcome here sign so if anyone moaned i could just point at the sign lol

cheese lover · Apr 17th, 2012, 11:46 AM

Its sad that we feel like we have to hide it like its shameful to BF that long.

I don't know what I'm going to do. Part of me wants to BF whenever, whereever, but I'm sure I'll get discouraged by comments.

My parents and sister are here visiting and my mom asked gently how long I was planning on continuing and I told her I had no idea and it was kinda up to LO. My sister chimed in and said that I should stop before she can ask for it. Then I mentioned that evolutionarily the normal weaning age is between 2 and 7 years old. I then told my sister that I did hope she would be done BFing before she goes to school

She kinda laughed. It wasn't a bad conversation and I hope I educated my sister a little. My mom did BF us until she went back to work.

EmyDra · Apr 17th, 2012, 11:50 AM

I was funny about BFinf in public around 11-13 months, then I suddenly got over it and I feed my 15 month old out I've not had a negative comment so far.

marley2580 · Apr 17th, 2012, 12:12 PM

I actually get annoyed at 'supportive' comments. When they hear that I fed both my older girls to 18 months or so I always get 'oh you did so well'. It just sounds really patronising to me. I don't think anyone would dare to make a negative comment to me lol

cassarita · Apr 17th, 2012, 12:18 PM

Some people are so ignorant. I can hardly wait for all the ******** comments I'm going to get from my MIL and that family

Apr 14th, 2012, 18:45 PM	#42
Sherileigh Other BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 4,789	I had one person ask me how long I'll bf for and when I told them 2 years thy proceeded to tell me why they thought that was gross! Moron. Hmmm did I ask your opinion??

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Apr 14th, 2012, 18:45 PM	#43
JakesMummy Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 2,237	Yoshi - Honestly, these people are in the minority! Please don't let it put you off feeding whilst in public, these idiots just can't keep things to themselves and be proud of the fact that your BFing your baby and giving him the best start in life!

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Apr 16th, 2012, 03:46 AM	#44
LittleAngel09 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: West Sussex Posts: 505	I'm only 8 weeks into ebf but already I've started getting that 'when you going to stop doing that' question! You're doing an amazing job. The WHO recommend 2 years anyway so poo them. Hold your head up high, you've given your child the absolute best start in life. I ff my first and it didn't cause such divided opinions as my choice to bf. Every week my own mum asks if I'm still managing to bf! Why would I suddenly not be ok with it at 8 weeks. Sorry, started a bit of my own rant. X

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Apr 17th, 2012, 11:32 AM	#45
motherofboys Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 3,186	Very few people know that I am still breastfeeding my 25 month old. We stopped feeding in public and around other people when he was 14 months, mainly because he was too distracted and never bothered asking. i guess people just assumed because they never saw it, it never happened. I went out for the night when he was 17 months old with some friends. We were standing out side a pub talking about breastfeeding and I admited that I was still feeding, I hadnt planned this long, in fact 6 months had been my goal. One of them actually made a disgusted noise said "I just couldnt do THAT!" and walked away from me and went inside. The next time someone asked me and I said yes, I was told "well you'll want to stop by 2 years, thats the recommended, you don't want to end up like Sam, shes still breastfeeding George and his almost 3!" In fact the little boy had only turned 2 a month or so before hand, and I thought so what if I end up like Sam, all I can say is lucky little George. So now its just my hubby and my kids who ever see me breastfeed, and only they, and Sam know that I am still breastfeeding at all.

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Apr 17th, 2012, 11:41 AM	#46
motherofboys Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 3,186	I have never had a stanger comment. My favourite place when I was still breastfeeding in public was the sainsburys cafe, right next to the breastfeeding welcome here sign so if anyone moaned i could just point at the sign lol

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Apr 17th, 2012, 11:46 AM	#47
cheese lover Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Iowa, US Posts: 2,047	Its sad that we feel like we have to hide it like its shameful to BF that long. I don't know what I'm going to do. Part of me wants to BF whenever, whereever, but I'm sure I'll get discouraged by comments. My parents and sister are here visiting and my mom asked gently how long I was planning on continuing and I told her I had no idea and it was kinda up to LO. My sister chimed in and said that I should stop before she can ask for it. Then I mentioned that evolutionarily the normal weaning age is between 2 and 7 years old. I then told my sister that I did hope she would be done BFing before she goes to school She kinda laughed. It wasn't a bad conversation and I hope I educated my sister a little. My mom did BF us until she went back to work.

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Apr 17th, 2012, 11:50 AM	#48
EmyDra Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2010 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 3,970	I was funny about BFinf in public around 11-13 months, then I suddenly got over it and I feed my 15 month old out I've not had a negative comment so far.

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Apr 17th, 2012, 12:12 PM	#49
marley2580 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Forfar Posts: 6,505	I actually get annoyed at 'supportive' comments. When they hear that I fed both my older girls to 18 months or so I always get 'oh you did so well'. It just sounds really patronising to me. I don't think anyone would dare to make a negative comment to me lol
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Apr 17th, 2012, 12:18 PM	#50
cassarita Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: AB, Canada Posts: 1,063	Some people are so ignorant. I can hardly wait for all the ******** comments I'm going to get from my MIL and that family

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