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Old Nov 19th, 2015, 17:33 PM   31
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I'm thrilled my family is complete, I hate being pregnant and really don't enjoy the newborn or early stages, I couldn't face doing it all again, am currently in the thick of it and it's awful!
I love knowing that this is it for us, no more ttc or factoring pregnancy, maternity leave etc into our plans, now we can get on with the rest of our lives as a family of four.
I'm with you on the pregnancy thing. I hated pregnancy. I felt like death warmed over half the time, the weight gain, the weird aches and pains, the lightening crotch, and the constant anxiety...I really was not a good pregnant person, either time. But I do LOVE newborns...if I could just skip pregnancy, and just have a newborn without the pregnancy, I would do it right now. And then I remember that I actually do value sleep, and that my toddlers already wear my quite thin most days.



 
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I am perfectly fine



 
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Old Nov 30th, 2015, 13:35 PM   33
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i did want number 8 but now we have decided we are complete i feel quite relived x



 
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Old Dec 1st, 2015, 13:25 PM   34
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I had my second child 5 months ago and we are done- i'm kinda sad about it. If we were better off financially, I think I would have one more but financially we just can't swing it. My daughter's daycare costs are half of my salary and I can't afford to stay home (as much as I'd like to). Not to mention that my older child is special needs so it would just be too much to handle. But still I can't seem to start giving baby stuff away just yet.



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Old Dec 2nd, 2015, 14:42 PM   35
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I really struggle. I have a son (7) from a previous relationship and my daughter (3) with my husband. Before having my daughter we talked about having 4 children (including my son) and after Lily came along he changed his mind and didn't want any more. He is absolutely adamant and unmovable but I am so desperate to have a bigger family. I was 21 when I had my daughter and I never thought I would be done with having kids so long. I hope every day that he will change his mind but I know deep down he won't. I honestly hope that my contraception will just fail me and we fail pregnant. I can't watch things like one born every minute because I just bawl at the thought that will never be me.

Also my daughter was a pretty big baby and I was in agony for most of it. If I'd have known it would be my last pregnancy I would have enjoyed it so much more and not have been so desperate for it just to be done with.

I feel so selfish for feeling like this because I have two beautiful children whilst my sister who is so desperate to have children can't conceive and because she will keep trying different things to get pregnant she can't apply to adopt until she stops (you can't have had any fertility treatment for 12 months before even just applying).

My husband won't even let me be a surrogate for her because [quote] "I hated you when you were pregnant" he couldn't stand that I would moan because my feet were bloated or that I literally felt like she was going to tear me apart when she stretched out from about 35 weeks on. He hated how much I wriggled in bed or would moan that I just wanted her here.

Anyway that's my rant over



 
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Old Dec 4th, 2015, 04:50 AM   37
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I really struggle. I have a son (7) from a previous relationship and my daughter (3) with my husband. Before having my daughter we talked about having 4 children (including my son) and after Lily came along he changed his mind and didn't want any more. He is absolutely adamant and unmovable but I am so desperate to have a bigger family. I was 21 when I had my daughter and I never thought I would be done with having kids so long. I hope every day that he will change his mind but I know deep down he won't. I honestly hope that my contraception will just fail me and we fail pregnant. I can't watch things like one born every minute because I just bawl at the thought that will never be me.

Also my daughter was a pretty big baby and I was in agony for most of it. If I'd have known it would be my last pregnancy I would have enjoyed it so much more and not have been so desperate for it just to be done with.

I feel so selfish for feeling like this because I have two beautiful children whilst my sister who is so desperate to have children can't conceive and because she will keep trying different things to get pregnant she can't apply to adopt until she stops (you can't have had any fertility treatment for 12 months before even just applying).

My husband won't even let me be a surrogate for her because "I hated you when you were pregnant" he couldn't stand that I would moan because my feet were bloated or that I literally felt like she was going to tear me apart when she stretched out from about 35 weeks on. He hated how much I wriggled in bed or would moan that I just wanted her here.

Anyway that's my rant over
So sorry you've found yourself in that situation hope your Dh concedes one day, you're still quite young so time is on your side at least. I always said the only situation in which I'd have a 4th pregnancy would be to be a surrogate for my sister. She's 26 and doesn't want children so not an incredibly likely scenario but I'd do it for her if the need arose.



 
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I'm not maternal at all, was one of those 'I don't want kids' but when i fell pregnant with ds1 now 4 it was a happy time and felt right planning to have child 2 was a easy decision because we felt ds1 should have a sibling. In my head there are two of us parents & i have two hands lol .. so many times i get asked 'but don't you want a girl?' err no i'm more than happy with two boys.
second son was a big baby and had shoulder dystocia (no time for pain relief) plus resuscitated twice so had a pretty traumatic time.
Both husband and I are more than happy with two



 
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Old May 25th, 2016, 17:42 PM   40
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I am mostly done, I really don't want another boy(I LOVE the ones I have), and my likely hood to have another is extremely high. Plus I have haemorrhaged so many times now that it is very likely to happen again and I have such a rare cross match that makes things too dang difficult.

On the other hand I LOVE being pg regardless of the symptoms, aches and pains. I love babies and every thing that goes with that. In reality if we didn't have money worries I may have 10

I am sure I will have good days and bad days



 
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