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Old Mar 21st, 2016, 23:44 PM   1
dizzy65
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How do you know?


How do you Know you are done? I go back in forth between I feel so done, I have 2 active boys one who is almost 6 the other almost 3.. and days I am like I so could not imagin having another one, to days where I think I would really like to add to our family. I know DH is really done and I don't think he will ever budge on wanting to try again.. So How did you know you were done and feel comfortable saying that you are done? Thanks for the advice



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2016, 23:46 PM   2
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We said we were done at two. Hubby has a DD from a previous wife. We have two boys 13 months apart. Lol. Then oops. And now we are due in June again. And planning one or two more. Haha. I think unless the answer every single time someone asks is 'we are totally done' and you know that in your heart, then don't take options off the table



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2016, 08:12 AM   3
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I chop and change my mind so I have no idea!!

I'm so busy and overwhelmed at times with our two girls ( 5 and 22 months) and I have no desire for a boy, but the thought of never having another baby in the house and the joy they bring makes me so sad at times. As our youngest grows I keep thinking that this is the last time for all those toddler " firsts" were are experiencing and I can't bring myself to get rid of our baby gear :/ I'm 35 next week and I'm just not sure I could do it all again so I'm pretty sure I'm done. But it doesn't stop all those feelings, I think its normal to be sad about your last one, no matter how many u have. Dh on the other hand would love more lol!



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Old Mar 28th, 2016, 06:18 AM   4
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I am done 100%. You just "know". As soon as I had my 3rd, I no longer ever felt the need to have another. After my second, I knew I wasn't done. My youngest is 20months now, and I still don't ever feel like I could have another. I'm just so done lol. I've asked to be sterilised but they r very reluctant as I'm 26. I'm def not sad I'm having no more, I'm happy that I have 3 and they are growing and healthy.. They are getting older so can do more with them ect... So yeah hard to explain, but I know in my heart I'm done



 
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Old Apr 20th, 2016, 14:21 PM   5
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Same as above after my third I just knew I didn't want another! I was still broody after my girls and knew I'd like another in future, I always wanted 3 children from a young age and also wanted to see what odds were on us having a boy, which my last child was.
I've gone from people asking if we'd have more and thinking possibly I'd have another to out right laughing at people for even asking me. My life is so hectic right now with everything I need to keep on top of and having two toddlers and school runs and everything else I couldn't even comprehend the thought of welcome another child in to our lives I think 3 is my limit. I absolutely admire women who have large families and seem to keep everything in order and get everything done but I know that's just not me, I'd sink with any more!!
OH had his vasectomy last March, so it's out of the question now anyways and there's no way anyones going back down there to mess about with him he's been scarred for life by the experience lol

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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 14:53 PM   6
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I think if you have to ask the question then you're not done, or at least not sure if you're done. I have 2, one of each and I am so done the thought of having another makes me shudder lol. I feel lucky to experince both a son and a daughter but I wouldve been done if I'd had 2 of the same too. I know it in my heart and it drives me mad when people say oh you never know or that's what i said. I know!! I feel happy and excited to look to the future as a family of four.



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Old Apr 28th, 2016, 12:47 PM   7
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Pp I could copy and paste ur exact comment. We are a family of four and I'm madly in love with every aspect of my family of FOUR. I am so done it sounds harsh when I talk about it. I had an ok pg 2nd time round. My little girl is a dream baby. Slept throw from 3 months old. And my lb adores her. Our family is complete and perfect. The idea of another scares the sh** out of me. I'm terrified of having another and can't say it's bcos I've had a nightmare experience bcos I haven't. I'm just so certain there will be no more babies to my family. Like ppl previous have sed when u know u know
If ur doubting and questioning then maybe ur not ready to shut the door on the adventure of another.



 
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Old May 5th, 2016, 12:29 PM   8
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I guess because when I think of having to take a pregnancy test again I'd hope for a negative not a positive if that makes sense?! I don't ever think oh I wonder if my coil has failed, if I'm a day late I'm like "f**k why am I late!" I have 2 of the same gender and I suppose there's always that outside pressure assuming you will try once more, even I felt like that the first 2 years, but for the last 6 months I've been certain we're done, my boys are 5 and 2- by the end of this year we will be done with nappies, full priced childcare, lack of talking etc etc and that's something I'm looking forward to and couldn't go back. That said I'm 28 and wouldn't do anything permanent to stop pregnancy just yet, I think that would in turn make me question myself, so I'm done, but maybe not done done ha.



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Old May 5th, 2016, 12:44 PM   9
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I am pregnant with baby 3 and know deep down we are nowhere near done- even though I am TIRED and our house is overflowing with people and stuff, I just KNOW we will have 1-2 more after this one...

I have friends who are done and they are, like, DONE. There is absolutely no question in their minds. I think it just feels like that! I know I'm nowhere near there though... Yikes!



 
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Old May 5th, 2016, 16:44 PM   10
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I want anooooother!!!!! I feel so selfish I've got three beautiful children already. I really can't help it though and I don't know if we had another I wouldn't feel this way again!



 
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