How soon is too soon?

_Lexi_ · Mar 18th, 2012, 06:52 AM

I had a c section on feb 6th. Sadly we lost Joshua on feb 7th. He was born at 34 weeks, weighing 2lb7oz. It's six weeks tomorrow. Both my partner and I want to be pregnant again. Nothing could ever replace Joshua, I love him so much and miss him terribly. I just want to be able to give him a little brother or sister on earth. How soon is too soon to start trying again after a c section? You hear so many conflicting stories from 6weeks to 2 years. Those of you that have had multiple c sections, how long did you wait, what was your pregnancy like, did you have a vbac or another c sec? xx

Mindy_mini · Mar 18th, 2012, 06:58 AM

I know this isn't what you want to hear but when I was training as a mw we would recommend women wait 12 months before ttc again as the uterine muscles need time to heal. There risk of rupture which could result in a hysterectomy.

I'm very sorry for your loss

_Lexi_ · Mar 18th, 2012, 07:03 AM

The physio that came to see me said my muscles are fine. I didn't get a bump (at all, didn't put any weight on either) so they weren't stretched or anything. Just mainly the scar that I'd worry about I guess xx

miaplus2 · Mar 18th, 2012, 07:05 AM

i got pregnant again 10 months after my first section, was going to have a VBAC but lo was breech so i had a second section at 36 weeks, this time we got pregnant 16 months after section. I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

_jellybean_ · Mar 18th, 2012, 07:30 AM

I was told five months, but DH and I will start trying in at about four months. Massive

, Lexi.

How are you and your OH doing? Are things better? Is he treating you better?

_Lexi_ · Mar 18th, 2012, 07:47 AM

Things are completely different. There so good. He came home from work 3 hours early the other day as I got a bit upset. He rings me every hour when he is at work too check I'm alright. We haven't argued in 2 weeks (instead of every 2 hours). He put loads of thought into my birthday last week, and got me a gorgeous piglet card from Joshua today. Fingers crossed he stays like this. He hasn't let me go food shopping, or do the cooking. I don't know what's happened to him, but I like it. He's almost back to being the man I fell in love with. Hmm, four months I could deal with, already at 6 weeks, and hoping for a holiday before I get pregnant again. Couldn't fly with hyperemesis, and wouldn't take the chance as I'm still being sick now

How's your little boy? Saw in your signature he's having an operation?xx

Mindy_mini · Mar 18th, 2012, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by _Lexi_

The physio that came to see me said my muscles are fine. I didn't get a bump (at all, didn't put any weight on either) so they weren't stretched or anything. Just mainly the scar that I'd worry about I guess xx

You may not have got a bump but your uterus when not pregnant is about the size of a screwed up fist. The muscles if your uterus WILL have stretched to accommodate a 34 week baby. This is the concern not your abdomen muscles

babyblog · Mar 19th, 2012, 13:59 PM

My mums friend who is a MW said ideally give it 1-2 years, but that's for delivery, not getting pregnant. So in theory after 3 months will give you that 1 year delivery date? hope the timing is right for you xx

SabrinaKat · Mar 22nd, 2012, 11:21 AM

Lexi -- glad to hear that your OH and you are getting along better....

as for trying again, I was told one (1) year, but in my case, I am 44 and probably wouldn't get lucky again, plus with pre-eclampsia (and it was quite bad), I would be very worried about myself throughout the pregnancy and let alone, the baby too....

best wishes

kelzyboo · Mar 22nd, 2012, 18:24 PM

I had Evan by c section in May last year and found out i was pregnant again early October, so 4 months here. I was told to wait 6 months just to be sure but i couldn't

I'm almost 27 weeks, so far i've had no problems with my scar, no pain or anything like that and things are looking very good. No one has mentioned the lack of time between pregnancies in a bad way at all and i was told i could try a vbac if i wanted to, i'm having an elective section at 37 weeks but its my choice, they said theres no reason i couldn't try a vbac!

Having been in your situation, i understand how hard it is to wait

I think you have to go off how you feel, emotionally and physically, i healed physically very quickly and very well, only you knows how well you've healed and how it feels. If you feel ready in a month, 6 months or a year then go for it, lots of people get pregnant quickly after a csection and are fine, you be the judge of how you feel about it xx

