Really nervous about appointment tomorrow (updated & upset :'-( )

sunshineray7 · Apr 1st, 2012, 14:28 PM

I'm seeing my consultant tomorrow for the second time. I'm going to ask her if I can have an elective csection due to previous traumatic labour ending in emcs. I'm so worried that she's going to say no and that I'll have to go through that nightmare again.

UPDATE: had my appointment and consultant basically said no, she says there's no need and that things will probably be better this time and that it's not good for babies to be born before their due date!! She's sending me for a second opinion but said she hopes I go into labour before I get the appointment!

davidjoemum · Apr 1st, 2012, 18:42 PM

hi tell consultant your feeling on this subject (i did and i even cryed)i had traumatic birth too am having c-section in the morning.if you feel that you really want c-section and she not agree with you change consultant.x

greenbeans12 · Apr 2nd, 2012, 21:14 PM

You are entitled to your own choice and if this doctor can't respect your emotional state then you need to find a doctor that will.

Arisa · Apr 2nd, 2012, 22:51 PM

Thats disgusting, you not only deserve a second opinion but the consultant should apologize to you as well. Obviously if you ended up needing an EMCS last time round there will be a slight risk heck I have not even had my first baby yet and I was told that if that happened that next time round an elective C section would be a sensible option so I do not know why she is being this way???
I would change doctors and keep demanding for your right to choose

tricky nicky · Apr 3rd, 2012, 05:13 AM

under the revised NICE guidelines every woman is entitled to a c section i would look into this further and go back armed with the facts
good luck x

sunshineray7 · Apr 3rd, 2012, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by tricky nicky

under the revised NICE guidelines every woman is entitled to a c section i would look into this further and go back armed with the facts
good luck x

I know the guidelines and I went in armed with this knowledge and it didnt make an ounce of difference. I will just have to be very insistent at my 2nd opinion. Thanks x

Laraa · Apr 3rd, 2012, 14:47 PM

How awful. My last birth ended up in an emergency section and this time around theyve left it enitirely upto myself. hope u get what you want x

babyblog · Apr 3rd, 2012, 14:56 PM

That's really odd. At my 8 weeks booking in appt my MW raised it with me and suggested I go to a couple of VBAC groups to have the chance to discuss it. I have had no resistantce to requesting an elective ne this time and was told that as o had an EMCS last time I alm allowed the choice this time. I wouldn't accept no as an answer. Googd luck

sunshineray7 · Apr 5th, 2012, 13:29 PM

I've had my 2nd opinion date through for the 25th April, so I'll be 38+5 wks! I'm so worried I'll labour before then. Also, if she says yes,(which my midwife says she might not), my csection would only be a few days later! Am so annoyed that I have to wait so long when others are getting their dates really early.

Apr 1st, 2012, 14:28 PM	#1
sunshineray7 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Wales, UK Posts: 761	Really nervous about appointment tomorrow (updated & upset :'-( ) I'm seeing my consultant tomorrow for the second time. I'm going to ask her if I can have an elective csection due to previous traumatic labour ending in emcs. I'm so worried that she's going to say no and that I'll have to go through that nightmare again. UPDATE: had my appointment and consultant basically said no, she says there's no need and that things will probably be better this time and that it's not good for babies to be born before their due date!! She's sending me for a second opinion but said she hopes I go into labour before I get the appointment!

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davidjoemum Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: kent Posts: 759	hi tell consultant your feeling on this subject (i did and i even cryed)i had traumatic birth too am having c-section in the morning.if you feel that you really want c-section and she not agree with you change consultant.x

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 21:14 PM	#3
greenbeans12 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 1,548	You are entitled to your own choice and if this doctor can't respect your emotional state then you need to find a doctor that will.

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Arisa Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Back in New Zealand Posts: 2,577	Thats disgusting, you not only deserve a second opinion but the consultant should apologize to you as well. Obviously if you ended up needing an EMCS last time round there will be a slight risk heck I have not even had my first baby yet and I was told that if that happened that next time round an elective C section would be a sensible option so I do not know why she is being this way??? I would change doctors and keep demanding for your right to choose

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 05:13 AM	#5
tricky nicky Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: oldham nr manchester Posts: 1,089	under the revised NICE guidelines every woman is entitled to a c section i would look into this further and go back armed with the facts good luck x

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 14:47 PM	#7
Laraa Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,025	How awful. My last birth ended up in an emergency section and this time around theyve left it enitirely upto myself. hope u get what you want x

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 14:56 PM	#8
babyblog Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 3,091	That's really odd. At my 8 weeks booking in appt my MW raised it with me and suggested I go to a couple of VBAC groups to have the chance to discuss it. I have had no resistantce to requesting an elective ne this time and was told that as o had an EMCS last time I alm allowed the choice this time. I wouldn't accept no as an answer. Googd luck

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Apr 5th, 2012, 13:29 PM	#9
sunshineray7 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Wales, UK Posts: 761	I've had my 2nd opinion date through for the 25th April, so I'll be 38+5 wks! I'm so worried I'll labour before then. Also, if she says yes,(which my midwife says she might not), my csection would only be a few days later! Am so annoyed that I have to wait so long when others are getting their dates really early.

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