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Old Nov 15th, 2015, 19:06 PM   41
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Im Eve (31) and my OH is 32.
I have a son from a previous relationship (J) who is 13. OH has been in his life since J was a little over 2 years old. OH and I had a son together (Kaleb) but sadly he passed away a few short hours after birth. Less than 2 years later, we welcomed our rainbow (K) and I had a tubal ligation. As soon as the surgery was final, I regret the decision wholeheartedly and just a few months ago received news that the ligation is irreversible as it was actually a bilateral fimbriectomy.OH and I both were hoping for better news as we would love to have another one but its not in our cards anymore.



 
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Old Nov 18th, 2015, 06:16 AM   42
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Im Eve (31) and my OH is 32.
I have a son from a previous relationship (J) who is 13. OH has been in his life since J was a little over 2 years old. OH and I had a son together (Kaleb) but sadly he passed away a few short hours after birth. Less than 2 years later, we welcomed our rainbow (K) and I had a tubal ligation. As soon as the surgery was final, I regret the decision wholeheartedly and just a few months ago received news that the ligation is irreversible as it was actually a bilateral fimbriectomy.OH and I both were hoping for better news as we would love to have another one but its not in our cards anymore.
That's such a shame that you're done but you don't want to be
I've been lurking here but I'm ready now! I'm Laura, I'm 30 this year and hubby is 31. We have two boys aged 4 and nearly 2 and a little girl due next week. I can't say for definite I'm done but I 1000000% could not cope with another age gap like this. And in 5 yrs or so I won't want to go back to the baby stage so I think I'm done. Hubby says a vasectomy is too final despite me needing to convince him to have a 3rd! So I think I will be getting a coil or something once baby is here. I'm excited just to bring them up now



 
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Old Nov 18th, 2015, 06:50 AM   43
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Im Eve (31) and my OH is 32.
I have a son from a previous relationship (J) who is 13. OH has been in his life since J was a little over 2 years old. OH and I had a son together (Kaleb) but sadly he passed away a few short hours after birth. Less than 2 years later, we welcomed our rainbow (K) and I had a tubal ligation. As soon as the surgery was final, I regret the decision wholeheartedly and just a few months ago received news that the ligation is irreversible as it was actually a bilateral fimbriectomy.OH and I both were hoping for better news as we would love to have another one but its not in our cards anymore.
That's such a shame that you're done but you don't want to be
I've been lurking here but I'm ready now! I'm Laura, I'm 30 this year and hubby is 31. We have two boys aged 4 and nearly 2 and a little girl due next week. I can't say for definite I'm done but I 1000000% could not cope with another age gap like this. And in 5 yrs or so I won't want to go back to the baby stage so I think I'm done. Hubby says a vasectomy is too final despite me needing to convince him to have a 3rd! So I think I will be getting a coil or something once baby is here. I'm excited just to bring them up now
Thank you

I have days where I feel like it would be crazy of me to go back to the baby stage but I just have this longing for one more child, same with OH.

Good luck with the arrival of your little girl



 
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Old Nov 18th, 2015, 15:31 PM   44
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Im Eve (31) and my OH is 32.
I have a son from a previous relationship (J) who is 13. OH has been in his life since J was a little over 2 years old. OH and I had a son together (Kaleb) but sadly he passed away a few short hours after birth. Less than 2 years later, we welcomed our rainbow (K) and I had a tubal ligation. As soon as the surgery was final, I regret the decision wholeheartedly and just a few months ago received news that the ligation is irreversible as it was actually a bilateral fimbriectomy.OH and I both were hoping for better news as we would love to have another one but its not in our cards anymore.
That's such a shame that you're done but you don't want to be
I've been lurking here but I'm ready now! I'm Laura, I'm 30 this year and hubby is 31. We have two boys aged 4 and nearly 2 and a little girl due next week. I can't say for definite I'm done but I 1000000% could not cope with another age gap like this. And in 5 yrs or so I won't want to go back to the baby stage so I think I'm done. Hubby says a vasectomy is too final despite me needing to convince him to have a 3rd! So I think I will be getting a coil or something once baby is here. I'm excited just to bring them up now
Defo get what you mean by excited to bring them up. You can start to plan things you just can't do with babies and not fret so much either.
Can't believe your due next week tho.. Eek!!