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_Lexi_ BnB Addict Mummy to 1 perfect angel Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Norfolk, UK Country: Posts: 3,118 Thanked others: 1,480 Thanked 1,230 times in 770 posts Currently Feeling:	How soon is too soon?? I had a c section on feb 6th. Sadly we lost Joshua on feb 7th. He was born at 34 weeks, weighing 2lb7oz. It's six weeks tomorrow. Both my partner and I want to be pregnant again. Nothing could ever replace Joshua, I love him so much and miss him terribly. I just want to be able to give him a little brother or sister on earth. How soon is too soon to start trying again after a c section? You hear so many conflicting stories from 6weeks to 2 years. Those of you that have had multiple c sections, how long did you wait, what was your pregnancy like, did you have a vbac or another c sec? xx __________________
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Mindy_mini Chat Happy BnB Member Mum2b of 2 under 2 Join Date: May 2010 Country: Posts: 2,080 Thanked others: 288 Thanked 993 times in 700 posts	I know this isn't what you want to hear but when I was training as a mw we would recommend women wait 12 months before ttc again as the uterine muscles need time to heal. There risk of rupture which could result in a hysterectomy. I'm very sorry for your loss __________________ Last edited by Mindy_mini; Mar 18th, 2012 at 06:59 AM..
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_Lexi_ BnB Addict Mummy to 1 perfect angel Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Norfolk, UK Country: Posts: 3,118 Thanked others: 1,480 Thanked 1,230 times in 770 posts Currently Feeling:	The physio that came to see me said my muscles are fine. I didn't get a bump (at all, didn't put any weight on either) so they weren't stretched or anything. Just mainly the scar that I'd worry about I guess xx Last edited by _Lexi_; Mar 18th, 2012 at 07:03 AM..
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miaplus2 Active BnB Member mummy of 2, soon 3 Join Date: Dec 2011 Country: Posts: 240 Thanked others: 137 Thanked 105 times in 81 posts Currently Feeling:	i got pregnant again 10 months after my first section, was going to have a VBAC but lo was breech so i had a second section at 36 weeks, this time we got pregnant 16 months after section. I'm so sorry for your loss xxx __________________ Last edited by miaplus2; Mar 18th, 2012 at 07:05 AM..
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_jellybean_ BnB Addict Mama of 2 Join Date: Jun 2011 Country: Posts: 7,631 Thanked others: 3,178 Thanked 2,851 times in 2,501 posts Currently Feeling:	I was told five months, but DH and I will start trying in at about four months. Massive , Lexi. How are you and your OH doing? Are things better? Is he treating you better? __________________
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_Lexi_ BnB Addict Mummy to 1 perfect angel Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Norfolk, UK Country: Posts: 3,118 Thanked others: 1,480 Thanked 1,230 times in 770 posts Currently Feeling:	Things are completely different. There so good. He came home from work 3 hours early the other day as I got a bit upset. He rings me every hour when he is at work too check I'm alright. We haven't argued in 2 weeks (instead of every 2 hours). He put loads of thought into my birthday last week, and got me a gorgeous piglet card from Joshua today. Fingers crossed he stays like this. He hasn't let me go food shopping, or do the cooking. I don't know what's happened to him, but I like it. He's almost back to being the man I fell in love with. Hmm, four months I could deal with, already at 6 weeks, and hoping for a holiday before I get pregnant again. Couldn't fly with hyperemesis, and wouldn't take the chance as I'm still being sick now How's your little boy? Saw in your signature he's having an operation?xx
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babyblog BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Country: Posts: 3,093 Thanked others: 855 Thanked 1,369 times in 1,089 posts Currently Feeling:	My mums friend who is a MW said ideally give it 1-2 years, but that's for delivery, not getting pregnant. So in theory after 3 months will give you that 1 year delivery date? hope the timing is right for you xx __________________
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SabrinaKat BnB Addict Delighted Mum to Finn Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Transplanted American living in Ireland Country: Posts: 4,667 Thanked others: 1,628 Thanked 2,545 times in 1,920 posts Currently Feeling:	Lexi -- glad to hear that your OH and you are getting along better.... as for trying again, I was told one (1) year, but in my case, I am 44 and probably wouldn't get lucky again, plus with pre-eclampsia (and it was quite bad), I would be very worried about myself throughout the pregnancy and let alone, the baby too.... best wishes __________________
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kelzyboo BnB Addict Angel mummy and PAL Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: manchester, uk Country: Posts: 4,285 Thanked others: 2,029 Thanked 1,290 times in 987 posts Currently Feeling:	I had Evan by c section in May last year and found out i was pregnant again early October, so 4 months here. I was told to wait 6 months just to be sure but i couldn't I'm almost 27 weeks, so far i've had no problems with my scar, no pain or anything like that and things are looking very good. No one has mentioned the lack of time between pregnancies in a bad way at all and i was told i could try a vbac if i wanted to, i'm having an elective section at 37 weeks but its my choice, they said theres no reason i couldn't try a vbac! Having been in your situation, i understand how hard it is to wait I think you have to go off how you feel, emotionally and physically, i healed physically very quickly and very well, only you knows how well you've healed and how it feels. If you feel ready in a month, 6 months or a year then go for it, lots of people get pregnant quickly after a csection and are fine, you be the judge of how you feel about it xx __________________
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