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Old Apr 10th, 2017, 16:42 PM   1
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Think im done but not sure

So the other day oh agreed that in a couple of years we'd start trying again after a few months of me saying id like another. Well the day he agreed i was overjoyed but now ive kind of got cold feet about it all, we have a 6yr old and a 3yr old. We're no where near financially ready for one anytime soon so the 2yr wait is a must but i worry that by then our 2 will be at an age where life will finally be a breeze.

I think most of my longing for another comes from the fact that im only 25 i cant imagine never doing it all again i feel like im still far too young to stop but i know its logical to stop at 2. Im kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place, i know if we went on to have another id have to battle with my guilt on the other 2 for the first couple of years, spend say the first year struggling to have the energy for all 3 what with the early morning school runs, sleepless nights etc. But then i also worry that if i never have another I might be living the rest of my life feeling somewhat incomplete.

We've agreed that we will come back to it at the beginning of next year so i guess i have plenty of time to think about it. Sorry ive rambled on a bit! Anyone else in similar situation? Or been in a similar situation and can share their story?

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Old Apr 18th, 2017, 06:07 AM   2
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Following this post because I too feel unsure if I'm done or not. The goal posts have kept moving for us as we had our 1st in 2005 and I had experienced traumatic birth and then it played a massive part on my mental health so for years we were back and forth over if we would have a 2nd. Eventually in 2014 we had our 2nd which was a massive 9 year gap. So we wanted to have a 3rd closer in age and we did 4 months ago with an exact 27 month gap between them. I originally before having my 1st only wanted 2 kids but that changed to 3 and now out of the blue when I thought we were totally done I'm crazily back and forth over having a 4th! I'm really not sure if having another is right for us but it's not something we need to decide straight away.

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