 
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Hayz eek is the right word! My MIL asked me how I was going to go out with 3 today... I just stood there with my mouth open thinking.. Oh shit.



 
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You can do it! If I can then so can you! Just keep walking and take bribes in food form! Lol..
Keep it easy at first and take a walk to the park.. Baby will be sleeping anyway I have faith!



 
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Old Nov 19th, 2015, 16:20 PM   47
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Im Eve (31) and my OH is 32.
I have a son from a previous relationship (J) who is 13. OH has been in his life since J was a little over 2 years old. OH and I had a son together (Kaleb) but sadly he passed away a few short hours after birth. Less than 2 years later, we welcomed our rainbow (K) and I had a tubal ligation. As soon as the surgery was final, I regret the decision wholeheartedly and just a few months ago received news that the ligation is irreversible as it was actually a bilateral fimbriectomy.OH and I both were hoping for better news as we would love to have another one but its not in our cards anymore.
Oh Eve I'm sorry you're litigation is irreversible . I hope that in time knowing that there definitely won't be any more pregnancies will make it easier to move on from the broodiness.



 
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Old Nov 19th, 2015, 17:20 PM   48
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Hey ladies!

My name is Holly (37), and my DH is Brad (42), and we have Hannah (2 1/2), and Oscar (who we call Ozzy), and he's 15 months old. I am severely on the fence about having a third baby. My body, doctor, husband, age, and common sense tell me that it's probably a really terrible idea...but I would just love to have one more little one to snuggle up with.

Financially, it would be beyond stupid for us. We also have a small home, which we plan to stay in for the rest of our lives...it was given to us by my parents, and I want it to be our forever home. We have NO space for a third child. I am 37, we've suffered from infertility and recurrent miscarriages, and I don't really care to go through either of those nightmares again. My children are beautiful, healthy, intelligent, and everything I prayed for for YEARS. I feel that having a third now would be really pushing my luck...and that somehow, something will go terribly wrong during the pregnancy, or with the baby, or both. My uterus nearly ruptured at the end of my second pregnancy, and I was told that my uterus was paper-thin, which would making another pregnancy very risky. So, all in all, a third baby is not a good idea for my family...DH is really not up for a third child anyway. He has been very verbal about this, and I respect that he's done, and I'm just so very grateful to have the kiddos that I've been blessed with! I look around some of the TTC forums on BnB, and I see so many women/couples struggling to have even one child, or struggling with infertility, loss, and other heartaches, and really, I've been so very lucky. There was a time when I thought I'd never be a mother, and here I am, a mother twice over!



 
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Im Eve (31) and my OH is 32.
I have a son from a previous relationship (J) who is 13. OH has been in his life since J was a little over 2 years old. OH and I had a son together (Kaleb) but sadly he passed away a few short hours after birth. Less than 2 years later, we welcomed our rainbow (K) and I had a tubal ligation. As soon as the surgery was final, I regret the decision wholeheartedly and just a few months ago received news that the ligation is irreversible as it was actually a bilateral fimbriectomy.OH and I both were hoping for better news as we would love to have another one but its not in our cards anymore.
Oh Eve I'm sorry you're litigation is irreversible . I hope that in time knowing that there definitely won't be any more pregnancies will make it easier to move on from the broodiness.
I think it helps some as I've slowly been coming to terms with things. Hearing the news initially was heartbreaking though as we were considering a reversal within the next two years (planned to start saving) and well... it was quite a kick in the teeth to find out there wasn't much point.



 
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