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Old Feb 17th, 2016, 13:35 PM   1
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What's the post-op norm?


So I consider my post-op experience after DS's delivery to be traumatic, and I'm wondering if it's the norm or if this hospital was the odd one out...

I had a relatively routine RCS with a spinal. The only special circumstances for my delivery were the vacuum assist (I had polyhydramnios) and a bit of nausea from the anesthesia. But what happened next is still traumatic for me, and not what I would expect after delivering a full-term, healthy baby.

They took my son away for over three hours and wouldn't let me see him because they said he needed tests and to be examined by a pediatrician. So instead of getting to be with my son and husband post-op, they wheeled me into this giant dark recovery room alone and said my son was going to the nursery. My husband went with him to the nursery at my request. As a consequence, there I was, alone, coming out of anesthesia, no baby, no husband. I asked the recovery room attendant why my baby was taken and they told me I was post-op so I was not allowed to hold the baby yet. They said to rest, let the anesthesia wear off and I would see him soon, that my husband and mother in law were able to see him through the nursery window. I was like, okay, why can't my husband hold him right here, next to me? Why can't he be in a bassinet by my side? Why can't the pediatrician come to us instead of my son being whisked away? Why are you literally taking my brand new baby from me moments after delivery, and separating me from him for hours during a critical bonding period? Additionally, 1-2 days into my recovery, I'd fall asleep in the hospital bed with DS in the bassinet next to me, and I'd wake up to an empty bassinet. They would take him for testing, shots, without telling me, while I was sleeping. I was furious!

Did anyone else experience this? Am I likely to experience it again or was this a one-off? I can't really compare to DD's birth because that was an EMCS at 31 weeks and they HAD to take her away immediately because she needed to get to the NICU.



 
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Old Feb 17th, 2016, 16:04 PM   2
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Hi there, im so sorry you had a horrible experience.

With regards to taking him away for 3 hours, did they ever explain why? After my son was delivered (ecs) he was taken over to the side in my view, checked over, weighed and wrapped up. He was then given to my sister to hold next to me so i could see and talk to him. I was then taken to recovery assisted to feed him then off to the ward. There were a few occasions where i woke to find him gone and freaked. i was told they had taken him to bathe him which i did not want. apparently its normal for them to leave mum sleep so she can recover. Can you have a chat with your midwife or doctor to discuss it? After my daughters horrific delivery i requested to discuss everything with my consultant to try to help me understand and process it. Might give you some answers. Big hugs x its so hard when a special moment is taken away from you x



 
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Old Feb 17th, 2016, 16:12 PM   3
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Thank you so much for your kind words. It really is so hard, it makes me tear up a bit just thinking about it, but that's probably just pregnancy hormones.

What they told me is that he needed to have a bunch of tests and be examined by the pediatrician. The pediatrician couldn't get to him right then, so he would have to wait his turn. So they just had him in the nursery, in a bassinet, waiting to be seen during that time. That is what I had a huge problem with--it's a horrible way to handle someone's newborn. Why not let him wait beside me in recovery, in a bassinet with my husband right there, until the ped could see him? These were the questions I asked, and they just had no reasonable response to the questions. Things like "well that's just how it's done"

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Old Feb 18th, 2016, 16:01 PM   4
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I think that is terrible!!
Have a chat before hand and tell them unless there is an emergency with ur baby he/she stays next to you with your husband, if they want to do tests they can but not in the bonding time you should be having skin to skin etc, sorry you had to go through that last time. Good luck with everything

I've got a planned section for 11th may, I'm starting to get nervous now xx



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Old Feb 20th, 2016, 03:38 AM   5
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. With my twins they were immediately given to DH who held them (beside me) while they put me back together. Then when they wheeled me to recovery they put the babies in my arms which I had thought was strange because I was a bit shaky. I was then tandem feeding them immediately while in recovery.



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2016, 08:27 AM   6
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. With my twins they were immediately given to DJ who held them (beside me) while they put me back together. Then when they wheeled me to recovery they put the babies in my arms which I had thought was strange because I was a bit shaky. I was then tandem feeding them immediately while in recovery.
Blue, this is exactly what I wish would have happened. If I wasn't quite ready to hold him immediately after being closed up, I wish they would have just let my husband hold him beside my recovery bed. And it really concerned me that three hours had gone by and I had not even gotten a chance to try nursing him yet! I was very concerned that he was hungry and cold in a room somewhere. The anxiety about that really overwhelmed me.

I tried to talk to my doctor about this at my 20 week appointment last week, that I want to make sure that my baby will remain with me for at least the first few hours after birth, and I what I got was "it's too far off, we can talk about that later. Plus, that's the hospital who handles that, our role ends after the operation."

Reaaaaaallllly reassuring, haha.



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2016, 09:57 AM   7
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I feel close to tears, and furious, reading your experience. I've had two c-sections in two different cities and NEVER had anything like that happen to me. My first was an emergency and he was looked over for a few minutes and that was bad enough! Sophie was looked at for about 25 seconds and handed to OH who handed her to me.

Never, EVER, could or would baby be removed from your room here without your consent or your walking baby where they needed to go. I don't even know what a baby nursery is other than some glassed in room from American TV shows or movies, I thought they were a 1980's thing. Neither of mine were ever touched by staff without asking me first and most checks (all with Sophie) happened in my room.

I always hold my babies skin to skin the entire time in recovery.

I would have been hysterical waking up in my room with my baby gone and would have thought they'd been stolen!



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2016, 10:06 AM   8
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Minties, I was furious with the hospital, and still have not emotionally recovered from the whole experience. I actually ended up leaving a day early, despite being in horrible pain and not being able to walk very well, because I was so tired of dealing with them. Not only did they take my baby from my room, multiple times, without my consent for tests and shots, but they messed up my postop medications as well. Specifically, anesthesia makes my nose itch SO bad. It's constant, horrible, unbearable itching. It has happened with both C-sections. To get benadryl would take hours because someone forgot to permanently add it to my meds list. So every time the MA would show up with my pain meds, she would have no benadryl, and I'd have to send her back to find an RN (and she would have to wait and wait), and it would sometimes be 2 hours later that someone would finally come with the benadryl. My nose itched so bad at one point that my scratching made it bleed. I left the hospital with several scabs on my nose.

I have started writing a letter to that hospital SO many times over the last 2 years, but I always get too emotional half way through, and I stop writing it. The letter always sounds so inflammatory and it's not productive, and I know it would not get anywhere with them. I ended up never saying anything.



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2016, 17:10 PM   9
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Urgh I'm sorry Hun I had a similar experience with my first. It was an emcs and that specific hospital policy is to go into recovery after csection and baby goes to nursery. I hated it so much that for my second I switched hospitals and they allowed me to keep baby with me whole time in recovery which only makes sense! I'll be doing the same this time. But no one ever took baby away without my consent. That's weird!



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2016, 17:42 PM   10
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I'm sorry you had this experience. When I had my son three years ago I had a very similar experience. I required an EMCS and I was so exhausted after laboring for 20 hours I was falling asleep on the table, I felt so guilty I couldn't keep my eyes open for the birth of my child. They took my son for four hours immediately after birth. I was only able to kiss him before they whisked him away for tests. My husband followed the baby so I was alone too. I consider the experience very traumatic and I'm hopeful my repeat C at the end of April is different.




 
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