This is my first post...
Little background: mother in law has not offered to help either physically or financially with our wedding. I feel that she shouldn't even be thanked in the toasts at the wedding as there was no help!
Today topped it off when she asked whether we would take our car to the wedding venue (in major city-super difficult parking). I said yes and it will be difficult as we need to take everything from drinks, decoration to clothing and that we can't take the train due to those reasons. She then honestly replied that she "doesn't care how we get the stuff there" (whilst half laughing). I for once in my life was quick thinking and replied:"I assume as long as you have bubbles to drink at the wedding you probably don't care" (whilst half laughing).
Surely, your family should offer to help driving stuff to the wedding or at least offer it?!?
I am fuming and her and his sisters expectations are outrageous
From what you've said it's hard to tell. It seems that you are ruder than she was. She has raised your future husband surely that is worthy of thanks, I don't see why she should be expected to help with your wedding, financially or otherwise.
Location: Londoner currently living as an alien in NYC, USA
While not knowing the full background to your husbands upbringing, I would say you don't thank parents at a wedding for helping with the party. You thank them for bringing you up! I would not leave her out of the toasts. I don't think she is required to help at all with your wedding day. Whilst it would be nice if she offered, I don't think you should expect it. I also don't think you should look to battle with her as it will only cause strife for your husband. Take the high road if you can.
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