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Old Jan 1st, 2013, 06:47 AM   1
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Sex after caesarean


Happy new year!

I was wondering how long after your section did everyone "resume bedtime activitie?"

My daughter was born 5 weeks ago Sunday just gone and we've done other things just not resumed having sex. I was on the pill for 7 years prior to ttc and I have my 6 week checkup in a week and a half where I'm going to ask to go back on the pill.

My partner has tried it on a few times and I feel really bad because I'm just not in the mood, before I was pregnant it was usually the other way round and my sex drive is usually very high.

I'm worried about falling pregnant again without being on the pill, I don't like condoms as in the past they've split and I know that sometimes when you're in the mood they just aren't used.

Also I just don't feel attractive at all. I don't like my husbands hands anywhere near my scar and my belly feels strange when he touches is because its numb, it makes me tense up. I don't like my stomach period as although I've naturally gone back down to my pre pregnancy clothes (still 1 stone off my pre pregnancy weight) my stomach is wrinkley.

To make matters worse when I went to get measured for new bras, the woman asked me if I was pregnant! Complete confidence blow.

I know my husband finds me attractive but I just feel low in confidence , which is something I've never been bothered about before.

Has anyone else felt this way?

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Old Jan 1st, 2013, 11:44 AM   2
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hi

I am also interested in knowing the answer to the sex question lol but I was going to wait until the 6 week point as long as I feel comfortable. I've read you shouldn't have unprotected sex before the 6 week recovery time because of infection risk but not sure how accurate that info is, though it seems to make sense to me!

As for the body image issues, I have the same thing... I cover my belly with clothing, towels, what ever I can find so that my partner can't see it. I feel awful about it, it like sags a bit, though it looks better than it did (I had my EMCS 2 weeks ago). My belly is also covered in some serious stretch marks! I really hope it goes back to some normal state but I don't know how long that takes and stuff



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Old Jan 1st, 2013, 12:42 PM   3
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I think we did after about 3 weeks. As 'nothing' had happened to me down there due to having the c-section (e.g no labour beforehand) , the decision was a little easier. I had stopped bleeding by then too.



 
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Old Jan 1st, 2013, 12:45 PM   4
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It was three weeks for me, too, with my older daughter. It felt a little different but not painful or anything. I had my drive back by then and I was done bleeding by the time I left the hospital so I was good to go. I probably would have done it sooner if my husband hadn't been paranoid. With my younger daughter we waited until about 4.5 weeks but that's because I had a 1 year old and a newborn. I was TIRED. Haha!



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Old Jan 1st, 2013, 14:08 PM   5
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It was a week for me. We just felt ready for some intimacy. We were told that you are not fertile for the first three weeks after giving birth.



 
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Old Jan 1st, 2013, 16:16 PM   6
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It was a week for me. We just felt ready for some intimacy. We were told that you are not fertile for the first three weeks after giving birth.
I got told that I'm most fertile now at my midwife sign off?

I've only just stopped bleeding this week. I tried to make myself feel better today by pampering myself a little whilst I had a spare hour.

Did anyone get a wrinkled tummy and did it go back to normal? I've been using cocoa butter daily hoping that that may help.

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Old Jan 1st, 2013, 17:02 PM   7
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Old Jan 1st, 2013, 22:46 PM   8
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I got told that I'm most fertile now at my midwife sign off?
It was only the first three weeks that the hospital said I wasn't fertile.
After this time we used protection.

When I went to see the nurse for my 8 week check she had said breast feeding reduces fertility, the doctor who put in the contraceptive implant wanted to do a pregnancy test.

I think there are different views on it - but it's always better to be safe than sorry! :-)



 
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Old Jan 6th, 2013, 20:51 PM   9
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My husband and i waited 9 days. My son is now 9 months old and I'm just now getting my sex drove back. My stomach still doesn't look right but is getting better.i have just started doing pilaties so we'll see.



 
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Old Jan 7th, 2013, 00:00 AM   10
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hi,well ive had 10 normal births then a emcs so i already had a bit of a belly,lol the only thing ive noticed is that where the cs was done they did it very neat and tight so that i have a overhang of fat,lol but i was told this is very common and also same as you its numb,a friend of mine said hers is still like this a few years later so it dosent worry me ,i just had sex as soon as i could be bothered,lol just to check and get it out the way, it was fine just try not to let him lie to hard on your tummy,also i have never got pregnant whilst breastfeeding, but i stopped with this baby around 4months had 1 cycle and bam im pregnant again completley out the blue as i didnt plan any more and we only dtd twice ,strange really when i think back that for my last 3 babys that were planned i charted took ac etc etc and it still took over a year this time nothing and bam,so i would be slightly careful on the fertility side as i have learnt.i do wonder if having a cs could possibly make you more fertile as when you think about it everything is manually removed a bit like a d&c when can often boost fertility,my bleeding after this baby was also lighter and shorter,i think again due to the cs,just my story,good luck.xx also dont worry about your tummy honestly it does improve even me with a fat tummy to start with has noticed a difference,lol.xx



 
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