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Old Nov 26th, 2016, 15:04 PM   1
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How do you know?


How do you know it's the right decision that your family is complete?



 
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Old Nov 26th, 2016, 15:07 PM   2
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Sorry just came across a thread like this



 
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Old Nov 26th, 2016, 15:11 PM   3
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Pure joy and contentment. If u see ur future with the possibility of more children then ur not decided. The what ifs and maybes are still niggling at you then maybe you need to take time to really think about your families future. Personally I feel completely finished. I dream about our future and it's the four of us. I don't see anymore babies in my arms or another big belly. The next babies I see or dream about are my grandchildren if I ever get to be that lucky. Hope this helps



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Old Nov 26th, 2016, 15:40 PM   4
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For me I still like the idea of more children but I am 37 and have had a rough pregnancy with HG. We already have an almost 2 year old and a 3.5 year old. We also had a MC before this pregnancy that almost killed me (literally). Honestly I think my body has had enough. I would like 10 children but that is not realistic so we have to stop somewhere. Before I felt that calling our family complete was the sensible choice but I had the overwhelming desire that I wanted more. Now part of me still likes the idea of more but I feel like I am able to be content with 3 and I am quite looking forward to settling down with the family we have and making the most of enjoying them before they are all grown up. As much as I love pregnancy and babies it is hard work and I feel like I miss out on my LOs sometimes. If I was younger I think I would leave it a couple of years and then might decide on another one or two . But by then I will be in my 40s so I think I am going to be happy with 3 .



 
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Old Nov 28th, 2016, 10:58 AM   5
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Personally I would never assume, but be happy in that moment x



 
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Old Nov 30th, 2016, 17:45 PM   6
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I'm still preggo with our second and won't make the final decision until after baby is weaned (so I can see how I really feel about no more babies). However, this pregnancy has been incredibly difficult compared to my last. With my first, I always knew I wanted more. But this time I have felt such peace about this being the last one and solidified it with how hard physically and emotionally it's been. When I picture my life in the future, it's the four of us and my heart feels full and whole.

My thought is that if you're still questioning it, then don't close that door until you feel it in your soul that you have all the babies you were meant to have.



 
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Old Dec 9th, 2016, 15:21 PM   7
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I'm completely 50/50



 
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Old Jan 8th, 2017, 19:56 PM   8
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I'm a single mum and after a very traumatic birth it has put me off wanting anymore. I have never been a broody person, never thought about kids before I had my son. Don't get me wrong, i love him to pieces... but for me I feel complete. It would take someone extremely special to get me wanting anymore.



 
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Old Jan 9th, 2017, 07:53 AM   9
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Stalking....

I thought we were complete.

I felt a little sad at never seeing a bfp again, but otherwise I was happy & done. Oh had mentioned that he "wouldn't mind" another. & that's got me thinking.

Pros - love babies, love toddlers. Would love another little one in the house now I think about it.

Cons - I have pcos so trouble conceiving. I had a difficult pregnancy with ds. I have long term health problems that complicate pregnancy & child birth. I hate not having a full nights sleep (not that I remember one!!). I have no family support so I drag ds to everything dd does. One day I'll have to take her to all of his activities too. Holidays & days out etc would cost so much!

But all that love a baby brings to a family might just be worth it? I really REALLY don't know!

Don't think this has answered OP's question. Sorry!



 
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Old Jan 9th, 2017, 11:07 AM   10
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I think I am done as much as I would love the excitement of a BFP again and miss being pregnant and newborns - I am complete with my two - I think just part of my being is being broody I have always loved babies

DH said to me last night what about #3 and I was like Nope wasn't even a doubt in my mind so I know I am done

However, if a newborn comes my way you will be sure I will be having cuddles



 
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