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Old May 27th, 2016, 07:58 AM   41
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We are done. I have a 5year old ds and a dd Who will be 2 next month. We always wanted two. Ideally a boy and a girl, in that order and that's what we got. We even got the age gap we wanted. So for us this is it. People don't believe me when I say I'm done. But we realy are. We have even started giving away all the baby things we have had since we had ds, stuff like the cot and bouncer that we saved for dd. My pregnancy with dd was way easier than with DS. I felt much better and wasn't half as poorly as I was with DS. It does make me a bit sad when I think, I will never have a baby again. I will never have a delicious smelling newborn, or the excitement of when will baby come. But I'm happy that I have my 2 wonderful , slightly nutty, kiddos. Besides, I have issues with the number 3, so I'd spend the whole pregnancy in a panic. And then would need to have a 4th. That isn't happening.



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Old May 29th, 2016, 20:58 PM   42
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I'm so so sooooooooooooooo happy to be done! 3 was always our magic number and before I always had the thought of just one more but now that we had our third I just know this is it. This last pregnancy was hell high risk, bedrest etc. My girls are 5,3 and 2 weeks old and after being pregnant for the past 4.5 years I'm ready to enjoy my life and my kids. We want to travel, party etc. Every time I got back into my groove I got pregnant again. This time DH is going for vasectomy and that's it for us! But I have to say I'm quite happy and content in our family being complete



 
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Old Jun 10th, 2016, 14:18 PM   43
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I am well and truly done. My kids are nearly 12 and 5 1/2. I'm looking forward to them moving out now My husband has had a vasectomy and we have never regretted the decision, babies do not interest me anymore. I have no desire to hold them or be pregnant or anything. I think you just know when you are 'done'.



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2016, 08:56 AM   44
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We always wanted two and we have two a boy and a girl and they are perfect and I don't want another BUT this last week I have been almost grieving the fact that I won't ever have a newborn again or be pregnant etc and I know this has all come around as our friends are trying for #2

I guess I feel jealous but not sure why as I have 2

It is an odd feeling being happy and complete but also a little jealous



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2016, 09:58 AM   45
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We always wanted two and we have two a boy and a girl and they are perfect and I don't want another BUT this last week I have been almost grieving the fact that I won't ever have a newborn again or be pregnant etc and I know this has all come around as our friends are trying for #2

I guess I feel jealous but not sure why as I have 2

It is an odd feeling being happy and complete but also a little jealous
I have felt like this since my second was born 2 1/2 years ago. We would love more but due to space, money and time we cant and its horrible knowing I wont have a newborn to depend on me ever again and I miss the night feeds etc I am grateful for my two beautiful babies though. xx



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2016, 11:07 AM   46
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I am a little sad to be done. My daughter is starting to outgrow her infant stuff and it's making me sad that I will never use them again for another child. But I know we have to stop at 2 because my son is special needs and financially we wouldn't be able to afford more than 2 (daycare costs are a killer). So I just have to force myself to accept it I guess.



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Old Jun 22nd, 2016, 10:54 AM   47
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I'm content to be done. We have a 6 year old and a 4 month old, both girls, and I'm comforted in the knowledge that I'll never have to deal with pregnancy labour or newborns again!

Being a family of 4 works perfectly for us. I always wanted 2 and was never bothered with gender either way. Just the thought of adding a 3rd into our unit as it is now feels weird. I'm not saying it's wrong to have or want more than 2 but for me, I just can't imagine a 3rd child. Feels odd.



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2016, 11:19 AM   48
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I also cannot imagine a 3rd child our unit of 4 is perfect but I do feel jealous of our friends and a little saddened it is odd



 
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I also cannot imagine a 3rd child our unit of 4 is perfect but I do feel jealous of our friends and a little saddened it is odd
I can completely understand this feeling. I have three, which is what we always wanted, and the balance feels right now and I'm excited to see my 3 kids grow up together. I don't want to add a fourth child to the mix, yet I'm still so so sad that I'll never be pregnant, give birth or have a brand new baby again. It's a weird set of feelings that contradict each other.



 
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i loved pregnancy and all the exciting stages, but truthfully i feel so content being "done". i love this new chapter of my life



 
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