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Old Feb 12th, 2016, 13:13 PM   1
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Positives of having a complete family


My family is complete, I still get broody though and sad knowing we won't have another. I thought it would be nice for people to write the positives of being a complete family. Help us broody mummy's put it into perspective!
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Being able to focus on my career without thinking when will I be back on maternity leave etc.

I want to say getting more sleep but that hasn't happened yet!



 
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Old Feb 16th, 2016, 06:32 AM   2
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For me (and I'm not 100% sure that I feel my family is complete yet, but my husband is 100% sure, so that's probably it), I feel that there are a lot positives for me in having a complete family:

*I no longer have to endure all of the pokey blood draws and other prenatal appointments...I'm needle-phobic, and this was torturous for me.
*I no longer have to worry about miscarriage and pregnancy loss...after suffering from miscarriages and anxiety during pregnancy, I feel fortunate that I won't have to put myself through this again.
*I don't have to worry that something is wrong with the baby, due to my age...I'm now 37, and I was of "advanced maternal age" with both of my children, which meant a lot of extra monitoring, genetics testing, etc. The two children I've been blessed with are fine thus far, and I know I'd stress out during a third pregnancy.
*Financially, we're doing pretty well, and a third baby would definitely impede that.
*We're finally sleeping again! Yay!!!!!
*We finally have a good routine and schedule going as a family.



 
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Old Feb 19th, 2016, 05:02 AM   3
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only having to go through everything once.



 
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Old Feb 19th, 2016, 08:44 AM   4
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My two have started playing properly together it's lovely to watch. No throwing another into the equation!



 
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Old Feb 19th, 2016, 14:49 PM   5
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Being able to forward plan, like book age appropriate activities or holidays for X amount of people in advance. That means it's cheaper and you've got time to pay stuff off.

For me it's the no more years of trying and loss after loss. It's knowing I'll never have to bury another baby or go through the trauma of a pregnancy after recurrent and late losses.

It's (eventually) having children who are some what independent. You can pee on your own, have a bath and shave in peace. Yes they're the big things



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2016, 03:42 AM   6
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Knowing that when DS3 is potty trained I'll be finally done with nappies (I've had at least 1 baby in nappies for 5+ years now)

Anymore kids and they won't fit in the car

When DS3 goes to nursery they'll finally all be at the same school setting

Any more babies and we'd have to move house

We can look forward to family holidays without having to put it on hold for another pregnancy

I can aim at getting my body back



 
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Old Feb 21st, 2016, 12:05 PM   7
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All great positives, can't wait for no more nappies!!!

And just thought of another- getting rid of bulky baby toys bath etc that you don't throw away between babies



 
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Old Feb 21st, 2016, 16:25 PM   8
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We'd need a bigger car

We'd need a bigger house

No more nappies

No more toddler tantrums

No more planning our days around naps and if the nap goes wrong it throws the whole day off

Gaining that independence back

Gaining my body back

Not having to deal with my mixed emotions about breastfeeding

No more fear of pnd

No more storage of baby stuff

Watching my family grow

Sleep! X10000000



 
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Old Feb 21st, 2016, 16:27 PM   9
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I'd want another home birth, but because I technically heamoragged (trouble delivering my placenta) with ds3 I'd have to fight for it which I'm just awful at doing so would be stuck in hospital again..



 
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Old Sep 9th, 2016, 13:40 PM   10
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My youngest has started nursery school this week and started off well but been abit upset the past 2 days which is really heartbreaking. I don't want to have to go through that a 3rd time.

I often think to myself these days, I'm glad I don't have to do such an such again/anymore, or I'm glad I only have 2, some of these things are-

When buying there clothes- expensive enough for 2 to have nice clothes

Hair cuts

Uniform shopping

The thought of 3 lots of homework and school trips after school activities, friends birthdays etc is overwhelming!

Food shopping

Booking holidays and day trips

Meals out

everyone sleeps well majority of the time

Been able to do older kid stuff- ice skating, cinema etc

Not having to do weaning again, I'm terrified of choking

Getting easier to go out

The 'perks' of having only 2- tickets, 1 parent been able to take 2 to give other a break etc

There relationship, there best friends have some similar interests we can do things they both enjoy

There's no doubt more but these are off the top of my head :-)



 
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