I had a bad experience with my 2nd. He was born perfect with no problems, but I only got to spend about 5 minutes with him before he had to leave to the nursery. I spent the entire time in recovery alone wishing I could be with them. It was awful. The worst part was they fed him formula immediately in the nursery despite me saying that I wanted to breastfeed. The Dr even wrote it in my notes! My OH tried to tell them this but they told him he needed to eat.
Needless to say I'm having this baby at a different hospital where I am told I could keep the baby with me after birth as long as he is in good health.
I cannot believe they gave your baby formula right after birth when you stated that you were breastfeeding! I would be livid!
I don't understand how hospitals are able to do these things, or why they do them. I think the only way I'm going to get answers is to meet directly with someone in the birthing center at the hospital, and not even bother trying to talk to my OB about this. If I find out that their policies are like the last hospital's, I will be delivering somewhere else, plain and simple.
Hi WantALittle1, I think the fact that you are still upset about how you were treated is very understandable. It took me one year to get my body back, but really two years before I could face the idea of going through the hospital experience again. I didn't have a C-section, but I had had a mild GD and so I guess the normal procedure is to whisk the baby away (they did let me hold him first but it was less than a minute) and no one ever really explained what the separation was all about. I was stitched up and given IV fluids in a recovery room for about an hour and all the time thinking, ok, I'm relieved to be resting comfortably after everything I have been through, but isn't there a newborn baby somewhere around here that I am supposed to be holding and bonding with and nursing? Nurses just kept saying, don't worry he's fine, without giving me any information or any sense of the schedule. When I was finally back up my room I was starting to get a little agitated because I had the sense the nurses were just keeping him because someone who hadn't shown up yet had to check a box on a form. I also had read way too much on the importance of the first bonding period and skin-to-skin contact etc. I was afraid they were giving him some kind of glucose drink or formula that was going to screw up my breastfeeding attempts. In retrospect, I think they were doing a series of blood glucose measurements to see if his sugar levels crashed after birth because of my GD (and apparently he was totally fine) but I still think initiating breastfeeding right away would be the best way of stabilizing his sugar levels. Is it more important to make the clinical diagnosis or to have a happy, healthy baby? Also, where I am, they keep us in the hospital for 3 days, so surely there is some other way of determining if he has a sugar problem over the course of 3 days than separating him from his mother in those first precious hours. Anyway, I finally did get him after about 2 hours and I never had problems breastfeeding and he never had jaundice or any other problem but it still really bothers me that he was taken away for so long. I wish I had never heard of this concept of maternal-baby bonding because (especially in the hormonal early weeks!) it really made me think that we had suffered something or been deprived of something intangible but critical. I also am determined not to let it happen again even if I have to struggle bleeding to my feet push my husband and the doctors aside and go find my baby somewhere.
You know what made me feel a lot better? Hearing about my best friend (a great mom - very confident and practical) who after the birth of her second baby knew she would only have the nurses' help for one night in the hospital said, here, take care of my baby for a while...I want to go take a shower and get something to eat!
One other thing....taking your baby while you are sleeping is borderline criminal - - I can't imagine that is official practice in a civilized place.
So in the end, for next time, let's both hope for the best and plan for the worst.
Absolutely not normal. I had an EMCS under a general anesthetist and baby was waiting next to me in his cot for me waking up.
That sounds absolutely appalling! What did you have to recover from?! You had a spinal, that's surely not enough reason to be in recovery that long!
Just a spinal, hanni, a totally routine spinal, no complications at all! That is what absolutely shocked me. When DD was born, I was in recovery until I could prove that I could move my legs, about 45 minutes or so? This time it was over three hours! It was insane!
i'm appalled for you. just awful, awful. i had a scheduled c-section with my son for other health issues unrelated to pregnancy. i had a spinal, too, and it was all routine. as soon as my son came out, they wrapped him up super quick (like 1 minute!) and he was laying with me right away. my husband helped prop him up because i still felt a little woozy, but he never, ever left our side. never. he came with us everywhere, and actually never went to a nursery in our entire 3 day stay - i told them no way. that's absolutely horrific that happened to you. is there any way for you to switch hospitals and find out the policies there?
i'm so sorry that happened to you. it's 100% not normal, and must have been incredibly traumatic. i hope this time is so much better.
My c-section was a storm of everything going wrong. I labored for thirty hours before they started pitocin that put the baby into distress three different times my oxygen dropped to the low 90's and my blood pressure skyrocketed. I ended up in an emergency c-section where my epidural partially failed. I felt everything! Then I hemmoraged. The worst part is the four hours it took to put me together. I missed that time with my baby and in a way I've been trying to make up for it since. It bugs me that I missed his bath and shots and foot printing. That my friend held him before I did. I'm incredibly possessive of him now and I really hate to share part of me thinks it's the stress of his delivery.
I will give you mine. My boys were both born in San Diego in a hospital that promotes natural birth. I had emergency c sections with both. With my second it was a really traumatic cat 1 c section where both he and I were in trouble. The nicu team were on standby in theatre. They did all their checks there where I could hear baby and my husband was able to go over and watch. Baby was then immediately handed to my husband to bring to me. Unfortunately I was in such hysterics I just couldn't cope with meeting my new born at that time so asked my husband to take him away. The staff were amazing, they directed my husband to recovery abd got him to do skin to skin with baby. I was in theatre for another hour or so and when i was taken through I was met by my husband happily cradling baby under his shirt. Baby was then handed to me to breastfeed. I still needed physical assistance so the post op nurse helped baby latch and brought rolled up towels to support him so I didn't have to.
We stayed for 5 days and baby never left my room without me. He did have to have one test elsewhere iv the hospital and I was pointedly asked if I'd like to accompany him. I did.
With my daughter I was scheduled for a c section 12 hours into my induction. She was 40 weeks and I lost half of my amniotic fluid. I was only dilated to 4 and my doctor completely neglected me and left me sitting there for another 11 hours until I finally dilated to 9 and my body decided it was time to push. She got stuck in the birth canal, my epidural wore off, then I had a really bad year from the vacuum thing and I hemmoraged. She was born not breathing and blue. Finally she started to cry after respiratory worked with her and they whisked her off while I was getting emergency stitched up. I barely got to see her, nevermind holding her. Then I was delirious from blood loss and also was given a cocktail of meds so I passed out for almost 8 hours. I woke up to her crying down the hall...went to see her as she had to be under watch in an oxygen tent for 24 hours. It was over a day and half before I got to actually hold her and I too wanted to breast feed...she had been bottle fed and had been given a pacifier(which I was against). I know my experience kind of different but I feel for you. I have decided on a scheduled c section this Halloween and I pray that it goes smoothly and wayyyy better than my last birth. I am convinced if my doctor had come in when he was supposed to (he was home painting his deck) and performed the c section...i wouldnt have went through half the awful things I endured and my daughter wouldn't be been in such an awful state.
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