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Old Oct 7th, 2012, 07:29 AM   11
tish76
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I think like lots of things, immediate skin to skin contact with your baby is ideal, but I believe you deal with the hand you're dealt and not getting that immediate contact needn't be an issue.
My, now beautifully healthy and perfect, 28 month old son was born by emcs under general anesthesia and was in extremely bad shape upon delivery. Because he had suffered birth asphyxia the doctors made the decision to cool him for 72hours - it is believed that by lowering body temp you slow blood flow to the brain and help minimize damage. Anyway as a consequence I didn't get to hold my son until day 5 after his birth, and as he was initially fed on a sucrose solution exclusively, I expressed to bring on my supply until they deemed him ready for me to have a crack at breast feeding on about day 9.
Whilst it was a totally rotten start to motherhood I can honestly say that it had no damaging effect on our ability to bond as mother and son, and I went on to successfully breastfed him for 21 months!
That said, I would love nothing more than the opportunity to hold this baby as soon as she is born - fingers crossed x



 
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Old Oct 7th, 2012, 13:01 PM   12
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Yeah I absolutely agree with you 100%



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Old Oct 9th, 2012, 00:28 AM   13
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I had an emergency c section as I was I'll. I didn't even get to see my dd for 48hrs as she was wired up in nnu and couldn't come to me and I was wired up and couldn't go to her. I was really worried about bonding. The nurses brought me pictures but I felt nothing when I looked at them and didn't feel like the baby was mine. However the first time I saw her in I just got huge wave of emotion and connected striaght away.
DD and I are very close. She's a real mummy's girl and we already gang up on daddy together.
Don't worry about delayed contact and bonding. I believe mother and child share a special connection that can't be broken by separation



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2012, 07:37 AM   14
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Although ive never had a section, I think its EXTREMELY important for you to have immediate contact with your baby. It has impact on your milk, your bonding hormones, everything.... They put my daughter on me immediately, but took her away very quickly too and we didn't have much bonding time immediately, our breastfeeding failed.

My son, my husband and I birthed ourselves, and he was instantly on my chest, feeding. And stayed skin to skin with me for a couple hours. He is doing amazing breastfeeding and is the calmest baby...

Skin to skin is important even after the first moments...



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2012, 07:57 AM   15
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My mom told me the exact opposite, she didn't understand what my fascination with "this skin to skin hocus pocus" was lol
She had a traumatic labor, was put under after I was born and didn't see me until the next day, she had no issues with milk or breastfeeding. Her mother was the same way, breastfed 11 kids with no issue. I had immediate contact, tried my hardest and still had a lot of trouble with milk production.



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2012, 10:48 AM   16
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Personally, Ive watched on some baby shows where they pull the baby out of her V and put the baby on top of her with blood and gross stuff still all over the baby...

now in my situation....

I had a c-section, they cleaned the baby up, did all the stuff they needed to do, wrapped my LO up and got her nice and warm and they put her in my arms....

I think that was a better bonding experience for me.

Everyone is different!



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2012, 11:06 AM   17
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Me too, when I got my baby he had a blanket thrown around him and didn't have any white stuff on him, but I could feel he was a little wet still... I felt like such a horrible person but I felt so gross touching the slime! lol I wish they cleaned him up a bit better.



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2012, 11:14 AM   18
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Yea---I appreciated them cleaning both my kids up instead of handing them looking like something out of Ghost Busters LMAO



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2012, 11:25 AM   19
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I appreciate why the original poster asked this question and have been interested to read the replies but here is my rant -
I am personally sick fed up of hearing about how important issues such as skin to skin, breast feeding, immediate contact, baby wearing vs buggies, routines vs baby led etc etc.
What creates a healthy bond between a mother and baby is a mother who is supported by her care givers and (very importantly) other mothers in choosing what she wants to do. Being made to feel you are failing by not breast feeding, having skin to skin or choosing to use a buggy as opposed to baby sling is what can cause poor bonding with babies as quie frankly so many mums are feeling like they are doing wrong.

Whilst I work in health care, my gut instinct is to ignore research and go with what feels right for my family, my baby and myself - as opposed to following whatever parenting trend is currently 'in'.



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2012, 13:39 PM   20
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I was in labor for 46 hours with my first DS. He was in distress and I had to have an EMCS. Once they took him out they cleaned him up and let my husband hold him and bring him for me to look at for a minute. I got to kiss him and stroke his cheek but did not get to hold him. When they started to pull the placenta out I could feel it. The pain was so horrible it made me start vomiting immediately. At that point they put me under. I don't even remember going back to my room but my husband said they brought the baby and asked if I wanted him. I told them no they could keep him in the nursery lol. Like I said I don't even remember that but I had been in labor for almost 2 years and then under anesthesia. Anyway they didn't bring him back for about 3 hours when they brought him they said he was hungry. I was so exhausted. I breastfed him but we did not have any skin to skin contact. I barely remember anything for the first probably 12 hours after the section, they had me on heavy pain meds. There was no problem with our bonding though. My son bf like a champ! He bf for the first year actually. My milk only took about 4 days to come in which is normal from what I understand. We were very bonded from the time in the hospital and even now at almost 4 years old he is very much a momma's boy



 
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