So hi everyone! My name is Ein and I am 27 I am getting married in October!p. To my best friend who is also a girl. We live in the States in TN so safely the wedding won't be legal yet However we just found out that Hawii does commitment ceremonies, so we are doing Hawii for our honeymoon :happy dance:

Since we are doing Hawii we aare going have a pretty some wedding, we are making our own invitations. I am making my wedding dress as well as the bridesmaids bottoms, and we are also doing the flowers and Ape is making the cake. We have a really close friend who is a photographer and she is doing our photographs, and then my best friend is going to officiate the Vermont in TN because since its not legal we could have a drunk goat in a chicken costume perform the wedding. Ape's mom, dad or brother wont be present and neither will my dad. I am sad about that but it's for the best we want a happy wedding.

We are doing couple's councelling with a wonderful man whose has helped us allot. He has actually promised to bless our rings in the ceremony. We are having a hand fasting ceremony, and this includes jumping the broom and sword. We are planning on having it outside, possibly the resception too. We are having two very close friends of ours do readings, one is going to do an original piece and the other is going to a poem by Maya Angelou.

We had originally hoped for a Saturday wedding but when we planned the date we had not looked at the calendar, and so we acidently planned it for Friday instead. Let this be a lesson always look at your calendar . Our colors are royal blue, chocolate brown, and silver.

Whe we first started thisnwe had planned to do a large wedding reception, however when we discovered Hawii we decided to cut it down to just a desert reception. I have been looking in Oreniental Trading allot and found the one thing I want it's a chocolate fountain. So yeah we are going to order that in the next couple of months. We picked out our reception music already, and nearly killed each other doing it I have great taste in music and she doesn't actually we just have very different tastes in music, but we ironed it out with minium bossy fits thrown.

So yeah that's were we are now, we have a few other things we have been thinking about, but nothing too terribly excited just yet. I will post more as things develop!

We got the cake picked out! We are still working on the menu, but we have the cake out of the way. It's going to be two tiered with roses trailing down it! I am very happy!

We have to finalize a venue this month, and we are still up in the air about that. We want it outside, and we don't want it in our hometown, and we don't want to pay through the nose for it. There are a few parks around we've talked about. We are not too sure though. The weather around here in October can be rather unpredictable. So we are a little reluctant to finalize anything yet.

Hawaii will be so gorgeous for a wedding! Love the colors you picked out too!

Hakuna- thanks! I don't know much about flying while preggers, and Ape is a bit nervous about it. I will have to do research! lol I am so Hermione Granger, I love to research and study things!

After Ape did some budgeting today we realized next week we will have a little money left over so we are going to order some wedding stuff! Oriental Trading has some adorable silver charms for the cake, and I love the tradition of putting the charms between the cake tiers! We are also looking at some really nice blouses for the bridesmaids.

I have decided the material for my dress will come from Ape's grandmother. Before her gran passed, she was an awesome sewer and had a whole room full of material, some of the material includes tulle, white cotton, lace, and some white velvety stretchy material...in her will Ape's gran gave the room to Ape, and so I asked as a way to honor her Gran, who never cared if Ape was gay or not, if I could use the materials to make my wedding dress. Ape said yes. I am very happy. It's going to constitute as my something old. My something barrowed is going to be from my mother who is lending me my Aunt Sandy's (who I was named after and who unfortunately passed several years back) real pear earings.

It sounds silly but I wish my grandparents were alive (except hypocritical grandmother, I'm glad that cow is dead), it's been a long time since they passed but sometimes there is still that grief there. I don't really ever think it goes away. I wish there was some way we could honor them on our special day I just don't know how.

They are going to be honored in our children, our first daughter is going to be named for mine and Ape's grandmothers and since Ape had no grandfathers, our first Son will be named for my grandfathers. I think they would like that

OH yeah, we have been agonizing over our last name for, well since we realized we were going to get married! Because Ape's last name can be a verb (actually Ape's full name is a sentence ), it sounds really bad when we hyphen it, so we went with Rinar, which is a combination of some letters in our name. I just wish I knew what all we're gonna have to change I know TN doesn't accept gay marriage, but we figured having the same last name wouldn't hurt anything. Besides even though they don't aknowledge the marriage, if it's legal it looks better for when we have children under state law. How or why is that even possible or accurate?!?

So yeah come October the 5th my new name will be Sandy Rinar! I like it alot!