I just got engaged the other day but I've found myself stalking this part of the forum to get some wedding ideas!! Haha! We aren't planning on getting married for a while but both OH and I have just been discussing what time of the year we want to get married and obviously talked about the venue of the ceremony and reception.
Basically, OH is Catholic and I'm an atheist. If it were completely up to me I wouldn't have my wedding in a church because that would be extremely hypocritical. My OH though has expressed that he'd like to get married in a church if I felt comfortable doing so because he would be the first person in his family not to be married in the church if it were up to me. This got me thinking..... would I even be allowed to marry him in a church since I am not religious in any way whatsoever? And did anyone else have this situation w/ their OH's? I don't really know what to say.
Well I'm not atheist but my OH is catholic and I'm a non-catholic Christian. We are getting married in his family's church. They're allowing us, we just won't have a full mass, because I can't participate in communion since I'm not catholic. Sorry this probably isnt much help but hope it helps a little. Good luck! You can always call the church youre thinking of marrying in just to see what the requirements would be. If they did allow you to marry in the church, however, you will most likely still have to take all the required marriage preparation courses and classes, as that's what out priest has told us and we've had to do. Best of luck!
I think it depends on the church but I have a feeling that especially catholic churches would at least want you to profess a belief in god. As the previous poster said, you could speak to the church and maybe there is an option of a blessing instead of a full wedding (the two of you could go to the registry office beforehand for the official bit).
congrats on the engagement! im catholic and so is my partner, and theres alot of marriage prep. to do. I think there would be more for you 2 because you're not catholic - basically i reckon (depending on priest) if you're willing to do the work, put the hrs in (and i mean hrs - my marriage prep is coming to about12 hrs) and say the right things it can be done - if you dont want to put the work in then i dont think you'll get a church wedding. I think see how much it means to ur fiance and talk about it :-) gd luck xxxx
I agree that it likely depends on the church and what type of catholic church. your OH should be able to find out more from the priest y'all would like to do the wedding, that way you know what they expect and if you have to take courses or not.
We had this situation but it was discussed way before we got engaged. In fact I think it's part of the reason why we were together 7 years before getting engaged!! I have always said I could not marry in a church as it would appear hypocritical and also I would feel like it made a bit of a mockery of my day as I would have to say religious vows that I simply didn't believe. It took me 7 years for him to see that for me to get married in a church would have to be a no no and that for us to have a civil ceremony wasn't tooo much of a compromise for him. He came round in the end!! hehe
Difference with us though is that my OH has never been a 'practicing' Catholic. Had he he lived his life by the church in any aspect then of course I would have needed to consider my decision more carefully.
I was baptised as a kid, and then confirmed as a teenager so it was easy for us to get married. I knew how important a church wedding was to DH, so I went with it and didn't regret it. We didn't do communion since only his family was Catholic and I would have been excluded. The ceremony itself was very nice. DH got his sacrament and I didn't have to worry about the rain and renting chairs.
The great part was, he got to plan the ceremony venue and I got to plan the rest. It was a nice compromise. Even the marriage prep day wasn't bad, it definitely made us talk.
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