I'm sorry for all the struggles you ladies are going through.
I'm in a similar situation. I had my kids with my ex, I met my current partner a year ago on online dating and specifically put on my profile that I wanted kids. His said he might want kids. But now things are more serious he's told me that he doesn't want any. Sadly he lost his young dd several years ago so I can understand his reasoning and why he doesn't want any (he's worried her health was possibly something hereditary) but I'm a little upset that I feel a decision is being made about my future and family that is out of my control. I always wanted 3-4 kids and I am so lucky to be blessed with a son and a daughter. But I too worry that I'll end up resenting him, equally if we did have another child he may end up resenting me so it's hard to deal with the issue.
It seems something that's not massively important now, and it may be that in a couple of years I may not want any more kids (id definitely wait at least 2-3 years if we ever did decide to) so it's not that I feel I absolutely need another child. I guess I'm just struggling with the fact that I have no say in the matter.
What a difficult situation to be in I hope you find peace with whatever decision you both make x
I was , oh was adamant no more after 1 . We had lots of rows and tears about it as I felt so strongly about giving our son a sibling . It was very important to me . I'm now 37 weeks pregnant . I think I put too much pressure on oh at the begining . I tried really hard to step back from it for a while , didn't mention it for 6 months and looks like it worked .
I know I would have really resented him and not sure how we would have ended up . I would have had a had time letting go
I personally could have another one, however, me and OH are 20 years apart (I'm 24 and he's 44) and he's done after this one. I can't say that I blame him! Just putting myself in his shoes and realizing how much older he is and I've accepted it. At least I got 2 little ones.
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