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Old Nov 4th, 2015, 06:12 AM   1
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How do you feel about your family being complete?


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I feel good about it some days, others not so much! If my DH said "let's have another" I'd have my clothes off in a flash but realistically I know 3 is a good number for us. And there's no way he'd ever say that! I long to be pregnant, even though 6 weeks ago I was pregnant and so over it; I think I'll always be broody for pregnancy.
How do you feel? Happy to be done with ttc/pregnancy/waiting to find your children, sad (), or in-between?



 
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Old Nov 4th, 2015, 14:06 PM   2
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I think there's a part of me that's upset. It's going to be final for us (oh is having a vesectomy) but there's a bigger part of me that's glad. I guess I just want to enjoy our family now. Watch them grow, not to be in the baby pause status if that makes sense. I don't want to be pregnant again, I don't want to go through it all and labour, mentally preparing my self for that and the newborn stage which I find mentally hard. Plus it's logical,I only really wanted 2, I sometimes worry how we will afford them all in the future. It's hard having three, I can't imagine having a fourth. A little sad I'll never have a girl, as much as I love my boys, I'd love a girl. But I can't guarantee that.
Plus it's 2 years and counting since I last slept through the night.......



 
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Old Nov 4th, 2015, 14:56 PM   3
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I'm just happy. The idea of ttc, loses, pregnancy, a baby that isn't Orion, him not being my baby etc all terrify me. I feel so complete since Orion



 
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Old Nov 4th, 2015, 19:00 PM   4
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Several weeks ago I was fine with being done and my dh getting vasectomy, but with it being tomorrow morning I am not. I am very sad and feel like I'm in mourning for the babies I've lost as I've had 5 miscarriages 3 of which have been since my last son was born and for the baby I will never have. Especially seeing since I always saw myself having a daughter and won't ever get that chance. I've been crying most of the time since last night. My dh doesn't get it. I wish he would have just got the vas back after I had Len like he was going to do before chickening out so I wouldn't have had 3 more losses and wanting one last rainbow.



 
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Old Nov 5th, 2015, 02:00 AM   5
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I'm sorry hun xx



 
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Old Nov 5th, 2015, 05:49 AM   6
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I'm waiting for my date for my tubes clipping. I'm so over the baby stage, my youngest is 2. Some days my gut aches like it did after our losses and other days I can breath freely. Bit in limbo right now. Just waiting for the op date and I'll probably feel completely different.



 
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Old Nov 5th, 2015, 05:51 AM   7
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I struggle sometimes, and the only way I manage to deal with that feeling is just by being selfish really, and think about the things I couldn't do if we had another. This year I threw myself into projects to take me away from it.

I know, deep down, in my heart, we are complete as we are. But my mum had my sister 16 years after my brother, and that plays around in my head.



 
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Old Nov 5th, 2015, 06:04 AM   8
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We've said that if in 10 years we regret the decision, we are going to foster or adopt. Its to dangerous for me to carry another.



 
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Old Nov 5th, 2015, 08:00 AM   9
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At the moment I am ok, I think it being our decision helps as opposed to one of us saying no.

I actually think my husband is going to be more broody than me.

On the whole I just feel comfortable with my 4, i didn't ever think that would happen but I do. Youngest is 18 months so not sure how ill feel when she is older.



 
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Old Nov 5th, 2015, 09:26 AM   10
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Several weeks ago I was fine with being done and my dh getting vasectomy, but with it being tomorrow morning I am not. I am very sad and feel like I'm in mourning for the babies I've lost as I've had 5 miscarriages 3 of which have been since my last son was born and for the baby I will never have. Especially seeing since I always saw myself having a daughter and won't ever get that chance. I've been crying most of the time since last night. My dh doesn't get it. I wish he would have just got the vas back after I had Len like he was going to do before chickening out so I wouldn't have had 3 more losses and wanting one last rainbow.
. I hope that once its done it is easier to accept not having any more and move on. I'm sure I'll feel like this once DH gets his vasectomy. If it really feels like the wrong decision maybe you could ask your DH to delay? I know it probably seems too late but if you think you'll regret it then I would



 
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