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Old Nov 9th, 2015, 05:25 AM   1
Eleanor ace
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How do you cope with your family being complete when you don't feel done?


... or you do but you feel sad about it?

I thought it might be helpful to share things that help us with coming to terms/seeing the bright side of being done adding to our families.
Some things which help me:

* Planning a holiday which we couldn't do while I was pregnant/with a baby
* Packing away (mentally atm but physically later on) baby things so it feels more real
* Taking up a hobby which would be hard to do with a baby
* Working on getting my body into shape now that I can maintain it and I'm not thinking "there's not much point when I'll hopefully be pregnant soon and unable to maintain it".
* Ditto buying clothes which fit!

What do you do, or plan to do?



 
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Old Nov 9th, 2015, 15:58 PM   2
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I am looking forward to some free time when they go school lol I don't have time to exercise or draw, or generally look after myself! I will have to work a few mornings, but don't plan to go too mad so to give myself some me time. That will help A LOT with not having a third baby!



 
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Old Nov 10th, 2015, 11:58 AM   3
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... or you do but you feel sad about it?

I thought it might be helpful to share things that help us with coming to terms/seeing the bright side of being done adding to our families.
Some things which help me:

* Planning a holiday which we couldn't do while I was pregnant/with a baby
* Packing away (mentally atm but physically later on) baby things so it feels more real
* Taking up a hobby which would be hard to do with a baby
* Working on getting my body into shape now that I can maintain it and I'm not thinking "there's not much point when I'll hopefully be pregnant soon and unable to maintain it".
* Ditto buying clothes which fit!

What do you do, or plan to do?
All of the above!! I'm so sad we can't practically have another baby but all of these reasons are the ones I've thought of that are keeping me sane. My youngest two are also really bad sleepers so I'm constantly exhausted which even my oh doesn't understand so I'm looking forward to getting some reasonable sleep again



 
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Old Nov 11th, 2015, 16:07 PM   4
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Sleep defo sleep! Knowing the tantruming toddler years will end. That teething will end. No more weaning, no more nappies.
Feeling more confident when leaving them with someone, being a bit more selfish.



 
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Old Nov 12th, 2015, 01:59 AM   5
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Sleep defo sleep! Knowing the tantruming toddler years will end. That teething will end. No more weaning, no more nappies.
Feeling more confident when leaving them with someone, being a bit more selfish.
Oh yes sleep!!! My sleep is still mucked up. And I can't sleep with DH in bed I have to co sleep with one of the twins in their room (we have a single bed in there, I don't get in their cots )



 
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Old Nov 15th, 2015, 20:09 PM   6
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I look forward to the possibility of becoming a grandmother soon (but not too soon as DS is only 13)



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2015, 17:14 PM   7
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Although this isn't my situation now, it was something I'd come to terms with before Orion. In my case it was time and too much heartbreak. But mostly time!



 
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Old Nov 18th, 2015, 05:46 AM   8
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I look forward to the possibility of becoming a grandmother soon (but not too soon as DS is only 13)
Oh my gosh this is something that keeps me going when I think about no more babies, and my eldest is only 4



 
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I can't wait to be a grandmother



 
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Old Nov 18th, 2015, 09:09 AM   10
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I've told DH if I'm anything like MIL when I'm a grandmother to please shoot me I too think of being a grandmother, I am already sorting what toys I want to keep for the day



 
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