Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old Apr 23rd, 2017, 16:05 PM   11
mitchnorm
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Bagshot UK
Posts: 4,422
Thank you....I saw that group but felt a bit of a fraud joining when it stated 'by choice'. Although I wanted another and unfortunately lost 5 babies along the way I still feel that we made a positive choice to stop ttc and choose to stick with one. So maybe I will join.

Xx



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Apr 23rd, 2017, 16:20 PM   12
babyv13
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,321
there are people on it who have similar circumstances where they aren't strictly 'by choice', so it definitely doesn't exclude you! its full of positivity!



 
Status: Offline
 
Old May 10th, 2017, 14:47 PM   13
krissie328
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Idaho
Posts: 8,908
How are you ladies doing today?

We had a huge talk on Saturday and we have decided we are for sure OAD. It has been such a huge relief to know that decision has been made. I feel like that part that was weighing me down is now lifted. I think all along I wanted to be done but just felt like it wasn't what DH wanted. Now that we have talked I feel so much better.

I also joined a FB group. It is called One and Done: A group for parents of an only child. I have found it is very comforting to know many people struggle with these thoughts and feelings.



 
Status: Offline
 
Old May 10th, 2017, 17:21 PM   14
babyv13
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,321
aw so glad to hear that krissie! i felt a relief when i made the decision too, and my security in the decision is getting stronger by the day i'm sure it's even more a weight off your shoulders given the LTTTC!

i'm in a different fb group but i'm going to join that one too now cos i really love having only child positivity filling up my newsfeed, makes me feel good

my DD has had chicken pox this week so has been off nursery, it's actually been so lovely spending time together in the house because we've got nowhere to be. i've got my final exams though so it has meant i've had very little time to study which is a bit stressful. definitely less stressful than it would have been if i had more than one child though!



 
Status: Offline
 
Old May 14th, 2017, 14:46 PM   15
mitchnorm
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Bagshot UK
Posts: 4,422
Quote:
Originally Posted by krissie328 View Post
How are you ladies doing today?

We had a huge talk on Saturday and we have decided we are for sure OAD. It has been such a huge relief to know that decision has been made. I feel like that part that was weighing me down is now lifted. I think all along I wanted to be done but just felt like it wasn't what DH wanted. Now that we have talked I feel so much better.

I also joined a FB group. It is called One and Done: A group for parents of an only child. I have found it is very comforting to know many people struggle with these thoughts and feelings.
So glad you are now at peace with your decision. Sounds a carbon copy of my situation....I felt i needed another for DH and daughter but she never asks for a sibling and it turns out hubby is happy with one

I am on 3 different groups....one and done, one and done not by choice (might leave this one....longer we have stopped ttc the more silly it seems to stay there) and one and done by choice...lovely bunch xx



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Jul 23rd, 2017, 15:57 PM   16
babyv13
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,321
congratulations krissie!

hope you are well mitchnorm



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Jul 28th, 2017, 18:04 PM   17
krissie328
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Idaho
Posts: 8,908
Quote:
Originally Posted by babyv13 View Post
congratulations krissie!

hope you are well mitchnorm
Haha! Yep as soon as we decided to be oad I got pregnant. I was literally waiting for my period to start so I could go get an iud fitted.



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Aug 23rd, 2017, 21:57 PM   18
daneuse27
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Canada
Posts: 3,443
Hi ladies. Hope its alright for me to join this thread.

My LO is turning 5 years old tomorrow and its a bittersweet feeling. I had her as a single mom (her dad is involved, but we're not together.) 5 years ago, I think I envisioned myself with a new partner and maybe a 2nd child. But here it is still, just her and I.

I love being a mom, even many aspects of being a single mom. She sees me as her best friend, and seems to really enjoy living with me. We've travelled together a lot too, which would be harder to do with more than 1 child. But it has also been very hard work and Im not sure if Im up for doing it all over again when she's into her pre-teens (because thats how old she'll be if I ever do manage to get married and be able to consider having a second.) Maybe Ill change my mind but for now I feel like one is all I can handle.

My only guilt is her not having a sibling. Thats really the only reason Id ever want to do it again. I love babies, and when I see them I get reminiscent of when my daughter was that age. But I never feel like I crave doing it again. Im just glad that I had the amazing experience of doing it once.

My daughter is very, very social and very active/strong willed, so Im hoping this means she will make close friends and get involved in a lot of things, so her schedule will always be full and she won't regret that she doesn't have a sibling. Thats my hope anyway.



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Sep 17th, 2017, 16:21 PM   19
babyv13
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,321
Quote:
Originally Posted by daneuse27 View Post
Hi ladies. Hope its alright for me to join this thread.

My LO is turning 5 years old tomorrow and its a bittersweet feeling. I had her as a single mom (her dad is involved, but we're not together.) 5 years ago, I think I envisioned myself with a new partner and maybe a 2nd child. But here it is still, just her and I.

I love being a mom, even many aspects of being a single mom. She sees me as her best friend, and seems to really enjoy living with me. We've travelled together a lot too, which would be harder to do with more than 1 child. But it has also been very hard work and Im not sure if Im up for doing it all over again when she's into her pre-teens (because thats how old she'll be if I ever do manage to get married and be able to consider having a second.) Maybe Ill change my mind but for now I feel like one is all I can handle.

My only guilt is her not having a sibling. Thats really the only reason Id ever want to do it again. I love babies, and when I see them I get reminiscent of when my daughter was that age. But I never feel like I crave doing it again. Im just glad that I had the amazing experience of doing it once.

My daughter is very, very social and very active/strong willed, so Im hoping this means she will make close friends and get involved in a lot of things, so her schedule will always be full and she won't regret that she doesn't have a sibling. Thats my hope anyway.
hey daneuse sorry for the late reply!

did your DD enjoy her 5th birthday?

I DID feel guilty about my DD not having a sibling, but I don't anymore. I really do think it's possible to help them create a busy life with close friendships without siblings! the only thing I worry about is how shy my DD is, but I'm really outgoing so I'm hoping that I can help a bit. time will tell I guess



 
Status: Offline
 
Reply



Bookmarks

Tags
appreciation , thread

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



SEO by vBSEO