I'm really struggling. I've given up a lot of 'me' (socialising/ gym/ holidays etc) to have my children. I hide behind them I know that. I could have another and still feel like this, I suspect that's what would happen. I worry about what will happen to me when they start to grow up and don't need me as much....
I absolutely loved having my 'me time' back as my big 2 got bigger. That said, I was 17 and 18 when I had my first too and very much still in the maiden stage of life. As I head towards my 30s now (I am 29) I actually really feel content with the motherhood thing. I View 30- 45 as mother and then I think things get a bit crazy again with pre menopause. I am ecstatic I have had a last chance to do this, In a stage of life where I feel more comfortable with myself, with my own wants an needs. I also spent my 20s finding what I wanted and I do parent different now as a a result.
A few years ago, I was 100% sure I wanted no more. I wanted to enjoy life more and be me. I was never ever broody!
Last 2 yrs I have been incredibly broody, I cant believe life thre such a spanner! This is definitely my last and as long as all goes ok then I will have to concentrate again on the next stage, its scary though. To surrender to being 'done'. xx
I just found this thread as I was going through BnB reminiscing and being sad at work on my son's first birthday.
I always wanted three. My husband was on board with that until we had my daughter...she was a wonderful baby but she was such a game changer that I had to convince him to try for two.
I secretly hoped that my son would be a girl so I could maybe convince him to try for a third as he really wanted a son. That obviously didn't happen and I am so in love with son and wouldn't trade him for anything BUT I was sad as I knew my husband would be more adamant about being done, (which he was and is).
We talked it over and because he was so done I agreed to him having a vasectomy. That happened at the end of May. He needs to go hand in his SA in the next few weeks. We have not been overly careful re pulling out, etc and part of my wonders if I'm secretly hoping for a miracle pregnancy???
Like everyone else here has said, we are better off if we stop having kids now. I just got a new and more senior job so becoming pregnant anytime soon would not be great. My husband doesn't want anymore and I didn't want to be in a position where I "tricked" him or pressured him into a third. I also didn't love being pregnant as much the second time and felt guilty I couldn't do as much with my daughter. But then my daughter will ask me if she can have a baby sister and my heart breaks.
I guess whatever will be will be. I do feel beyond blessed and lucky to have the two that I have now!
My daughter is "broody" too. Her best friend is my best friend's daughter and my best friend is planning to have another child soon with her partner and her daughter has picked up on it and keeps talking about getting a new baby soon and now Lily wants one too. She is constantly asking for another baby but since I would love one and it's DH who doesn't want another I just tell her to "tell daddy" haha
Although I don't want to be, my square is complete. Plans were to have another in 2020 but it was broken dreams. DD1 wants a little brother and DD2 absolutely adores babies, I tell her to ask daddy but daddy says no . They're 2 completely different characters and I love them both for their differences but inside I'm not fully "complete", something is missing. We're moving into a bigger house end of 2016/early 2017 to accommodate what we've got now, we're going for driving licenses and looking at cars now. I'd love to take both to disneyland once DD2 is a little older to remember which I guess a third would restrict us due to age gaps and I'd feel guilty for taking DD's but never having the chance to take number 3.
It may be early days for us but knowing our family is complete fills me with excitement. I'm excited to see what life will hold for us, without the stresses and worries of ttc, pregnancies, loses etc. Closing that chapter of my life feels good. Xx
I'm becoming more and more excited about the future. I'd love to finally aleep through the night again. My two are now actually playing together and I love it. They will independently find games to play. They have such great imagination and are so caring and loving towards each other. ( I know that won't always be, so I'm enjoying it while it lasts)
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