When do people stop asking?

socitycourty · Dec 20th, 2012, 09:16 AM

I find it incredibly annoying that people who I run into, family members we don't see often, etc. without fail ask if I'm breastfeeding. I hate it, it makes me uncomfortable. I say no and then leave it but if they ask why then I usually just say she has stomach problems which made it really hard for her. Which is 100% true, but it still pains me to talk about it.

She's eating solids now but I just wonder when will people stop asking? when she's 5? IDK

Eala · Dec 20th, 2012, 09:45 AM

I don't remember people (except HV/GP) asking after Roo turned 1. Roughly, it's been a while

TBH I don't even find people asking me now about Moomin, and she's approx 9 1/2 months. I think it possibly will tail off more and more now your LO is 6 months and onto solids etc

loves_cookies · Dec 20th, 2012, 09:46 AM

My guess is about a year old when the majority of society decides LO's should be on cows milk and turns on those who continue to BF.

socitycourty · Dec 20th, 2012, 09:49 AM

That's true also, many people don't understand extended BF, when I had told my family I wanted to BF for at least a year they thought I was nuts. Well, it didn't work out so at least they don't have to deal with it.

**AtomicPink** · Dec 20th, 2012, 09:51 AM

No-one ever asked me

socitycourty · Dec 20th, 2012, 09:53 AM

I never ask other people either. It just seems like a rude question. But each holiday people have asked me. Also just acquaintances i run into! it's frustrating

jshippie · Dec 20th, 2012, 09:54 AM

I had people asking me all the time with my first baby and even though I wanted to BF I couldn't due to medications I needed to take. Everyone would say to me "well then don't take the medication, BFing is SO much better for your baby" Yea, easier said than done, especially when my dr ordered me to take my medication for MY HEALTH.

My second son had stomach issues as he's lactose intolerant and had to be put on soy formula. I hate that you have to explain yourself and your parenting choices to people!

socitycourty · Dec 20th, 2012, 11:29 AM

Maybe it's a California thing. IDK but I hope people will forget about it soon. My sister also got asked all the time once she went back to work

dizz · Dec 20th, 2012, 13:17 PM

Just ask them ever so sweetly, "Would you find it intrusive if I asked YOU what you do with your breasts?"

I had some completely random old lady stop me in the health centre and ask me - totally out of the blue and not the sort of thing you tend to launch into a conversation with as an opener!

Lady_Bee · Dec 20th, 2012, 14:57 PM

I got asked by other mums all the time in the first months but nobody asks anymore. Sorry you're still getting comments.

Aren't there more interesting things to talk about now?

Dec 20th, 2012, 09:16 AM	#1
socitycourty Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 4,948	When do people stop asking? I find it incredibly annoying that people who I run into, family members we don't see often, etc. without fail ask if I'm breastfeeding. I hate it, it makes me uncomfortable. I say no and then leave it but if they ask why then I usually just say she has stomach problems which made it really hard for her. Which is 100% true, but it still pains me to talk about it. She's eating solids now but I just wonder when will people stop asking? when she's 5? IDK

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Dec 20th, 2012, 09:45 AM	#2
Eala Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Glasgow Posts: 8,444	I don't remember people (except HV/GP) asking after Roo turned 1. Roughly, it's been a while TBH I don't even find people asking me now about Moomin, and she's approx 9 1/2 months. I think it possibly will tail off more and more now your LO is 6 months and onto solids etc

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Dec 20th, 2012, 09:46 AM	#3
loves_cookies Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Wales, UK Posts: 415	My guess is about a year old when the majority of society decides LO's should be on cows milk and turns on those who continue to BF.

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Dec 20th, 2012, 09:49 AM	#4
socitycourty Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 4,948	That's true also, many people don't understand extended BF, when I had told my family I wanted to BF for at least a year they thought I was nuts. Well, it didn't work out so at least they don't have to deal with it.

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Dec 20th, 2012, 09:51 AM	#5
AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 27,906	No-one ever asked me

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Dec 20th, 2012, 09:53 AM	#6
socitycourty Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 4,948	I never ask other people either. It just seems like a rude question. But each holiday people have asked me. Also just acquaintances i run into! it's frustrating

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Dec 20th, 2012, 09:54 AM	#7
jshippie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: boston, ma Posts: 230	I had people asking me all the time with my first baby and even though I wanted to BF I couldn't due to medications I needed to take. Everyone would say to me "well then don't take the medication, BFing is SO much better for your baby" Yea, easier said than done, especially when my dr ordered me to take my medication for MY HEALTH. My second son had stomach issues as he's lactose intolerant and had to be put on soy formula. I hate that you have to explain yourself and your parenting choices to people!

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Dec 20th, 2012, 11:29 AM	#8
socitycourty Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 4,948	Maybe it's a California thing. IDK but I hope people will forget about it soon. My sister also got asked all the time once she went back to work

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Dec 20th, 2012, 13:17 PM	#9
dizz Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 2,408	Just ask them ever so sweetly, "Would you find it intrusive if I asked YOU what you do with your breasts?" I had some completely random old lady stop me in the health centre and ask me - totally out of the blue and not the sort of thing you tend to launch into a conversation with as an opener!

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Dec 20th, 2012, 14:57 PM	#10
Lady_Bee Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 1,526	I got asked by other mums all the time in the first months but nobody asks anymore. Sorry you're still getting comments. Aren't there more interesting things to talk about now?

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